How do i get over this anger i have for my mother?!
Question: How do i get over this anger i have for my mother!?
whenever i think of how much my mother has underestimated me, how i have done things for her and its like nothing!. i have done home improvement for her which would have costed hundreds even thousands and i am a massage therapist and have given her countless massages and its like i owe it to her cause shes my mom!. never saying thanx to any thing!. please someone tell me how to stop feeling this way towards her i want to find peace in my life but i can not get over this!. i have been reading a new earth and similar ones so if any one has any sort of spiritual advice it is welcome Www@Answer-Health@Com
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My mom really trys but she is just plain mean and unfair to me at times!. It is noticeable to family outsiders!. I just say that to tell you I'm not paranoid and I get it!.
The quickest way for me is to remember this is a person who has had a hard life, and never dealt with her sad and challenging childhood!.
When I try to look at her as the wounded child she was, (her mom was mean to her and nice to her brothers (same as she does to me) her dad an abusive alcoholic that abandoned the family!.) When I remember this I see a remarkable person who has overcome a lot!. It is much easier to forgive her and move on!. BTW my mom will never admit even to herself her unfair and mean treatment of me!.
Plus, I'm her daughter and therefore she sees herself in me!. I just have to put up with her criticism meanwhile I'm in her presence!. She's gotta listen to her head 24/7 and she's probably not nice to herself either!.
The best you can do is be aware, be willing to learn and develop and let her serve as a warning to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The quickest way for me is to remember this is a person who has had a hard life, and never dealt with her sad and challenging childhood!.
When I try to look at her as the wounded child she was, (her mom was mean to her and nice to her brothers (same as she does to me) her dad an abusive alcoholic that abandoned the family!.) When I remember this I see a remarkable person who has overcome a lot!. It is much easier to forgive her and move on!. BTW my mom will never admit even to herself her unfair and mean treatment of me!.
Plus, I'm her daughter and therefore she sees herself in me!. I just have to put up with her criticism meanwhile I'm in her presence!. She's gotta listen to her head 24/7 and she's probably not nice to herself either!.
The best you can do is be aware, be willing to learn and develop and let her serve as a warning to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe you should tell your mom that you dont appreciate the way she belittles you & she should respect you as an adult!. My mother & I were like that for a long time & even now sometimes but I can deal with it now!. Just tell your mom that you love her & that you do your best to help her out just because of that!. And that if she cant show you a little more respect that youre not givin up any more freebies also some people are just like that!. Hate to say it but ***holesWww@Answer-Health@Com
I have the same bitterness to my mom!. But I have been learning that you can't change your mom but you can tell her how you feel!. You have to change a little bit of you but remember not to give up all of who you are!. When you tell someone how it makes you feel it makes you feel better and less bitter about your mom!. I hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your mother is your mother!. She will never change!. It doesn't matter what you do or say to her!. She is who she is!. I have a mother who I had to force myself to get along with!. She is still trying to tell me what to do at 40 something!. I just let her talk and usually dont' take her advice!. It's either accept her for who she is!. Or cut all ties!. If you are that miserable!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Skip the spiritual stuff on this problem!. Go get some books on anger!. Also, quit doing stuff for your mom so she can learn you don't "owe" it to her and you don't feel taken advantage of!. Books on anger can be really helpful!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Pray to God for help, because that is the only way you are going to have a peace with your mom!. and read your Bible (if u have one) and look in the back for verses about peace!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Um well you could talk to her about it!. Or you could not say anything about it and find something that calms you so you dont feel that way!. Thats what I do!. I know its weird but when I'm angry I play xbox!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This is always the best answer in these kind of situations!. Talk to her about it!. Tell her how you feel and also ask her if she has anything she wants to get off of her chest!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
shes ur mother she put a roof over ur head feed u brought u up every 1 feels angry with there parent sometimes just get over it try see that ur mother loves u Www@Answer-Health@Com
just dont give her attention!.!.!.!.she will realise you have the power, not herWww@Answer-Health@Com
You sound like you're over-reacting!. I'd suggest some counseling!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
think of all the good things she doesWww@Answer-Health@Com
i suggest counsellingWww@Answer-Health@Com
My mother has the same mother!. You need to accept that that is the way she is!. You have every right to be angry, annoyed, pissed off!. You can cry, you can curse her name!. You have every right to, but you have to let it go!. That's the way she is, she's inconsiderate, unthankful, probably believes the world revolves around her!. It's a shame she doesn't know how to thank you, I'm sure she appreciates what you do but she probably has some sense of entitlement or something!. I don't know, I can only base it off what I experience and witness with my grandmother and how she treats my mother!.
You just have to let it go and remind yourself that your a good person!. Or!.!.!.!. what I keep telling my mother is to stop doing all those nice thoughtful things for her!. Maybe then she'd realize all the hard work you do for her!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
You just have to let it go and remind yourself that your a good person!. Or!.!.!.!. what I keep telling my mother is to stop doing all those nice thoughtful things for her!. Maybe then she'd realize all the hard work you do for her!. Www@Answer-Health@Com