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Question: This is kind of an awkward!.!.!.!?
I'm eighteen years old and have been gradually getting over feeling the need to injure myself!. It's been, and remains, a tough thing to overcome, as I am eight years into this!. I find it very difficult to talk about and even writing this is stressful for me!.
Anyways, on with the issue!. A few days ago a coworker of my mother's who I have known for years and love came to me and told me that she recently found out her daughter has been cutting!. To be honest the woman is a bit of an irresponsible mother, and the fact that her daughter is doing this didn't shock me at all!.
We talked about it for awhile, mainly it was her venting because I lock up whenever this topic comes up!. Then she asked me to talk to her daughter about this!. And I sat there and looked at her for a long time as she practically begged me to!. I said yes!.
I do not know what to say to this girl!. She's just started, which is good!. My therapist suggested maybe showing her some scars and telling her about my times in treatment facilities!. I feel absolutely uncomfortable showing her any of my scars and it's hard for me to talk about the treatment too!.
Any advice as to how or what I can talk to her about!? Do you think showing her what the result of what she is doing now will turn out to be (by showing her my scars) will have any positive effect on her!?
Thank you in advance!.
Kae!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Anyways, on with the issue!. A few days ago a coworker of my mother's who I have known for years and love came to me and told me that she recently found out her daughter has been cutting!. To be honest the woman is a bit of an irresponsible mother, and the fact that her daughter is doing this didn't shock me at all!.
We talked about it for awhile, mainly it was her venting because I lock up whenever this topic comes up!. Then she asked me to talk to her daughter about this!. And I sat there and looked at her for a long time as she practically begged me to!. I said yes!.
I do not know what to say to this girl!. She's just started, which is good!. My therapist suggested maybe showing her some scars and telling her about my times in treatment facilities!. I feel absolutely uncomfortable showing her any of my scars and it's hard for me to talk about the treatment too!.
Any advice as to how or what I can talk to her about!? Do you think showing her what the result of what she is doing now will turn out to be (by showing her my scars) will have any positive effect on her!?
Thank you in advance!.
Kae!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I'm not sure that you are in a comfortable enough place with regard to your own experience to enable you to give good, useful,safe advice to someone else
I think it was irresponsible of the other girls mother to ask it of you, and I think it was unfair of her to put that responsibility onto you
The girl in question needs professional advice
And maybe in years to come, when you have mastered and overcome your own issues you would make a very good counselor, personal experience is extremely valid and powerful
But at the moment, I think she's asking too much of you, and as you are not comfortable sharing I would say that you have had a chance to think, have decided it's not right for you, and maybe provide details of someone professional you have found beneficial
Very Best of Luck to You, and well done, for not just going ahead and doing something you didn't want to do, you have done the right thing to stop and question if it's right for YOU - and it isn't!
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I think it was irresponsible of the other girls mother to ask it of you, and I think it was unfair of her to put that responsibility onto you
The girl in question needs professional advice
And maybe in years to come, when you have mastered and overcome your own issues you would make a very good counselor, personal experience is extremely valid and powerful
But at the moment, I think she's asking too much of you, and as you are not comfortable sharing I would say that you have had a chance to think, have decided it's not right for you, and maybe provide details of someone professional you have found beneficial
Very Best of Luck to You, and well done, for not just going ahead and doing something you didn't want to do, you have done the right thing to stop and question if it's right for YOU - and it isn't!
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Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with!. If you feel this would be detrimental to your recovery, I suggest you don't do it!. It's terrible that the lady's daughter has started cutting - but you need to focus on healing yourself!. I think it would be a bad thing to try and heal someone else too!. The mother really needs to get her daughter to a therapist, and not put pressure on you to try and save her!.
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i dont really have an answer to this, but i just wanted to say that your very brave to talk about it to this girl and i think she will respect you because of thatWww@Answer-Health@Com
Just be honest with her!. Don't tell her lies or exaggerate!. Make sure she knows that cutting doesn't help anything and share your experiences with her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
tell her that cutting herself isnt gonna solve anything shes is gonna jus leave scars on herself and she will get worse!.!.!.yes maybe showing her ur scars will have a positive affect on her!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.may i ask i u cutted urself!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honestly if you are not comfortable doing this then reconsider it because you could do more harm than good if you don't approach the subject with her the right way!. If you are close to the girl than it should be okay but if you aren't over it then you shouldn 't be put in this situation!. Also you don't know if she even wants anyone to know she does it si won't it make her more upset if you tell her you know !? Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you should show her your scars, because then she'll have an idol to look up to!. And it would giveher hope that she's not the only one who's doing self harm!. I know its insanely iffy on expressing this to her!. But its reality and you can help another person stop doing it to themself!. And just say that when you get older you're going to have scars and you're going to be so ashamed of yourself!.
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