What would you do if you had an abusive father? would you think he's mad?!


Question: What would you do if you had an abusive father!? would you think he's mad!?
Well, im 19 and studying at one of the local universities in singapore!. since i was young my dad used to hit my mum, it used to be really often when i was younger and much lesser now!.!. so far it has only happened once this year!. but this year when he did it, he actually shoved me as well and said i didnt respected him, told me to get out of the house etc!.

well most of the things which happened in the past are things i dont wanna talk abt so im gonna be brief!. the abusing usually involves shoving, probably punching, kicks maybe, slapping, threats with the knife and lots of verbal abuse!. the past year or so, hes been making quite alot of trouble with regards to the packing of the house (cause we just had a renovation) and my mum made it really difficult by refusing to throw some things!.

and yest, he made like he wanted to hit my mum again just cause she was making some noise while washing the plates!. but the problem with my mum is she always loves to argue back which gets her into more trouble!. but after everything, he would come talk to her and me normaly again, which i find really weird!

look, im 19!. im sick and tired of this!. i dont know why he never ever thinks that hes not getting younger anymore!. ive called women's help and aware and all that but the help in singapore is quite pathetic!.

im thinking of moving out when i graduate but would it be possible!? im afraid he stops me!.

and meanwhile what do i do!? i just want a peaceful life where i can study and go to school in peace and not worry about this **** at home!.

your advice is all very much appreciated!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
it sounds like your dad is very controlling and believes he has the right to control your mother and you!. He does not have this right!. Your mother and yourself do not need to put up with abuse however it may be hard to stand up to your father without him lashing out!. I think it is a great idea to move out as he will not be able to control you when you have left his house!. many men who abuse their wives behave as if nothing has happened afterwards so this is normal in that respect!.

i think you should talk to your mother about the abuse and see what she wants to do, she may possible want to leave too!.

hope this helps in any way xxWww@Answer-Health@Com





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