Is he hiding something or am I just paranoid ?!
Question: Is he hiding something or am I just paranoid !?
My boyfriend and I both went to Rehab!. I went first and he went a week after I got home!. When I came home I told him about the patents I had met and the phone numbers I recieved both male and female!. And I told him about the conversations that I had the few times right after I came home with the males!. there is no cheating in our relationship or secrets!. I did this to make everything public to my boyfriend so he would feel secure in the relationship and trust me!.
However when he got home he mentioned a few folks that he got numbers from!. None female!. We don't have a home phone, but live together, and use eachothers cells from time to time!. I grabbed his to call my cousin about a week ago and there was several numbers that I didnt know!. And some incalls from those numbers that he never mentioned from the same area code as the town we went to treatment in!. The two that worry me are Milisa, and ! entries!.
I offhandedly mentioned last night what someone had said to me while there!. My boydfriend said oh I know her she was outpaitent while I was in there!. I said I wonder who else was there when I was there that was still there when you got in!. I mentioned this girl I didnt like!. Then he said well that cant be the same Milisa!. He then spoke of her in glowing terms, said that they sat around and talked about a lot of **** the whole time he was there, and that she was his little buddy!. And that she was one of two that he wanted to call!. !.!.!.!.!. he Never mentioned her and hes been home for over a month!.
Infact I do even remember this girl!. She came right before I left!.!.!. and in my opinion she reminds me of a better more anorexic version of me!.!.!.
that's even more disconcerting!. She's pale, long red hair, very nice and very quiet, just like me!. Blue eyes and all!.!.!. Shes just even younger, even prettier and stick thin!. I am thin but I have curves!. He once told me, Well I always used to date anorexic looking women thats what i like but then I realized i didnt want to be with someone who was hurting themselves or killing themselves!.!.!.!.but I used to exclusivly date scrawney girls!.
So i know he finds her both easy to talk to!. "buddy", he cares enough to want to call her, I know he finds her attractive (fearfully more than he does me], and he never mentioned her!.!.!. Im guessing because he feels guilty for feeling something for her!.!.!. or worst case senario he has far more to hide than just scoping out another option!.!.!.!.
Further now I am even more worried about the entry titled !
Every other entry has a name of some kind!.!.!. why title it that unless he knows I use his phone occasionally and didn't want me to see the name!.
Does something seem fishy in all of this or am I just paranoid
what should i do if it does seem like a red flagWww@Answer-Health@Com
However when he got home he mentioned a few folks that he got numbers from!. None female!. We don't have a home phone, but live together, and use eachothers cells from time to time!. I grabbed his to call my cousin about a week ago and there was several numbers that I didnt know!. And some incalls from those numbers that he never mentioned from the same area code as the town we went to treatment in!. The two that worry me are Milisa, and ! entries!.
I offhandedly mentioned last night what someone had said to me while there!. My boydfriend said oh I know her she was outpaitent while I was in there!. I said I wonder who else was there when I was there that was still there when you got in!. I mentioned this girl I didnt like!. Then he said well that cant be the same Milisa!. He then spoke of her in glowing terms, said that they sat around and talked about a lot of **** the whole time he was there, and that she was his little buddy!. And that she was one of two that he wanted to call!. !.!.!.!.!. he Never mentioned her and hes been home for over a month!.
Infact I do even remember this girl!. She came right before I left!.!.!. and in my opinion she reminds me of a better more anorexic version of me!.!.!.
that's even more disconcerting!. She's pale, long red hair, very nice and very quiet, just like me!. Blue eyes and all!.!.!. Shes just even younger, even prettier and stick thin!. I am thin but I have curves!. He once told me, Well I always used to date anorexic looking women thats what i like but then I realized i didnt want to be with someone who was hurting themselves or killing themselves!.!.!.!.but I used to exclusivly date scrawney girls!.
So i know he finds her both easy to talk to!. "buddy", he cares enough to want to call her, I know he finds her attractive (fearfully more than he does me], and he never mentioned her!.!.!. Im guessing because he feels guilty for feeling something for her!.!.!. or worst case senario he has far more to hide than just scoping out another option!.!.!.!.
Further now I am even more worried about the entry titled !
Every other entry has a name of some kind!.!.!. why title it that unless he knows I use his phone occasionally and didn't want me to see the name!.
Does something seem fishy in all of this or am I just paranoid
what should i do if it does seem like a red flagWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I think you have answered your own question!. Go by your instincts, they are most often right!. I would confront him and let him know you do not appreciate him keeping secrets!. You were open and honest to protect his feelings and would expect him to consider your feelings as well!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
there is something definitely fishyWww@Answer-Health@Com