Horrible boss is just bringing me down...A little long but please answer! ?!


Question: Horrible boss is just bringing me down!.!.!.A little long but please answer! !?
I started a new job about a month ago and for the first couple of weeks i was mainly working in the bar serving drinks etc!. It's a hotel aswell as bar/resturant so there are these breakfast shifts where basically all the guests coming down over a couple of hours for breakfast!.

There's this lady who's done these shifts for about 20 years so obviously she knows what she's doing and is quite respected!. Where as this is my first job EVER and i need reassurance on some of the things i do!.!.!.i was told to ask questions whenever i needed!.

Anyway this lady is a complete b*th to me!. She's not exactly nice to my face but sometimes we have our times when we seem to get on!. If she asks me to do ANYTHING i go and do it, i'm honestly doing my best at the job and i don't know what else i can do!

I'm fine in the bar area but i admit i am slightly weaker in the resturant but in the end everything gets done and i certainly don't stand around doing nothing!.
I'm one of those people who need to know they are doing something right and have to get it right in the end!. I'm trying!

Anyway to me she says like 'don't worry, everyones like this when they're new and i just have to clear tables faster' so i thought it was good that she was giving me some feedback to improve on!.!.!.that way i'll hopefully get better at the job!

But then i was talking to another of the waitresses today and she was like yeah Mary(boss(ish)) hates you!. I was obviously upset becase it's never nice to be told someone doesn't like you!. Then she just said lots of mean things Mary had said about me!. She thinks i 'hide' when i've never done that in my life before!. Basically she'd been saying she thinks i'm a complete idiot!!

I just feel really hurt by this becasue i've tried my best ever since i got there!. I've got good feedback from my other bosses and colleuges about how i'm doing and it was encouraging untill this happened!.!.!.!.

I just don't know what to do now with work because i don't think i could try any harder and i honestly didn't think i was doing a bad a job as she was making out!. I also just can't stand people hating me!.!.!.!.especially when she's all nice to my face at times!. So i never really know what shes thinking!.!.

Basically what can i do in this situation!? I want to just take her aside and basically ask her what her problem is and if she could give me this feedback other than go b*cth about me to others!. I WOULD actaully like the feedback so then atleast i 'd know where i could improve!.

This is my first job and maybe i'm not reacting in a very mature way but there you go!.

I have work with this lady on Saturday and don't know what to do seeing as i've been told that she doesn't want me on those shifts with her!.

It might just be because im incredibly emotional at the moment (for many reasons-depression, lack of sleep and no routine due to weird shifts and some other issues i'm facing in lfe right now) but this actually made be cry i was so upset!. I don't think i'd beable to talk to her (or another boss) about it without tears colleting in my eyes and that would just be incredibly embarresing!.

What should i do!? Anyone been in this situation!?

Sorry for spelling errors, my spellcheck isn't working!.
Thanks for reading!.
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Answers:
I agree with what everyone has told you, it looks to me that this job will toughen your thin skin if you stick it out or will make your life a bigger mess if you don't!. life is not fair and some people contribute to its unfairness like the two faced monster you have to work with!. so what she doesn't want to work with you the furthure away you are from that Bit** the better!. Just try to take her **** when she does it in front of you or behind you!. Try not to react and just do your job!.

Your inner strength that you will gain by not reacting to her Sh** will pulverize her poor excuse for power over you!.

Take control of your work life and your personal life will get better too!. Hang in there Hmm you got what it takes to overcome that witch!. Do it the right way not her way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i think the waitress is stirring up trouble!. just keep doing your job and don't try to be friends!. she's probably just jealous because your younger and could make her look bad!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Personally, I think workplace unhappiness is some of the most depressing unhappiness one can experience because of the sense of POWERLESSNESS involved!. Under normal circumstances, most of us would tell these cruel people to go to hell - but, because we have bills to pay, mouths to feed, mortgages to pay - we have to simply deal with it and allow these monsters to say things to us that do nothing more than demean us and increase our sense of depression and low self-esteem!.
It amazes me how little my boss needs to say to me to completely tear me down!. Often, the people who seek power in our society are the cruelest people of them all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If she's not actually your boss, just a senior worker, I think you should go to the actual manager and ask for a performance evaluation, in which he or she can tell you for sure what you're doing well and what needs improvement!.

While it probably won't change this person's treatment of you, it will reassure you that you're doing your best, no matter what she says!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i am sorry you r experiencing job troubles, however I just want to say that often 2nd hand information is most of the time Gossip!.!.!.!.!.she may be a little intolerant, she probably just wants the work done efficently!.
I think you need to speak to her !.!.!.take her a side and tell her how much you apprieciate her help and knowledge, and then tell her you want to improve and as it was brought to your attention that she may not be to happy with you, what could she suggest to you, to help your skills improve and then say ty!.!.!.if it continues then go to the big boss!.!.!.and stop listening to hear say!.!.!.it just causes trouble!.!.!.!.good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

ignore the mean lady and do your job!. that's all you can do!. if you quit then you ruin your resume, it looks better if you stick with your first job for a while to show that you aren't a flake!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Mary has been working a dead end job for 20 years and hates life!.

The coworker is a drama queen ***** who is stirring things up because she is miserable too!.

Just do your best and take the necessary measures to ensure you don't wind up like them!.

Stay positive - you rock!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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