I think I might be doing these things for attention...?!
Question: I think I might be doing these things for attention!.!.!.!?
Please help me!.!.!.I have bulimia and depression, but here is the thing!. I think that I am not really bulimic!. I am just making myself throw up!. Not that I don't have the mentality of someone with an eating disorder!.!.!.That is just the way it started was that I told my best friend for the attention!. Then I started cutting myself!. (for attention) Now she thinks I do everything for attention!. But I really do think I have developed a real eating disorder and that I have depression!. (I don't cut anymore because I have realized that it was stupid) I feel like I don't deserve anyone's love because I once did things for attention!. I still don't know why I did it and I didn't realize that that was what I was doing until she told me she was sick of me being attention seeking!.
I hate myself for wanting attention!.!.!.How can I stop this!? (Please please please don't be rude!.)
Any idea why I need attention so badly!?
(Please don't tell me to get over it I need real answers) Www@Answer-Health@Com
I hate myself for wanting attention!.!.!.How can I stop this!? (Please please please don't be rude!.)
Any idea why I need attention so badly!?
(Please don't tell me to get over it I need real answers) Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
The hardest thing to do in life is to forgive ourselves!. We forgive others easily ( and sometimes to quickly )!. We give other people one/two/tree/etc!. chances, but when it comes to us, we are hard on ourselves (more than on others!)
Personally, I don't think you did all those things just for attention!.!.!. I truly believe that you were "sad" and hiding other emotions with those actions!. People who only craving attention are "clowning" around, being the center of attention by being the " funny man/women", etc!.!.
Yes, eating disorders and self-mutilation is a call for attention but not just "for fun"!. Research has proven latelly that it is also a sign that the person feels like they have no control on their lives/or situations!. It's also mainly because people are suffering allot emotionally and don't know how to express their pain/anger/frustrations!.!.!.And because they don't know how to ask for help /or don't even realize that theirs help out there for them!.
I understand that sometimes it takes "though love" to make someone realize what they are doing, but I find it harsh that your friend would tell you that she is "sick of you being an attention seeker"!.!.!. But I can't judge her cause she is probably unaware of how complex these situations are!.
If the roles were reversed, would you be have been there for her!? If your friend was the one who had done these things, would you believe that she doesn't deserve anyone's love!? Would you want her to hate herself !? I'm sure you wouldn't be so hard on her!.!.!. So why be so hard on yourself !?
You need to be as nice to yourself as you are with others!. Theirs no use going over what happened in the past!.!.!.the past is gone and will never be again!. The only thing past experiences are good for is, learning not to do the same mistakes in the futur!. So concentate on today, the present!. And start accepting and loving yourself ! Cause, (I'm sure you've heard this before) if you don't love yourself, how do you expect others to love you!? Recognise your qualities, appreciate them and aknowledge how gracefully you are unique !
Everybody has a right to be loved !! No matter what they did in the past !!
As for why you need this attention, nobody knows why but yourself!. Sometimes we live events in our childhood that affects us in our behaviour as we get older, (and sometimes we don't even remember these events)!. You are not the only one batteling with these delemas/problems!.
Their are support groups out there with people that go through similar things as you do!. And group therapy is great cause you get to see that you are not alone in this situation!. You feel more secure to speak out about stuff , because you know these people in your group are/ or were living similar things and won't judge you!. Plus, you get others point of views and advice that you never would have thaught on your own!. (and you get to see people that have gotten out of those situations)!.
That's why I would strongly recomend that you go for therapy!. You can always go to one-on-one therapy if group therapy makes you unconfortable!. Some people say therapy is worth sh**, and that's true!.!.!. if you do not commit to it 100%, it's a waste of time!. You have to WANT to help yourself and change! It is also a sad fact that not all therapist out there are good!. You will need to "shop around" until you find the one that "clicks" with you and that you feel 100% secure with!.
Personnaly, I had to see over 6 therapist before finding the good one that is helping me today!. It was frustrating and at times I felt like giving up!.!.!.but now that I have a good therapist, I'm happy I didn't quit cause it is amasing how much progress I have done !!
Just like a recovering alchoolic /or a recovering drug user, recovering from an eating disorder and/or self-mutilation is something you will have to deal with all your life!. Cause when you will be faced with stressfull situations or unplesant events you can't control, you will be tempted to return to doing these things!. If you ever have a "slip-up" and do these things in the futur, don't "beat" yourself up for it!. Just admit to yourself that it was a mistake and don't do it again
Life is a constant battle, everyone has their dark secrets (some just deny them and/or don't face them!.!.!.)!. Don't give into yours and don't give up ! The faster you seek help , the faster you will be on the road of recovery!. You can ask your doctor/ or a counselor/ or a social worker for information on support groups!. Or you can always ask a crisis center in your area, they have all the information on these things!.
I hope I've helped you with my response!.
And I hope you will learn to appreciate yourself and love yourself!.
Good luck and YES, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE LOVED!
Keep strong and don't give-up ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Personally, I don't think you did all those things just for attention!.!.!. I truly believe that you were "sad" and hiding other emotions with those actions!. People who only craving attention are "clowning" around, being the center of attention by being the " funny man/women", etc!.!.
Yes, eating disorders and self-mutilation is a call for attention but not just "for fun"!. Research has proven latelly that it is also a sign that the person feels like they have no control on their lives/or situations!. It's also mainly because people are suffering allot emotionally and don't know how to express their pain/anger/frustrations!.!.!.And because they don't know how to ask for help /or don't even realize that theirs help out there for them!.
I understand that sometimes it takes "though love" to make someone realize what they are doing, but I find it harsh that your friend would tell you that she is "sick of you being an attention seeker"!.!.!. But I can't judge her cause she is probably unaware of how complex these situations are!.
If the roles were reversed, would you be have been there for her!? If your friend was the one who had done these things, would you believe that she doesn't deserve anyone's love!? Would you want her to hate herself !? I'm sure you wouldn't be so hard on her!.!.!. So why be so hard on yourself !?
You need to be as nice to yourself as you are with others!. Theirs no use going over what happened in the past!.!.!.the past is gone and will never be again!. The only thing past experiences are good for is, learning not to do the same mistakes in the futur!. So concentate on today, the present!. And start accepting and loving yourself ! Cause, (I'm sure you've heard this before) if you don't love yourself, how do you expect others to love you!? Recognise your qualities, appreciate them and aknowledge how gracefully you are unique !
Everybody has a right to be loved !! No matter what they did in the past !!
As for why you need this attention, nobody knows why but yourself!. Sometimes we live events in our childhood that affects us in our behaviour as we get older, (and sometimes we don't even remember these events)!. You are not the only one batteling with these delemas/problems!.
Their are support groups out there with people that go through similar things as you do!. And group therapy is great cause you get to see that you are not alone in this situation!. You feel more secure to speak out about stuff , because you know these people in your group are/ or were living similar things and won't judge you!. Plus, you get others point of views and advice that you never would have thaught on your own!. (and you get to see people that have gotten out of those situations)!.
That's why I would strongly recomend that you go for therapy!. You can always go to one-on-one therapy if group therapy makes you unconfortable!. Some people say therapy is worth sh**, and that's true!.!.!. if you do not commit to it 100%, it's a waste of time!. You have to WANT to help yourself and change! It is also a sad fact that not all therapist out there are good!. You will need to "shop around" until you find the one that "clicks" with you and that you feel 100% secure with!.
Personnaly, I had to see over 6 therapist before finding the good one that is helping me today!. It was frustrating and at times I felt like giving up!.!.!.but now that I have a good therapist, I'm happy I didn't quit cause it is amasing how much progress I have done !!
Just like a recovering alchoolic /or a recovering drug user, recovering from an eating disorder and/or self-mutilation is something you will have to deal with all your life!. Cause when you will be faced with stressfull situations or unplesant events you can't control, you will be tempted to return to doing these things!. If you ever have a "slip-up" and do these things in the futur, don't "beat" yourself up for it!. Just admit to yourself that it was a mistake and don't do it again
Life is a constant battle, everyone has their dark secrets (some just deny them and/or don't face them!.!.!.)!. Don't give into yours and don't give up ! The faster you seek help , the faster you will be on the road of recovery!. You can ask your doctor/ or a counselor/ or a social worker for information on support groups!. Or you can always ask a crisis center in your area, they have all the information on these things!.
I hope I've helped you with my response!.
And I hope you will learn to appreciate yourself and love yourself!.
Good luck and YES, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE LOVED!
Keep strong and don't give-up ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Of course you are doing it for attention and control!. That is the definition of your eating disorders and self mutilation!. Therapy, especially group therapy is about the only thing that really works!. If I were to tell you to stop it, you couldn't!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm glad you've stopped cutting - no matter how that starts, it can become an addiction very quickly!.
I've had this problem too, where people think I do everything for attention!. At the moment I'm actually trying to work out what is real and what I've made up!. It's a tough thing to do, but a very important thing to do!.
When you're making up a behaviour for attention, then it's easy to stop!. You can be doing it one day and not doing it the next, without a problem!. I've put a few links below, they have the criteria for bulimia and eating disorder not otherwise specified (EDNOS)!. You might like to have a look at them and see if you think they apply to you!.
To stop attention-seeking behaviour, you need to know why you want the attention!. Perhaps it's because you don't feel cared for or loved!? The first time someone said that to me, I thought "no way! I have the best parents on the planet!", and then I learnt about the five love languages, that might be something worth learning a little about if you feel similarly about your situation!. The link is below!.
It could also be because you don't care about yourself, so you need other people's approval constantly to help you feel better about yourself!. I don't really know what to suggest with that, because I am still learning how to like myself!.
Best of luck, hun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've had this problem too, where people think I do everything for attention!. At the moment I'm actually trying to work out what is real and what I've made up!. It's a tough thing to do, but a very important thing to do!.
When you're making up a behaviour for attention, then it's easy to stop!. You can be doing it one day and not doing it the next, without a problem!. I've put a few links below, they have the criteria for bulimia and eating disorder not otherwise specified (EDNOS)!. You might like to have a look at them and see if you think they apply to you!.
To stop attention-seeking behaviour, you need to know why you want the attention!. Perhaps it's because you don't feel cared for or loved!? The first time someone said that to me, I thought "no way! I have the best parents on the planet!", and then I learnt about the five love languages, that might be something worth learning a little about if you feel similarly about your situation!. The link is below!.
It could also be because you don't care about yourself, so you need other people's approval constantly to help you feel better about yourself!. I don't really know what to suggest with that, because I am still learning how to like myself!.
Best of luck, hun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
some people just don't feel loved enough and crave more!. !. !. i've been there!. bulimia is something i tried for a while too!. not because i wanted attention, but because i was selfish!. your best friend doesn't sound like best friend material to me, but that's just my opinion!. the only thing i can really suggest is examining two things, life and death!.
eventually depression / bulimia can lead to death!.
don't do anything you can't change!. and you can probably stop these things by finding the power within yourself to be a better person!.
if you want someone to talk to about these things, i might be able to help in some sort of way!. i'll be there for you to vent to if you need it, or just a friend to talk to!.
if you have a myspace,
find me at myspace!.com/urexxhighnessWww@Answer-Health@Com
eventually depression / bulimia can lead to death!.
don't do anything you can't change!. and you can probably stop these things by finding the power within yourself to be a better person!.
if you want someone to talk to about these things, i might be able to help in some sort of way!. i'll be there for you to vent to if you need it, or just a friend to talk to!.
if you have a myspace,
find me at myspace!.com/urexxhighnessWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think you were doing it for attention to make up for a lack of!. Either from parents (most likely), or friends, or a boyfriend!. Either way, it is nothing to be ashamed of, we all do it at some point!. I know how much it hurts to hear people say you are doing something for the attention when to you it is real, which your current problem might be!. Either way, go to a therapist!. They aren't just for those who are incredibly disturbed, they can help!.Don't hate yourself for, at some point, wanting attention!. We all want attention, it is just a matter of how far you go to get it!. Try finding something that makes you feel good!.Www@Answer-Health@Com