How do i address this problem - should i feel ashamed ?!
Question: How do i address this problem - should i feel ashamed !?
alot of times in my life ive struggled with my self identity, like who am i in my mind !? - the type of person iam!.!.
many times i get confused about how to act towards certain people , whether i like or dislike them!.!.!.!.- like , where ' should ' i come from !? or where ' am i ' coming from !?
like not trusting or liking your own natural responses to things and situations!.
so many times i try to emulate someone else i respect and admire, do what they would do - use their curse words and cuss ess , because mine sound like lame fa gg oty responses, basically trying to be like someone else i respect, adore and admire!.!.
when i find i cant pull it off or do that, or that my vulnerable, unconfident , unsure , self comes through for them to see , i become enraged and aggressive and feel like i want to do the person some damage, smash everything , completly own the person, get aggressive , fight them, attack them etc!.!.
i think its because i have severe low self esteem, and have been made to feel worthless alot in my life by others, bullying and victimisation etc!.!.
in the past ive felt easily undermined and belittled by others, and my responses and curses and retaliations have come out weak and lame!.!. inefficiant or unaffective!.
i fear to say iam still like that, easily manipulated , easily undermined , easily have myself esteem taken away - quick to get aggressive!.
plus i still am unsure of who iam, how to act and where i should come from so for this reason i hang on to someone elses ideology and ways of doing things!.
and im not afraid to admit this!.
how do i deal with this !?
plus thers times i cant control my mind - which puts others at an advantage over me!.
its like i let people dictate or tell me the person ' who iam ' which then in turn makes me feel aggressive and want to start a fight or confront them aggressively!.
btw - im seeking answers and strategies about what im saying here , if you dont have an answer or say go to your gp or doctor or join a church , pray to god etc - dont bother because ill block you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
many times i get confused about how to act towards certain people , whether i like or dislike them!.!.!.!.- like , where ' should ' i come from !? or where ' am i ' coming from !?
like not trusting or liking your own natural responses to things and situations!.
so many times i try to emulate someone else i respect and admire, do what they would do - use their curse words and cuss ess , because mine sound like lame fa gg oty responses, basically trying to be like someone else i respect, adore and admire!.!.
when i find i cant pull it off or do that, or that my vulnerable, unconfident , unsure , self comes through for them to see , i become enraged and aggressive and feel like i want to do the person some damage, smash everything , completly own the person, get aggressive , fight them, attack them etc!.!.
i think its because i have severe low self esteem, and have been made to feel worthless alot in my life by others, bullying and victimisation etc!.!.
in the past ive felt easily undermined and belittled by others, and my responses and curses and retaliations have come out weak and lame!.!. inefficiant or unaffective!.
i fear to say iam still like that, easily manipulated , easily undermined , easily have myself esteem taken away - quick to get aggressive!.
plus i still am unsure of who iam, how to act and where i should come from so for this reason i hang on to someone elses ideology and ways of doing things!.
and im not afraid to admit this!.
how do i deal with this !?
plus thers times i cant control my mind - which puts others at an advantage over me!.
its like i let people dictate or tell me the person ' who iam ' which then in turn makes me feel aggressive and want to start a fight or confront them aggressively!.
btw - im seeking answers and strategies about what im saying here , if you dont have an answer or say go to your gp or doctor or join a church , pray to god etc - dont bother because ill block you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
First of all - You should not feel ashamed!.
I went through that when I was about 22!. It is a problem that you can solve!. It takes time and you did good by expressing yourself!. Kinda felt like you were describing me!. It is like I did not know how to act with certain individuals!. Like cussing, some people don't and I felt so shallow if I cursed in from of them!. I would worry and what to know what they think of me!.
There were certain people that I thought were so cool and had all the friends and made money and he knew what to do with it!. I used to tell myself, if the phone doesn't ring today than that means nobody in the whole world wants to talk to me or be my friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I went through that when I was about 22!. It is a problem that you can solve!. It takes time and you did good by expressing yourself!. Kinda felt like you were describing me!. It is like I did not know how to act with certain individuals!. Like cussing, some people don't and I felt so shallow if I cursed in from of them!. I would worry and what to know what they think of me!.
There were certain people that I thought were so cool and had all the friends and made money and he knew what to do with it!. I used to tell myself, if the phone doesn't ring today than that means nobody in the whole world wants to talk to me or be my friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This book once changed the way I look at life so drastically that I decided to never kill myself!.
Nothing is perfect, by any means, and I am still deeply disturbed!. I can rest assured though that I won't take my own life as I once so desperately wanted to do!.
http://www!.amazon!.co!.uk/Way-Peaceful-War!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Nothing is perfect, by any means, and I am still deeply disturbed!. I can rest assured though that I won't take my own life as I once so desperately wanted to do!.
http://www!.amazon!.co!.uk/Way-Peaceful-War!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well block if you want ! read before you reject the answer ok
you sound like me ALOT i had to see a doctor
it was bipolar and adhd !.i got a guitar and put it all in musicWww@Answer-Health@Com
Who am i to judge you,i'm just another imperfect Human,and i'm comfortable knowing i will never be perfect!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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It may sound cliche but it is an inescapable truth, perception is reality!. Men have been copying each others good traits for centuries from learning how to start a fire to using an iphone!. The first step is to take an honest look at your character, are you a person that is honorable and is concerned on doing the right thing!? If not, working to strengthen your character through self discipline (exercise, eating right) as well as spiritual discipline (volunteer, do something good for a stranger every day) will help you find the right focus!.
The second step is to pick somebody that you admire or think of what type of person you would like to be!. Then, do everything in your power to copy that person's best traits or to work towards being the person that you imagined!. For this you will need conviction so be sure on the choice that you have made!. Let your life choices reflect this every day - remember that small choices add up to a big deal over time!.
Best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The second step is to pick somebody that you admire or think of what type of person you would like to be!. Then, do everything in your power to copy that person's best traits or to work towards being the person that you imagined!. For this you will need conviction so be sure on the choice that you have made!. Let your life choices reflect this every day - remember that small choices add up to a big deal over time!.
Best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
a lot of people do not know who they are, if someone cannot accept you without being their chameleon, then you do not need them!. The best way to find like minded friends is by going to things you enjoy doing!. Emulating someone who you may not agree with is self defeating!. Stop cheating yourself, unload the people you do not like and get on with your life!. Self discovery is how you accomplish this goal, and yo already know what's getting in your way!. A counselor in mental health would not be a bad idea, because you can find the roots of your dissatisfaction!. Good luck and move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
How old are you!? Have you experienced abuse in the past!?
Sit down with yourself and sort a few things out -- see what you would tell a good friend who had the same "problem
This is life-- you can rise far above this -- but you are OK as you are right now becuase you are as priceless and precious as any other person!.
Who do you admire!? Imitate what you like about them -- it's no sin to do that!.
Find some good self-help books ("The power of Positive thinking" and "You can Heal Your Life" are two good ones)
I've been There Done That -- and it's actually quite healthy for you to question yourself and sort things out!.
Wishing you the best -- you are in a race, at your own pace and you will win!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sit down with yourself and sort a few things out -- see what you would tell a good friend who had the same "problem
This is life-- you can rise far above this -- but you are OK as you are right now becuase you are as priceless and precious as any other person!.
Who do you admire!? Imitate what you like about them -- it's no sin to do that!.
Find some good self-help books ("The power of Positive thinking" and "You can Heal Your Life" are two good ones)
I've been There Done That -- and it's actually quite healthy for you to question yourself and sort things out!.
Wishing you the best -- you are in a race, at your own pace and you will win!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Believe me, you're not alone!. I've been through this myself & I too have issues because of low self esteem!. It's all just a matter of how you look at life & how you look at yourself!. You'll figure out your place in this world, as well as the rest of us(those who haven't figured it out yet, like myself)!. Just give it time & be patient!.
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Hope this helped you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I could get on with all sorts of stuff about self-concept and self-image, but I'll try to keep it simple and basic in this narrow space!. A true professional might help--a counselor would be fine; I don't think a psychiatrist may be necessary!.
First, divide the problem into parts, and some of them sound like simple oppositions, but I can assure you that both I and my son have gone through some of these things, and he has bipolar disorder as well!. OK--Recognize that self-concept has to do with WHO you are and want to become, and self-esteem has to do with your sense of self-WORTH, regardless of who you are!. In this case, a faulty self-concept leads to behavior that invites taunts and bullying, which affect's your self-worth or self-esteem!.
Self -concept, the sense of "who I am," is both simple and complex!. In one sense it means "I am me and nobody else" (whoops! there goes the mimicry and identification with others and the attempt to act like someone you're not, regardless of how much you want to be like them!. The cure for this is what I call the "class reunion effect"!. Get together when you're older and you will find out that everyone has gone through the same things by that time!. Being "most popular" or Class King means nothing once you graduate and even less every ten years thereafter!. By the time of your 20th class reunion, people who wouldn't give you the time of day in high school will ask you for a hug!. ALL high school feel the insecurities you do, and like herd animals seeking reassurance, they gather in cliques and like wolfpacks will attack anyone who threatens to expose shallowness--and they always go after the one who's less self-assured than they!. Your imitations of other people attract attackers because you're being insecure and someone they perceive as weaker than they!. Graduate and all that disappears--they won't have the support or validation of the often silly things they used to value anymore!.
For starters, read this book: "please Understand Me," by u guy named Kramer!. I urge you to read it and take the short test in it!. Your public library should have it, and can order it if your branch doesn't have it!. It won't tell you WHO you are, but rather HOW you go about doing things and WHAT sort of things you value and WHY!. Now, if you know those three things you'll have a pretty good handle on WHO you are--there's even a 4-letter signature for you and those like you!. It may also tell you about what jobs you like and why!. Better yet, you'll be able to give everyone you know such a signature, and know why and how it's a bad idea to be like them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First, divide the problem into parts, and some of them sound like simple oppositions, but I can assure you that both I and my son have gone through some of these things, and he has bipolar disorder as well!. OK--Recognize that self-concept has to do with WHO you are and want to become, and self-esteem has to do with your sense of self-WORTH, regardless of who you are!. In this case, a faulty self-concept leads to behavior that invites taunts and bullying, which affect's your self-worth or self-esteem!.
Self -concept, the sense of "who I am," is both simple and complex!. In one sense it means "I am me and nobody else" (whoops! there goes the mimicry and identification with others and the attempt to act like someone you're not, regardless of how much you want to be like them!. The cure for this is what I call the "class reunion effect"!. Get together when you're older and you will find out that everyone has gone through the same things by that time!. Being "most popular" or Class King means nothing once you graduate and even less every ten years thereafter!. By the time of your 20th class reunion, people who wouldn't give you the time of day in high school will ask you for a hug!. ALL high school feel the insecurities you do, and like herd animals seeking reassurance, they gather in cliques and like wolfpacks will attack anyone who threatens to expose shallowness--and they always go after the one who's less self-assured than they!. Your imitations of other people attract attackers because you're being insecure and someone they perceive as weaker than they!. Graduate and all that disappears--they won't have the support or validation of the often silly things they used to value anymore!.
For starters, read this book: "please Understand Me," by u guy named Kramer!. I urge you to read it and take the short test in it!. Your public library should have it, and can order it if your branch doesn't have it!. It won't tell you WHO you are, but rather HOW you go about doing things and WHAT sort of things you value and WHY!. Now, if you know those three things you'll have a pretty good handle on WHO you are--there's even a 4-letter signature for you and those like you!. It may also tell you about what jobs you like and why!. Better yet, you'll be able to give everyone you know such a signature, and know why and how it's a bad idea to be like them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First of all, you should be very proud that you have the courage and insight to ask others for help!. It seems to me that you have your finger on the underlying issue!. Self esteem!. I have found that self esteem rises with self reflection!. Try sorting out what it is exactly that you admire in others so much!. You will find that most of these characteristics are either things they didn't earn (born wealthy, tall, etc) or that they themselves, deep down, feel inadequate and are just projecting confidence to hide it!.
The truth is, most people feel inadequate in some important way!. The world is pretty good at reminding us of exactly how we ar inadequate --just in case we forget!.
To battle against this, try a daily affirmation to your self--in the mornings---of what is good about you!. Write it down!. Recite it 10 times before you go out to face the world!. Over time, your back will be straighter when you walk!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The truth is, most people feel inadequate in some important way!. The world is pretty good at reminding us of exactly how we ar inadequate --just in case we forget!.
To battle against this, try a daily affirmation to your self--in the mornings---of what is good about you!. Write it down!. Recite it 10 times before you go out to face the world!. Over time, your back will be straighter when you walk!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You sound like my X!. She didnt have the courage to stand up and admit what you have!. That took alot of gut's!. Good for you!.
They say you can't cure alcoholizum unless you admit your a alcoholic!. Man that pisses me off!. But it's there world we just live in it!. Question is who is they!. They sit in a room and make up rules, then surpise us with them!. They say we can, they say we cant, they tell us how much and how offten!. It's no wonder people get pissed off all the time, stress compounds stress!. If you've had enough you've had enough!.
It's best to slow down when possible and think things through!. Take short naps if possible!. ya they have drugs you can take but you have to ask yourself if you want to be dependant on that life syle!. Speaking of which, you just need to find your style!. everyone has one, your wondering whats yours!. We all search for answers, and thanks to yahoo, we have the capabilities to search for them without comitting to someone we have to look at everyday!. I think I'm getting ready to ask my own first question soon!. more like a poll, I'm not religious but I use it to calm myself down!. Kinda a cowards way out!. There's alot of butts!. that need sever kicking and I'm just the man to do it!. Unfortunitlly being a single father of a 6 and 10 year old, who'll take care of the kids when I'm in prison!.
So there's a futurestic question for you!. What you do today may have a huge impact on futuestic events!. What could those events be, and just how important do you want to be!. controlling our tempers is hard, especially when we know some deserve a little agression!.
Don't be ashamed!.
I sometimes envy old people or wise people that smile at everything like nothing stresses them out!. Here's something I learned when I was 18 years old in the Army and it stuck with me my whole life!. A very wise man with a major amount of college taught me!.
You can be a very smart person BUT if you hang out with morons you'll be a moron!.
On the other hand you can be of low intellegence and hang out with smart people and that will make you smart, or smarter!.
It's all in our envirornment, who we know, and what they know!. I have the cussing issue to, but I'm pretty good at it!. When exsposed to a different enviornment I have to curb my agressive languge, after all THEY dont approve!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
They say you can't cure alcoholizum unless you admit your a alcoholic!. Man that pisses me off!. But it's there world we just live in it!. Question is who is they!. They sit in a room and make up rules, then surpise us with them!. They say we can, they say we cant, they tell us how much and how offten!. It's no wonder people get pissed off all the time, stress compounds stress!. If you've had enough you've had enough!.
It's best to slow down when possible and think things through!. Take short naps if possible!. ya they have drugs you can take but you have to ask yourself if you want to be dependant on that life syle!. Speaking of which, you just need to find your style!. everyone has one, your wondering whats yours!. We all search for answers, and thanks to yahoo, we have the capabilities to search for them without comitting to someone we have to look at everyday!. I think I'm getting ready to ask my own first question soon!. more like a poll, I'm not religious but I use it to calm myself down!. Kinda a cowards way out!. There's alot of butts!. that need sever kicking and I'm just the man to do it!. Unfortunitlly being a single father of a 6 and 10 year old, who'll take care of the kids when I'm in prison!.
So there's a futurestic question for you!. What you do today may have a huge impact on futuestic events!. What could those events be, and just how important do you want to be!. controlling our tempers is hard, especially when we know some deserve a little agression!.
Don't be ashamed!.
I sometimes envy old people or wise people that smile at everything like nothing stresses them out!. Here's something I learned when I was 18 years old in the Army and it stuck with me my whole life!. A very wise man with a major amount of college taught me!.
You can be a very smart person BUT if you hang out with morons you'll be a moron!.
On the other hand you can be of low intellegence and hang out with smart people and that will make you smart, or smarter!.
It's all in our envirornment, who we know, and what they know!. I have the cussing issue to, but I'm pretty good at it!. When exsposed to a different enviornment I have to curb my agressive languge, after all THEY dont approve!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Im guessing people haven't responded because you have said not to say go see your GP ect, so ill assume you have already done that and your anger is something you need to learn how to deal with!.If you can't bear the thought of an anger management class then you should research strategies yourself and try put your mind at something else, you cant control anyone, not even yourself!. If someone tells you hpow to be then just say thanks, but am still learning who i am myself!.
You have to prove to yourself that you can do whatever you put your mind to and then others will see!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have to prove to yourself that you can do whatever you put your mind to and then others will see!.Www@Answer-Health@Com