How can i live the way i want and ignore others?!
Question: How can i live the way i want and ignore others!?
how can i find the power to stop being a pushover by the family and live the way i want!? i dont mean i do drugs or anything!.!.!.i just ant to marry whenever i want, to whoever i want blah blah!.!.!.
how can i oppose everybody!? everytime they "preach' i feel like killing everybody! (metaphorically)
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how can i oppose everybody!? everytime they "preach' i feel like killing everybody! (metaphorically)
only serious answers pleaseWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You don't need to ignore others!. You don't need a plan of action here!.
An analogy to the situation you are in is that you are walking around with two suitcases full of bricks!. You might actually feel fond of the bricks; they are YOUR bricks after all, but they are weighing you down and making you feel as if you're limited in the way you can live and the choices you can make!.
You just need to drop the bricks, put them down!. It doesn't mean that you stop loving your family or that you cut off ties with them!. Instead, you look clearly at the situation you're in and see that they are not adding any clarity or sanity to your life - and it is your life so ultimately it is your decision to either live life on your own terms (marry whomever you want etc!.!.!.)
Think about the consequences of just dropping the load you're carrying!.
Will your family stop loving you!?
Will your family stop talking to you!?
If the answer is yes, then I would say your family doesn't love or respect you very much in the first place!. If they love you because they can control you then you are a toy for them and you're not seen as a true individual who has desires and ideas!.
It is not easy to just drop things that we carry around in our heads, especially the things that have governed the way we live our life!. In a strange way they actually create order and can make you feel safe because you feel like you don't have the freedom to make decisions for yourself!. That is returning to childhood!.
As an adult you have as much freedom or as little as you choose!.
Real freedom is a scary thing, most people can't handle it!. They would rather have an anchor (family, friends, social norms etc,!.!.) but even that is just an illusion!.
You are always free to do with your life what you want and what you feel is best!.
In Buddhism they call this the "Warrior Path," not because you want to got to war but because you realize the courage it takes to live an authentic life that is truly free, to make decisions, to put down your bricks and illusions and start living as an individual who can be part of a group but does so out of respect and not fear!.
Best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
An analogy to the situation you are in is that you are walking around with two suitcases full of bricks!. You might actually feel fond of the bricks; they are YOUR bricks after all, but they are weighing you down and making you feel as if you're limited in the way you can live and the choices you can make!.
You just need to drop the bricks, put them down!. It doesn't mean that you stop loving your family or that you cut off ties with them!. Instead, you look clearly at the situation you're in and see that they are not adding any clarity or sanity to your life - and it is your life so ultimately it is your decision to either live life on your own terms (marry whomever you want etc!.!.!.)
Think about the consequences of just dropping the load you're carrying!.
Will your family stop loving you!?
Will your family stop talking to you!?
If the answer is yes, then I would say your family doesn't love or respect you very much in the first place!. If they love you because they can control you then you are a toy for them and you're not seen as a true individual who has desires and ideas!.
It is not easy to just drop things that we carry around in our heads, especially the things that have governed the way we live our life!. In a strange way they actually create order and can make you feel safe because you feel like you don't have the freedom to make decisions for yourself!. That is returning to childhood!.
As an adult you have as much freedom or as little as you choose!.
Real freedom is a scary thing, most people can't handle it!. They would rather have an anchor (family, friends, social norms etc,!.!.) but even that is just an illusion!.
You are always free to do with your life what you want and what you feel is best!.
In Buddhism they call this the "Warrior Path," not because you want to got to war but because you realize the courage it takes to live an authentic life that is truly free, to make decisions, to put down your bricks and illusions and start living as an individual who can be part of a group but does so out of respect and not fear!.
Best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd listen to some of the advice they give [if it's your elders]!. It may not seem fair or right but they have lived a lot longer than you, therefore, they know a lot more and have been through it all!. As an adult!.!. you can do what you want!. They can't do anything about it!. They can say hurtful things but you can ignore them and do what makes you happy!.
If you want, try talking to your family!. Tell them you'd appreciate it if they stop trying to control your life!. If you're welcome to opinions, then let them know!. But tell them you're an adult and you're going to live your life and learn from your own mistakes as you wish!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you want, try talking to your family!. Tell them you'd appreciate it if they stop trying to control your life!. If you're welcome to opinions, then let them know!. But tell them you're an adult and you're going to live your life and learn from your own mistakes as you wish!.Www@Answer-Health@Com