I feel really disconnected from people?!


Question: I feel really disconnected from people!?
i seem to only be truly happy in my own company!. when im around people, even my friends, i feel kinda nervous and paranoid!.!.!.although i dont think its obvious to other people!.i only feel normal after a drink, i rarely bother with peole when im sober!.!.!.so i drink quite a lot!.and as for relationships with men!.!.well i usually only have brief drunken flings and i have a problem with intimacy!. i could not imagine ever being able to live with someone!i think to the outside world i seem ok but this is how i feel inside!. i also find it hard to concentrate sometimes!.is there somethin wrong with me!.!.!.does anyone else feel this way!?im 25!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Well sweetie it sounds like you have social anxiety!. It is very common and there are ways to treat it!. I have a touch of that as well!. I got real brave and went to my family doctor and told him what I was feeling and he said it was social anxiety!. To treat this he put me on a very low dose of an anti-depressent and I found a therapist and started to talk!. I started out slowly and began to go out!. I started with going to family bars with my sisters and their husbands,we took the kids!. I slowly eased away from them!. I had them bring good friends and then I started by going out with trusted friends to small places such as a park or by relaxing water falls!. Start with what is comfortable with you!. It will get easyer!. And please don't drink so much!. I ended up with a DUI and that is not good for a mother of 2 kids!. I know this will be very hard at first but it will get easyer!. If you would like to, you can e-mail me at cowboymadinmt@yahoo!.com or at lookin4cowboyluv@yahoo!.com
I wouldn't mind talking to you and trying to ease some of your fears!. I have been in your shoes and I truely know how it feels!. I wish you the best of luck honey!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

your lost in what you and/or how to be around the present!. i am almost 30 and drank alot before but i cut back because i was lost !. two people many thoughts dont know how connect with people!. i do know i want to be with a woman and laugh at the world with her but be a total bads-- as well!. you sound like a perfect person and the main thing is is that your happiness is most importantWww@Answer-Health@Com

Don't worry you'll be fine!. You probably don't like to approach
strangers in a bar (well it is a bar after all)!. You might find it hard too because you probably don't have siblings to live with!. What problem do you foresee with living with someone!? You should be ok!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You sound like a real introvert and that's not a bad thing!.

I sort of feel that way sometimes but not to the point where I'm paranoid!.!.!.and I don't drink (I'm 16) Are you anxious around in social situations!? If you are, you might, MIGHT, have a mild case of social phobia!. I think when you're around your friends, just relax and be yourself I mean after all, they are your friends!. Even with other people don't worry too much about what they think of you (if that's what you do)!.

I used to feel like everyone was always looking at every move I make and judging my every action, but then I realized that those people have lives of their own and probably couldn't care less!.

I think it's okay to enjoy your own company, but of course it won't hurt to socialize with others a little, especially your friends!. Life is more intersting that way, don't you think!? Www@Answer-Health@Com

I am the same age, and have similar concerns!. Like you, I also drink in order to facilitate socializing, but this can be very unhealthy, because you will not know what to do when you don't have that drink!. It sounds to me as if you have a touch of Social Anxiety Disorder!. This is especially true if you want to interact more deeply with others, but your fears won't let you do that!. Are you afraid of other people judging you, or thinking that you are weird!? I worry about others perceiving me as socially inept, so I don't socialize much, which decreases the awkwardness!.

Unfortunately, socialization is not like riding a bicycle!. If you don't do it often enough, you will have trouble doing it with ease and confidence!. You need to take small steps to get back into society!. First, maybe you could just try going out for walks, where you can be in the presence of others, but you don't have to interact much farther than simply saying "hi" to people!. Next, go to the grocery store!. Here, you can get minimal interaction with the cashiers!. After you are more comfortable with that, you could try to find a group that caters to your interests!. You may want to go to meetups!.com and see if you can find a group for introverts!. Of course, you may have already mastered some of these steps, so in that case you can skip right into finding a group!. You might also want to see a counselor and share your fears with him or her!. Ask if they organize a support group for shy people!. It can't hurt!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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