How do I become motivated and have self confidence?!


Question: How do I become motivated and have self confidence!?
I'm almost done with school and have absolutely no idea of what I want to do in my future!. I feel I don't have the qualities in life to succeed and live a comfortable life and am constantly paranoid about everything!. I change to be like other people to feel accepted and thought normal!. How do I accept myself and how do I find something I am good at to make a career!? Please help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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first off, dont copy others, who's to say they know whats best!? try to find an area that you are very interested in, and look for a career in that sector!. you have to work at something that makes you happy, that you find interesting!. if you continue to try and live your life for others, you will be very unhappy!. it just cant work!. talk to your school counsellor, they have books filled with all kinds of jobs, and that is a place to start!. hope you find something you will love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

dont worry about your future and stuff! just go with the flow, start going to like a community college and by the 2nd semester or so you ll figure out what you relly want to make of yourself!.!.!.and dont change for other ppl just to feel accepted!.!.find ppl that you can connnect with cuz its stupid when someone changes for someone else!.!.!.
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Consider having aptitude tests, vocational guidance, and career counselling, to give you some ideas on what may suit you best!. Try many things to see what you are best at!. Most people change occupations, later!. Regularly monitor your internal monologue (self talk): write down the negative ones: "I'm really ugly" and then the converse: "I'm fairly good looking", and next time you become aware that you are thinking the former, visualise, as vividly as possible, a big "STOP!!!" sign, and deliberately repeat 5 times, either aloud, in a big voice, if alone, or subvocally (to yourself, in your mind), the converse affirmation!. Habits take about 30 - 40 repetitions to become established, with most people!.

Cease comparing yourself unfavorably with others, using the STOP sign: "I am a unique individual, with potential, and my own set of skills"!. Keep your head up, and look people in the eye, or on the bridge of their nose!. See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first!. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I !.!.(insert activity here)!.!." Section 47 also refers!. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you!. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed!. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you!.

Section 53, and pages 2, 2!.q and 2!.o at ezy-build also refer!. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem/confidence, I deeply and completely accept myself"!. ~~~ Read: "Lift your mood now!." by John D Preston, Psy!.D!. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc!., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland!. CA 94609 http://www!.amazon!.com/ may be worth trying for this, as it has a good section on building self esteem, using a different approach!.


1!. Build up your self-esteem!. You must take an inventory!. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others!? Try to make only one change at a time!. Always check you progress before making another change!.
2!. Celebrate your journey, not your destination!. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow!.
3!. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction!. Know what you want!. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals!. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly!. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference!.

4!. Be proactive!. Take the initiative!. Be decisive!. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you!. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career!.
5!. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important!. (You'll be amazed how this works!.)
6!. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye!. Practice both of these!. Your handshake should be just right!. Not too firm and not too loose!. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person!.

7!. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills!. Learn a way to remember the other person's name!. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation!.
8!. Visibly respond to the other person!. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name!. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond!. The body language is the most important part of a conversation!. Practice, practice, practice



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