I need help, I ruined everything? ?!


Question: I need help, I ruined everything!? !?
My friend was sexually abused by my grandfather; this had been going on for a year!. She made me promise not to tell anyone!. A couple of months ago I cracked and told my mother everything, the next day I informed her that I told my mother!. She then told her mother after that we promised each other that we would not leave each other side!. After that we drifted apart a bit and fought a lot!. Then she went away for a week which I think was a good break!. Her dad works overseas and didn
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The first thing you need to do is slow down and breathe!. Your mind is busy making the problem bigger than it probably needs to be!. If your emotions seriously have you in a state that you feel as though you are going to do harm to yourself you need to find someone local to talk to immediately!.
You obviously feel tremendous guilt over what has happened to your friend!. Please know it's not your fault!. You have to keep your guilty feelings in perspective or you will not be able to think rationally!. You will only have negetive thoughts and won't be able to see any positive solutions!. Maybe she just is emotionally overwrought , just having to tell her dad and what not!. It's hard to have to relive a thing like that and tell the people you love I am sure she doesn't hate you!. You didn't hurt her!. I can only imagine she is just going through a lot and maybe doesn't have what it takes to reach out to you right now!. It's also possible her parents made the choice to have her avoid you for right now to try to protect her!. I don't know what you living arrangments are, ( like if your grandfather lives with you) Lots of people are affected by an act like this and people tend to over react in the beginning while they figure out what has happened and how to avoid it from happening again!. Healing has to begin before relationships can resume!. You might want to try emailing or writing her a letter expressing your feelings and support to her!. It will help your friend as well as help you to begin to heal I hope this helps!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

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