I need to talk to someone cares?!
Question: I need to talk to someone cares!?
Right now, I'm having a nervous breakdown!. I'm really, really, really upset; I have no self-esteem, love, or confidence in myself!. My sisters and cousins left to go to a game and I didn't go!. I can't be around people at all you guys; I think people are going to talk about me if I go anywhere!. So, Every weekend I'm in this house; I never go anywhere or do anything!. Tomorrow, my mom wants me to go with her to an employment picnic; I'm not going because I can't be around people!. I'm missing out on life and having fun; I really wanted to go out and have fun tonight, but I didn't because of me!. I hate my life right now; I hate myself too!. I cried my eyes out for about 30 minutes and I'm tired of crying!. I mean how am I going to get a man or make friends; If I don't want to be around people!? Is there a therapist on-line!? Is there anyone I can talk to!? or has Yahoo I!.M!. who's willing to listen!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I am a retired psychologist now living in Indonesia, You can IM, me if you wish!. Would suggest you check my answers first and see if you are comfortable with what I have to say!.
You have a fear of rejection, the root of this is to be found in your formative years 1 - 7!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have a fear of rejection, the root of this is to be found in your formative years 1 - 7!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, In the last 12 minutes a toltal of 5 people plus me has responded and reached out to you!.
Your feeling of lacking in self-esteem, love and confidence is just that , it is a feeling!.
You should be having a great time tonight on Friday, and you are having a great time with 6 people reaching out to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your feeling of lacking in self-esteem, love and confidence is just that , it is a feeling!.
You should be having a great time tonight on Friday, and you are having a great time with 6 people reaching out to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Been there, never asked for help which delayed me getting my life really started!.You are asking for help which is very brave !.so you'ree already half way there!.Look at the response!.from these wonderful caring people queueing up to help you aren't they wonderful!.
I would be happy to help but the better option for you would be for female help!.
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I would be happy to help but the better option for you would be for female help!.
Lee c is right,guard against predators, to be safe,accept only female help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ok i feel really sorry for you!. I am willing to help you whenever you need to!. First of all this is a serious condition that u need help with!. Im sure your Beautiful because everyone is!. People are people and there is no reason for someone to look down to u or say your ugly!. I have thee same problem exept im just self concience about my body!. If you need to talk to me!.
Feel better!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Feel better!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
i cant empathize with you but i can certainly be there for you it you need someone to listen!. heres my email address:
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We're just your friends, Chloe!. We care and we can listen, but you need professional help!. There's nothing wrong with you, you just need someone who knows how to help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why do you think people are going to talk about you!?
I feel the same way, actually - so maybe we can help each other out!.!.!.!.
Feel free to email me if you still want to talk!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I feel the same way, actually - so maybe we can help each other out!.!.!.!.
Feel free to email me if you still want to talk!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I had a nervous breakdown over a month ago, Now Please don't panic,
You probably are feeling very lonely right now, but things always seem worse at night or in the morning!. Why do you have no self confidence my sweet !? people who worry about everything are really lovely caring people and that's why they worry, have you seen your doctor yet, there are people out ther who can help you, you are not alone in feeling like this, I know this sounds really silly but, while your reading my email, close your eyes and try to think of something really nice, maybe a nice place you have been on holiday, clear blue sky and warm sea or something that made you laugh, really think about it and feel it, and it may help lift your mood alittle, Please don't feel like your missing out, you sound like a really lovely person who worries and just needs someone to listen and understand, im here for you, where do you live my sweet !? Www@Answer-Health@Com
You probably are feeling very lonely right now, but things always seem worse at night or in the morning!. Why do you have no self confidence my sweet !? people who worry about everything are really lovely caring people and that's why they worry, have you seen your doctor yet, there are people out ther who can help you, you are not alone in feeling like this, I know this sounds really silly but, while your reading my email, close your eyes and try to think of something really nice, maybe a nice place you have been on holiday, clear blue sky and warm sea or something that made you laugh, really think about it and feel it, and it may help lift your mood alittle, Please don't feel like your missing out, you sound like a really lovely person who worries and just needs someone to listen and understand, im here for you, where do you live my sweet !? Www@Answer-Health@Com
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in section 9, (esp!. MAKING FRIENDS) and section 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you!. It is called "Act as If!." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing!. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone!. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior!.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!.
People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier!. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced!." (so GO tomorrow: expect to be uncomfortable, but you won't die, and it'll be easier next time!. Say to yourself: "I'll have to get over this, sometime; why not now!?")!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!.
Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!. Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!.
Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people!.
Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable)!. C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option!. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk!.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes"!. Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers"!. Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads!. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior!. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy!. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit!.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can!. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing!. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave!.
People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot"!. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy)!. It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier!. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced!." (so GO tomorrow: expect to be uncomfortable, but you won't die, and it'll be easier next time!. Say to yourself: "I'll have to get over this, sometime; why not now!?")!. Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally!. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often!.
Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me"!. Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind!.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication!. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger!.
Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people!.
Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable)!. C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option!. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk!.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes"!. Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers"!. Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads!. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques!.Www@Answer-Health@Com