How to deal with emotional abuse?!
Question: How to deal with emotional abuse!?
He says very mean things alot!. I have to walk on egg shells around him!. Never knowing when he's going to snap!. This person says he loves me but I'm not sureWww@Answer-Health@Com
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Is this your parent or a significant other!.!.!.!.!?!? Two different scenarios with each!.!.!.!.if he's your father, try to enlist the help of your mom or another close relative or trusted school teacher; If he's a boyfriend or spouse!.!.!.Leave!! Better now before it escalates to physical abuse as well!.!.!.there are shelters, etc for emotionally battered women if you need that, or just get out, go home to your parents until you can get on your feet, or just find another place to be!.!.its not easy, but you deserve better than walking on egg shells around someone who supposedly "loves" you (and you are right not to be sure about that!.)Www@Answer-Health@Com
You dont have to accept this kind of thing!. I dont mean you should respond by saying mean things as well (it doesnt sound like you would) but tell this person something like you prefer not to spend time with him when hes being like that!. Or avoid him for a bit and see if he gets the message!.
Also if his behaviour varies a lot, try to let everything go over your head when hes being like that (easier said than done I know) and then discuss his behaviour with him when hes in a more reasonable mood!. You might be able to work out a way of dealing with it!. Im assuming this person is important to you otherwise why would you put up with it at all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also if his behaviour varies a lot, try to let everything go over your head when hes being like that (easier said than done I know) and then discuss his behaviour with him when hes in a more reasonable mood!. You might be able to work out a way of dealing with it!. Im assuming this person is important to you otherwise why would you put up with it at all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you should think long and hard about weather you want to stay with this person!. My mother stayed with my father for 42 years and the emotional abuse turned into physical abuse a lot of times and they fought around us children all the time!. If you stay with him and start a family I think it would be irresponsible!. If he says mean things to you than that is not a show of love!. He should treat you with kindness and think everyday what he can do to make your life easier and put a smile on your face and in your heart and he should treat you with dignaty and respect/you deserve better!. I used to be like him during my 1st relationship and i guess I did love my boyfriend but did not, back then know how to treat someone with love, I was sick from my past and my boyfriend deserved better!. He broke up with me and I got councelling and now I have learned that I had a lot of pain, and that i was just taking it out on him!. I finally learned how to let it go* now that i am truly happy inside with myself I treat others better*there is hope for him!. Dr phil book helped me alot Self matters!. I hope this helps!. I know life decisions are hard, just remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and things like this only get worse, I know i have been the one who was abusive with my boyfriend and i just got more and more angry!. until i got help I hated myself and wanted everyone to be as miserable as I was!. Live strong!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
LEAVE!
You are worth more than this person and they are doing more harm than you realise!.
He will never change!. Get out or look forward to a life of fear and eggshells!.
There's so much more to life than this man's childish selfishness!.
Very best of luck
Lee-Anne
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You are worth more than this person and they are doing more harm than you realise!.
He will never change!. Get out or look forward to a life of fear and eggshells!.
There's so much more to life than this man's childish selfishness!.
Very best of luck
Lee-Anne
http://MentalHealthMadeEasy!.com
Www@Answer-Health@Com