For people who have lost a partner, how to help?!


Question: For people who have lost a partner, how to help!?
My friends husband died about 3 weeks ago, unfortunately i was away and unable to be with her till now!. It was very unexpected and sudden!. She still appears to be in shock, just stares at his photo and is neglecting the baby a bit!. She is staying with her parents who have had to take over the babys care!.
How do i best help her through this!? Www@Answer-Health@Com


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She probably still is in shock!. It took me around 3 months before I started grieving for my husband!. You can be there as emotional support as and when she needs it!. There will come a time when she will need to go through every detail again and again so you could be her sounding board!. You can also be there for her practically!. Help her with the baby, cook for her, clean etc!. Do all you can, she needs help and she will appreciate it greatly even though she won't be able to show it at the moment!. Try and talk to her about seeing a doctor and maybe thinking about bereavement counselling!.
Also, there is a website called gonetoosoon!.co!.uk where she can set up an online memorial and The Way Foundation who support young widows!. Best of luckWww@Answer-Health@Com

I am very sorry to hear about that!.
But one thing you can do is help her to get over it!. I know that kinda sounds mean, but since she does have a baby, she does need to be spending her attention and time with the baby!.
She needs to know that no matter what, she needs to keep her head up high and always smile as if her husband wasn't dead!. I am sure that he is watching over her and the baby as well!.
Always be with her though, that is one important thing!. Offer to her to take care of the baby while she goes out for a day to get her mind off of things!. Even if it is going for a walk or something!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Just be a friend, be there for her whenever she needs it, the best thing for her is to be around supportive and loving people!. Just be aware she doesn't do anything reckless or self-destructive, especially with the baby!.!.!.if so try to get her into some counseling, there is also many support groups for people just in her situation!.!.try to do some research for her to get her to those meetings!. Try to get her to focus on her child that he gave her, it will be a reminder of al the great he did for her and the family!.!.her pain will never go away, but it can fade in timeWww@Answer-Health@Com

I lost my husband very unexpectedly and we were on holiday in Greece when he died, when I came home I felt as though I should apologise to friends and family for any inconvenience I was causing them, but they did'nt really know what to say or do for me but all I can say to you is just by being there for your friend is enough!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Sit with her, hold her!.!.try to bring optimism and normal 'creature comforts' into her day!.!. she'll probably want to recall things about him!. encourage that!.!.
best!.!.have a wake, or memorial party in his honor, where people gather and share positive memories about him!.!. Don't tell her to 'get over it' or remind her that she 'has to move on'!.!.!.
Witness for her!.!.try to get her to do simple normal little things with you, 'coz she feels paarlyzed right now!.!. I lost my own loved one unexpectedly in Dec!. 2005, and spent the whole next year crashing and burning!.!.!. there's no quick fix!.!.!.!.but ultimately!.!.!.good grief counseling will do her the best good!.!.!.when she's ready for it!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

well, she can go to counseling and as a Friend you should comfort her and tell her everything will fine!. Death is a part of life, everyone has to go through that pain and trauma in the their life!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Be there for her but try to give her space to grieve!. That's very important!. Help her with other important activities that she may be neglecting!.
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just be there for her when she needs you that's what my best friends did and try to help when she gets back to her home that's when she will need someone after the funeral just be there for her ok Www@Answer-Health@Com





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