How do i stand up for myself?!
Question: How do i stand up for myself!?
how can i find the power to stop being a pushover by the family and live the way i want!? i dont mean i do drugs or anything!.!.!.i just ant to marry whenever i want, to whoever i want blah blah!.!.!.
how can i oppose everybody!?
only serious answers please
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how can i oppose everybody!?
only serious answers please
thanxWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
If you are overwhelmed by this challenge, choose one issue to begin with!. For example: a small way they have of exerting pressure on you, like insisting that you change your plans to do a family activity!.
Taking that as an example: 1!. tell them in advance that you have plans and won't be available!. 2!. don't get into a discussion where you have to defend your plans- just say that this is your choice!. 3!. don't give into escalating pressure to change your plans!. 4!. carry out your plan and focus on doing what you want 5!. after, don't let them make you feel guilty for doing what you want!.
Practice this type of choice-making for awhile so that you gain the ability to chart your own course!.
Be a good son/daughter in all other ways, letting your family know that you love and respect them but are a unique individual with your own path in life!.
Even as you age, you will find yourself pulled into the family issues and will have to reassert yourself!. If you get sucked in and do something for them and later regret it, just tell yourself that you will do better next time!.
It is very hard, I know, to even know who you are yourself, when family dynamics are so strong!. If we don't know who we are, we can waste a lot of years trying to please other people!.
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Taking that as an example: 1!. tell them in advance that you have plans and won't be available!. 2!. don't get into a discussion where you have to defend your plans- just say that this is your choice!. 3!. don't give into escalating pressure to change your plans!. 4!. carry out your plan and focus on doing what you want 5!. after, don't let them make you feel guilty for doing what you want!.
Practice this type of choice-making for awhile so that you gain the ability to chart your own course!.
Be a good son/daughter in all other ways, letting your family know that you love and respect them but are a unique individual with your own path in life!.
Even as you age, you will find yourself pulled into the family issues and will have to reassert yourself!. If you get sucked in and do something for them and later regret it, just tell yourself that you will do better next time!.
It is very hard, I know, to even know who you are yourself, when family dynamics are so strong!. If we don't know who we are, we can waste a lot of years trying to please other people!.
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One of the biggest thing people miss when they consider making a stand for themselves and change the current directives is!.!.!. knowing what the consequences will be for their actions!. If a person has been pampered by their parents, that person will have a hard time because they know if they were to start pushing back the pampering may change!. This is a part of growing up, so do not be afraid of losing!. Just remember that it is you that decides how you like to live!. Good Luck on talking to your parents!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Keep your purpose in mind - Stick with small sentances - don't get pulled into explaining yourself!.Thank everybody for their concerns and stay with the broken record technique of just saying over and over what you want!.
You do have rights to your own independent life and choices!.
Tell yourself that you are entitled to your own life!. Find inspiration in other peopel in the same situation as yourself who have won their freedom!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
You do have rights to your own independent life and choices!.
Tell yourself that you are entitled to your own life!. Find inspiration in other peopel in the same situation as yourself who have won their freedom!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
There are no secrets here:
If you have money and work just be independend and live alone!. If you don't you will have to stand your parents up to the time you have!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you have money and work just be independend and live alone!. If you don't you will have to stand your parents up to the time you have!. Www@Answer-Health@Com