Low Self-Esteem problems?!
Question: Low Self-Esteem problems!?
((sorry if i spelt the title wrong))
I have very very low self-Esteem
I don't know why
and if anyone has a negative comment to say about me
I take it soooo personally
it doesn't even have to be that bad or even from someone i don't like!.
So i have questions about it!.!.!.!.
1!.) How do I stop being this way!?
((DO NOT suggest conciling!.!.!.because i will not do it))
2!.) Why am I like this!?
3!.)How can rise my self-esteem!?
thank you so much for your answers
they mean alot
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I have very very low self-Esteem
I don't know why
and if anyone has a negative comment to say about me
I take it soooo personally
it doesn't even have to be that bad or even from someone i don't like!.
So i have questions about it!.!.!.!.
1!.) How do I stop being this way!?
((DO NOT suggest conciling!.!.!.because i will not do it))
2!.) Why am I like this!?
3!.)How can rise my self-esteem!?
thank you so much for your answers
they mean alot
Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
It is great that you are asking for advice! I am sorry that you say you won't go for counseling because it can be very helpful to a lot of people and you should never be ashamed when you need help!. Everyone needs help at some time in there lives!. I can tell you that there are lots of things you can do to help with your self-esteem (and you spelled it just fine!) There is something called affirmative thoughts!. There are things that you KNOW you are good at!. When you start having negative thoughts you need to remind yourself that even though you may not feel good about this thing your are really good at !.!.!.!.!.Do that EVERY time you have negative thoughts!. There may be people in your life that, because of their ignorance, say things that are hurtful to you, and over time, you have come to believe them!. This happens a lot and you are not alone if this is going on with you!. The best advice I can offer you is that you have to learn to ignore what they say!. You don't HAVE to believe the things they tell you!. You have the choice to be whatever kind of person you want to be period!. Negative people are big time downers!. You have to learn to think positive thoughts, even if you have to force yourself to do it!. Practice, practice, practice!. I'm not sure how old you are, but, as you get older you won't be as sensitive to something you think is negative being said!. You will develop what people call a "thick skin"!. There will be days when you will still think everyone is talking about you or thinking bad things about you but then there will be days when you will take things for what they are and not read anything into them!. You may need to check some books out at the library that talk about people improving themselves or overcoming negative things!. I wish you the best of luck and I know that things will get better for you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'll start with the easier questions first!. Low self-esteem is often attributed to emotional and/or physical trauma!. How was your childhood!? Positive or negative!?
You can rise your self-esteem by focusing on pleasing yourself!. I, too, have a very low self-esteem, and speak with experience!. I cannot emphasize this aspect enough!. You need to find YOU!. It isn't easy!. It isn't the way you've imagined living for the past X amount of years!. I know!. But it is necessary! You cannot truly please yourself by only pleasing others!. It doesn't work that way!. Delve into books, art, music, sewing, exercise, etc!. until you get a glimpse of what you actually enjoy (and what you don't)!. That glimpse is your reward - it is hope!. In my opinion, that is what you are lacking!.
Now, the toughie!. You have to learn how to truly accept the negatives in life, without turning it towards yourself (self-blame)!. I couldn't do that until I have developed *some* positive self-esteem!. [Maybe that's why this Q is such a toughie for me!] Say, Joe doesn't like the pasta you made!. Don't take it personally! We all don't like the same things- we are all different in many ways, but that doesn't mean that we don't like or love one another!. You freaking out about his dissatisfaction is blowing everything way out of proportion!. Just an example!.!.hope you understand that train of thought!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can rise your self-esteem by focusing on pleasing yourself!. I, too, have a very low self-esteem, and speak with experience!. I cannot emphasize this aspect enough!. You need to find YOU!. It isn't easy!. It isn't the way you've imagined living for the past X amount of years!. I know!. But it is necessary! You cannot truly please yourself by only pleasing others!. It doesn't work that way!. Delve into books, art, music, sewing, exercise, etc!. until you get a glimpse of what you actually enjoy (and what you don't)!. That glimpse is your reward - it is hope!. In my opinion, that is what you are lacking!.
Now, the toughie!. You have to learn how to truly accept the negatives in life, without turning it towards yourself (self-blame)!. I couldn't do that until I have developed *some* positive self-esteem!. [Maybe that's why this Q is such a toughie for me!] Say, Joe doesn't like the pasta you made!. Don't take it personally! We all don't like the same things- we are all different in many ways, but that doesn't mean that we don't like or love one another!. You freaking out about his dissatisfaction is blowing everything way out of proportion!. Just an example!.!.hope you understand that train of thought!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you experienced any abuse, like maybe your parents criticizing you relentlessly or anything like that!? I have low self-esteem from a lifetime of abuse and I was just on-line a couple of days ago, looking under "self-esteem improvement"!. There are self-esteem improvement CD's you can buy and other web sites where you can sign up for on-line programs and things like that!. I go to DV support groups and I also belong to a Yahoo on-line support group called Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents!. It was a miracle to find out I'm not the only person with such a psycho mother!. You could also read books about improving your self-esteem!. Stay away from people and situations that make you feel worse about yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well i think you have a bright mind so your a good person so !.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's one symptom of Avoidant Personality Disorder, which I struggled with for years!. Once my boss even noticed that I have low self-esteem!. I was made fun of in middle school, those sons-of-bitches!. May they burn in hell!. I'm still despised in bars and clubs, because I am so uncool and have such stupid looks!. Don't let the photo fool ya!. That was a rare angle!
Anyway, for the last 20 years or so I've been combatting it by learning things that most people don't know, such as playing the piano and guitar; learning Spanish, becoming a black belt, learning scuba diving, learning dancing, studying other foreign languages, travelling to Europe, driving Firebirds, learning to work on Volkswagons, riding my bicycle, having a really nice laptop computer, keeping up with my career as an electrical engineer, increasing my vocabulary, paying off my house, learning the Bible, basically just being better than everyone else!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Anyway, for the last 20 years or so I've been combatting it by learning things that most people don't know, such as playing the piano and guitar; learning Spanish, becoming a black belt, learning scuba diving, learning dancing, studying other foreign languages, travelling to Europe, driving Firebirds, learning to work on Volkswagons, riding my bicycle, having a really nice laptop computer, keeping up with my career as an electrical engineer, increasing my vocabulary, paying off my house, learning the Bible, basically just being better than everyone else!.Www@Answer-Health@Com