Can someone help me with my lack of motivation?!
Question: Can someone help me with my lack of motivation!?
I'm 13 and is in the 8th grade!. Now, back then I always did my homework right after school (and afterschool lunch)!. But, now I really don't want to do this anymore!. I don't want to got through this school and do all this work!. I mean, people always say that homework helps you learn and good grades gets you a good job, a good college, a good career, a lot of money, and ultimately a good life!. But, I don't believe that homework can help me learn that much because I'm already learning stuff from everyday life!. I learn a lot more from the internet or my friends or my experiences that this fricken homework! I have a lot of really close friends that I trust with all my heart and that I'll sacrifice my life for!. I completely do not trust my family, which none of them can accept me for who I am or my personal perspectives and views of the world!. But, I care for my friends like my own brothers!. And then, I start thinking to myself, what is the meaning in life!? I mean, society makes it so that you can only get a good life by getting a good career!.!.!. but I mean, I guess I just want to have a good life by living life to its fullest!. I want to just make my life meaningful!.!.!.but I don't feel like I can achieve that by spending my teens constantly overworking myself!. I mean I just don't care for this fricken work!. And!.!.!. I find myself just not doing any work right when I get home!. Instead, I end up taking a nap!. I wake up, and I hang out with my friends because I feel happy around them!. They keep me from getting depressed, lonely, frustrated, stressed, and anxious about life!. I don't have any chores to do!. I don't cook dinner, take out the trash, do the laundry, wash the dishes, or anything!. And yet I still feel so stressed-out all the time and I don't know why!. And after I finished hanging out with my friends, I go home eat dinner, do stuff on the internet like researching psychology or astronomy (things that I'm interested in but are not taught in school!.!.!. until college)!. Or I play a video game or take another nap (I have a sleep debt or something)!. And then, I take a shower and start doing my homework at like midnight!. By the time I finish, it's like 3-5am! I get a bad night's sleep, and then I get up in a bad mood!.!.!. Sometimes, I end up just skipping school if I don't finish all my homework b/c I'm a guy who just can't stand being yelled at or getting in trouble or people getting disappointed in me especially since I used to be a 4!.0 gpa student!. By the time I get back home from school, I fall asleep in bed!.!.!. This becomes a regular cycle!. And the teachers!.!.!. they say that I need to use the weekends for sleeping!.!.!. But the thing is, on Fridays I end up not doing my homework completely even though I tell myself to! It's just, I'm so glad that I'm finally done with going to school for the week!. Then on Saturdays, my friends and I hang out again!. On Sundays, I end up sleeping late again!.
I know I may sound really irresponsible and immature!.!.!. Maybe I'm not getting yelled at as much or getting motivated by my parent!. But I just don't want this anymore!. I don't want to go to school or do my homework or anything!. And yet I have to!. I have to get into a good college and get a good career!.!.!. I have to be there with my classmates and friends so that I graduate too!.!.!. I can't just throw it all away!. I still haven't started high school!. And I'm always so anxious and stressed out about everything!.!.!. about life!.!.!. and other things and yet I don't even know why!?! Why am I so tired of everything!.!.!. I thought I was done with being depressed!.!.!. and I am and yet I'm still so lacking in motivation!.!.!. I guess I'm not the kind of person to sit down or stay in one place doing all this work!. I'm the kind of person to be out there in the world helping other people!.!.!.
But still I can't go on with this!. School is like torture now, and I don't want to deal with it!. I don't know truly why I just don't want to do all this work no matter how much pressure I put in myself!.!.!. But I hate homework, and I hate school no matter how much I remind myself that I did learn alot in my elementary years and that that's how I made the friends I have now!.!.!. I hate it all!.!.!. I just want to be in bed, or watching the stars, viewing the sunset!.!.!. feeling the wind passing by me as I lie down on an open field!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
And I have a geometry project dued tomorrow!. It was actually supposed to be dued today, but I skipped school!.!.!.!. since I was so tired this morning!.!.!. I was hearing the voices of my friends arguing about whether I should go back to sleep or not!. And I haven't even started and it's 4:19 am!.!.!.
I don't exactly know why I'm lacking motivation or exactly what my question is!.!.!. I guess I just need help!.!.!.
I think that in my heart, I feel that there are alternatives to a good life instead of good grades --> good college --> good career/high salary --> lots of money --> good life Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know I may sound really irresponsible and immature!.!.!. Maybe I'm not getting yelled at as much or getting motivated by my parent!. But I just don't want this anymore!. I don't want to go to school or do my homework or anything!. And yet I have to!. I have to get into a good college and get a good career!.!.!. I have to be there with my classmates and friends so that I graduate too!.!.!. I can't just throw it all away!. I still haven't started high school!. And I'm always so anxious and stressed out about everything!.!.!. about life!.!.!. and other things and yet I don't even know why!?! Why am I so tired of everything!.!.!. I thought I was done with being depressed!.!.!. and I am and yet I'm still so lacking in motivation!.!.!. I guess I'm not the kind of person to sit down or stay in one place doing all this work!. I'm the kind of person to be out there in the world helping other people!.!.!.
But still I can't go on with this!. School is like torture now, and I don't want to deal with it!. I don't know truly why I just don't want to do all this work no matter how much pressure I put in myself!.!.!. But I hate homework, and I hate school no matter how much I remind myself that I did learn alot in my elementary years and that that's how I made the friends I have now!.!.!. I hate it all!.!.!. I just want to be in bed, or watching the stars, viewing the sunset!.!.!. feeling the wind passing by me as I lie down on an open field!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
And I have a geometry project dued tomorrow!. It was actually supposed to be dued today, but I skipped school!.!.!.!. since I was so tired this morning!.!.!. I was hearing the voices of my friends arguing about whether I should go back to sleep or not!. And I haven't even started and it's 4:19 am!.!.!.
I don't exactly know why I'm lacking motivation or exactly what my question is!.!.!. I guess I just need help!.!.!.
I think that in my heart, I feel that there are alternatives to a good life instead of good grades --> good college --> good career/high salary --> lots of money --> good life Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
HEY!! i know exactly how u feel! i was the same! ur writing sounds exactly how i am! and im in college1
ur not unmotivated !.!. just growing up!
i believe school isnt everything to life!. ur at that age where jus wanna have some fun! and thats apart of life!
try to stick to doiing ur work and not getting caught up in the drama !.!.!. drama will only bring u down!
theres so much pressure about school and college and money!.!.!. it really sux!.
But follow ur heart!.!. but do the right thing!. Stay in school! and at the least !.!. graduate from highschool! keep on ur work!.!. cuz it'll only make things harder in the long run!
keep ur head high! find things u like to do and do it!
dont stress urself out so much! give urself a pat on the back!. Give urself a day of rest and reflect on all the wonder things u've done!. Dont put so much pressure on urself!.
Your a kid! go HAVE some fun!
Laugh! love! and dont give up!.
I hope i was help! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
ur not unmotivated !.!. just growing up!
i believe school isnt everything to life!. ur at that age where jus wanna have some fun! and thats apart of life!
try to stick to doiing ur work and not getting caught up in the drama !.!.!. drama will only bring u down!
theres so much pressure about school and college and money!.!.!. it really sux!.
But follow ur heart!.!. but do the right thing!. Stay in school! and at the least !.!. graduate from highschool! keep on ur work!.!. cuz it'll only make things harder in the long run!
keep ur head high! find things u like to do and do it!
dont stress urself out so much! give urself a pat on the back!. Give urself a day of rest and reflect on all the wonder things u've done!. Dont put so much pressure on urself!.
Your a kid! go HAVE some fun!
Laugh! love! and dont give up!.
I hope i was help! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think you are unmotivated, I mean, look at all of that stuff you just wrote!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is vital that you get 8 - 9 hrs of sleep every night, or you won't perform well!. See study tips, memory improvement, (and find out which is your learning style, and adapt accordingly) at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris in sections 13, and 41, and start study/homework groups with friends: academics is only one pathway to success, and many people are just not suited to it, so don't stress too much about it!.
Motivation is addressed in section 28, and there is a download at hypnosisdownloads!.com See: "For Most People, College is a Waste of Time" Enter this in the searchbar at http://www!.mercola!.com/ Richard Branson left school at 16, and Winston Churchill was not a well-performed student, and Bill Gates didn't finish college!.
Your future may well be in another field, such as: graphic artist, real estate, cinematography, Feng Shui consultant, landscaping, fashion design, aromatherapist, music industry, photographer, personal trainer/aerobics instructor, etc!. School is about teaching some basics, and keeping students occupied, so adults can work, that's all! Try many things (except drugs, binge drinking, and the more dangerous ones) and develop those areas in which you perform well, or have a natural talents!.
Consider having aptitude tests, vocational guidance, and career counselling, to give you some ideas on what may suit you best!. Ultimately, it is much more important that you be a good person, who helps others when reasonable to do so, and makes a fair contribution to the society which supports him/her, than scholastic achievements!.
Unfortunately, the way society is currently structured, if you want to study astronomy or psychology at college, you will need passing grades!. Otherwise, you may be one of the lucky ones, but the odds are stacked against you!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Motivation is addressed in section 28, and there is a download at hypnosisdownloads!.com See: "For Most People, College is a Waste of Time" Enter this in the searchbar at http://www!.mercola!.com/ Richard Branson left school at 16, and Winston Churchill was not a well-performed student, and Bill Gates didn't finish college!.
Your future may well be in another field, such as: graphic artist, real estate, cinematography, Feng Shui consultant, landscaping, fashion design, aromatherapist, music industry, photographer, personal trainer/aerobics instructor, etc!. School is about teaching some basics, and keeping students occupied, so adults can work, that's all! Try many things (except drugs, binge drinking, and the more dangerous ones) and develop those areas in which you perform well, or have a natural talents!.
Consider having aptitude tests, vocational guidance, and career counselling, to give you some ideas on what may suit you best!. Ultimately, it is much more important that you be a good person, who helps others when reasonable to do so, and makes a fair contribution to the society which supports him/her, than scholastic achievements!.
Unfortunately, the way society is currently structured, if you want to study astronomy or psychology at college, you will need passing grades!. Otherwise, you may be one of the lucky ones, but the odds are stacked against you!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Firstly, from your written 'essay' i think your language skills is good!. You certainly don't have a learning disorder so it's a waste to give up, for no real reason at all!.
In the past when you did your homework straight away, did you suffer from "low motivation", I doubt so!. It is only when you stopped working that you have too much time, then you begin to question!.!. alot!.
You have a poor relationship with your family members and you should get this sorted out as this might also be affecting your motivation in school!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
In the past when you did your homework straight away, did you suffer from "low motivation", I doubt so!. It is only when you stopped working that you have too much time, then you begin to question!.!. alot!.
You have a poor relationship with your family members and you should get this sorted out as this might also be affecting your motivation in school!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can still have fun and still make good grades! I understand where you're coming from though!.!.!. you probably feel as if you're homework/school assignments have nothing to do with whatever you want to do with your life!. And you know what!? You're probably right! But a big part of middle school and high school is busy work!. They basically just want to see if you have the work ethic to go through with the motions!. If you do and make pretty good grades, you can get into a good college- which IS important!. I am not saying it is impossible to get a good job w/o a college education but it is becoming increasingly difficult!. Besides, college is a fun experience and it is something you shouldn't miss out on! Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com