I'm so lonely, advice please?!
Question: I'm so lonely, advice please!?
I have a 7 week old daughter, and I just feel so isolated!. I'm from a small country town and all of my friends have moved away from uni, while I'm at home doing it by corrospondence!. My partner works all day and to be honest, isn't really supportive of me, and won't talk to me when i try and vent my feelings!. I do talk to my family, but I don't let them know how i feel because I don't want them to worry!. I have rang help lines but they have no idea what theyre talking about!. I've joined online communities (kinda like this one) but i'm too embaressed to add people as contacts in case they think i'm a loser!. All i do everyday is sit at home talking to my daughter!. What's wrong with me!? What do I do to stop feeling this way!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
First of all: you're not a loser!. You're a new mum and it takes time to adjust to this new life style!.
You might be suffering from post natal depression!. I think it might be a good idea to talk to your doctor!.
Don't expect too much from your husband!. Men don't really know what to do with these kind of emotions :) What you need are other women around you who can identify with how you are feeling!.
Post your question again under Newborn & Babies!. You will get a lot more support!.
Also, see if there is a mommy and me group in your area that you can join!. Being around other moms and sharing your feelings will do you a world of good!.
Lots of good luck!. Be strong for yourself and your little girl and everything will work out in the end!.
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You might be suffering from post natal depression!. I think it might be a good idea to talk to your doctor!.
Don't expect too much from your husband!. Men don't really know what to do with these kind of emotions :) What you need are other women around you who can identify with how you are feeling!.
Post your question again under Newborn & Babies!. You will get a lot more support!.
Also, see if there is a mommy and me group in your area that you can join!. Being around other moms and sharing your feelings will do you a world of good!.
Lots of good luck!. Be strong for yourself and your little girl and everything will work out in the end!.
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it does get better as your daughter becomes more inter-active and responsive, but i do understand how you feel!. is there a playgroup somewhere nearby, even if you have to get a bus!. it is a great way of meeting other ladies in a similar situation!. you midwife, or whoever does your baby checks may know of something!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I was in the exact same situation your in when I had my son!. I had absolutely no support system, friends or other wise!. When I started work I made it my mission to make at least one friend to get out of the "funk"!. It worked and It helped me alot during that lonely period!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Contact the nearest Australian branch of this church that I'm in:-
http://www!.revivalfellowship!.org
+ our US website has a load of testimonies & talks:-
http://www!.revivalusa!.org
Or, if u feel more comfortable PM me & I'll arrange a sister to contact you!.
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http://www!.revivalfellowship!.org
+ our US website has a load of testimonies & talks:-
http://www!.revivalusa!.org
Or, if u feel more comfortable PM me & I'll arrange a sister to contact you!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
it is normal for you to feel that way, it is called baby blues right after you delivered and adding on your tiredness of taking care your baby and lack of sleep!. I may suggest that you take a plenty of sleep (rest) as possible and eat properly!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Talk to your daughter she understands everything!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are stuck, get a pet, that usually helps!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
When you say that you vent your feelings, I sincerely hope you don't mean 'nagging and raging'!. That won't help with family life!.
But I know how you feel!.
Well, you just have to overcome your insecurities and do - it!. Dont think about how OTHERS percieve you; if you want to add them, add them! Whatever they think, thats their problem!. Its over the internet!. You're safe behind a computer, so its easier than face to face!. :]
Perhaps join a club or something!. I'm not sure what exactly a small country town provides, but you should go out, do something, smile a lot, be friendly, act interested in others, and you should be able to make friends just fine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But I know how you feel!.
Well, you just have to overcome your insecurities and do - it!. Dont think about how OTHERS percieve you; if you want to add them, add them! Whatever they think, thats their problem!. Its over the internet!. You're safe behind a computer, so its easier than face to face!. :]
Perhaps join a club or something!. I'm not sure what exactly a small country town provides, but you should go out, do something, smile a lot, be friendly, act interested in others, and you should be able to make friends just fine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Congratulation on becoming a new mother, my children are all grown and gone, I miss the time when they were so small and helpless!. Being a new mother can be over whelming, this may cause some depression!. After birth your hormones are all mixed up and it takes about six months for them to recover!. You may wish to talk with a trusted friend who is also a mother, or with your physician, priest or religious leaser!. You are certainly not alone, most of us have similar problems and there is also medications you can take!. Good luck and take good care of your lovely baby!.
Kindest regards,
MichaelWww@Answer-Health@Com
Kindest regards,
MichaelWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hello from England!. This is indeed a very brave posting: it really took courage to open your heart on this forum!.
O!.K!. - here we go!. You are NOT repeat NOT a loser! Agreed!? Great! Try to look at it this way: God made you, and if you are good enough for Him you are MORE than good enough for the rest of us!. Yes!? Good! Think of all the wonderful qualities you possess - qualities which are yours and yours alone - and let your lovely persona work for you!. It really will, if only you will give it the chance!. Honestly!
In my experience, help lines are worse than useless: the people behind them are well-meaning but lack the lifetime experience to be able to do more than offer a listening ear and (hopefully!) come up with some sound practical advice!. Online communities can be most helpful - but please be very careful indeed as, not to put too fine a point on it, there are some strange characters out there in cyberspace as well as some very genuine people!.
Let's get one thing straight - there is absolutely nothing wrong with you apart from loneliness!. Nothing at all!. You are as good as anyone else and probably more genuine and sincere than many!. So do please try to cheer up if you possibly can!.
In my own case, I sometimes consider I have spent far too long on this planet altogether, so if you would like to add an older gentleman to your contacts, you are most welcome to do so - and I know that you are not a loser!. No way! If you were, you wouldn't have made this posting in the first place!
Try if possible to feel more confident in yourself!. That is something we can build on, trust me!.
Regards!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
O!.K!. - here we go!. You are NOT repeat NOT a loser! Agreed!? Great! Try to look at it this way: God made you, and if you are good enough for Him you are MORE than good enough for the rest of us!. Yes!? Good! Think of all the wonderful qualities you possess - qualities which are yours and yours alone - and let your lovely persona work for you!. It really will, if only you will give it the chance!. Honestly!
In my experience, help lines are worse than useless: the people behind them are well-meaning but lack the lifetime experience to be able to do more than offer a listening ear and (hopefully!) come up with some sound practical advice!. Online communities can be most helpful - but please be very careful indeed as, not to put too fine a point on it, there are some strange characters out there in cyberspace as well as some very genuine people!.
Let's get one thing straight - there is absolutely nothing wrong with you apart from loneliness!. Nothing at all!. You are as good as anyone else and probably more genuine and sincere than many!. So do please try to cheer up if you possibly can!.
In my own case, I sometimes consider I have spent far too long on this planet altogether, so if you would like to add an older gentleman to your contacts, you are most welcome to do so - and I know that you are not a loser!. No way! If you were, you wouldn't have made this posting in the first place!
Try if possible to feel more confident in yourself!. That is something we can build on, trust me!.
Regards!.Www@Answer-Health@Com