I look like a person you see and forget about a few seconds later... really bad !
Question: I look like a person you see and forget about a few seconds later!.!.!. really bad body image!. help!?
I think I've got quite a poor self image!.I have a fixation with the fact that I'm not physically appealing, and my problems start from there!.I have Irish skin !.!.!. really fair !.!.!. with dark brown hair and eyes that look black!. Due to my complexion and features, people often tell me I look 'tired' or 'better with a tan'!. I have no self confidence at all and I look in the mirror everyday and cringe!. When I'm feeling hormonal in the month I will lay in bed and cry about my looks!. I also don't trust people and am quite reserved around people I don't know well due to a fear of being hurt!. It takes me a long time to gain trust with people and to open up and be friendly, rather than distant and aloof and reserved!. Next, I don't have the confidence to pull off pretty dresses and such so I tend to wear clothing that will allow me to blend !.!.!. such as jeans and so forth!. I look so plain, average and hideous!. I don't believe any person could ever find me remotely attractive!. Do I have a low self image!? Is it possible that I actually am ugly and that I'm just honest and realistic and I admit that I'm ugly rather than lying to myself and pretending to be pretty!? Thanks!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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It's time for a little tough love!. I have no idea how attractive or unattractive you are!. Fair skin and dark hair actually sounds lovely, but you can be the judge!. Here's the issue though - you MUST make your life about more than your looks!. Newsflash - looks fade, sexy wears off!. Start by taking small steps - brighten your wardrobe!. No one is saying that you have to wear designer dresses or flashy outfits, just find a few colors that flatter you and incorporate them into your wardrobe!. You'll seem more approachable!. You're a 21 year old female - take yourself down to a cosmetic counter (Clinique is affordable) and get a makeover!. That doesn't mean wearing tons of makeup - you can wear very little and still get rid of a "tired" look!. That may be as simple as a dab of concealer under your eyes and a little blush!. Here's another tip - stop comparing yourself to others!. So you don't look like a super model, so what!? None of us do!. And even the super models are air brushed to look better!. You say that you don't trust people, but you don't say why!. If someone has hurt you, then don't trust THAT person - don't take it out on all of mankind!. If you have no basis for that mistrust then I'd say grow up, get out there, and take a chance!. You're obviously miserable living the way that you are, so really - could taking a chance be any worse!? You sound like you wallow in your misery!. Laying in bed and crying about your looks - really!? If you ask a hundred men what qualities make a woman sexy you'll probably get a hundred different answers - but nearly all of them will include "confidence"!. You say that you're reserved - okay, some folks are naturally more reserved!. That's normal!. But if being reserved makes you unhappy then do something about it!. No one is suggesting that you try to become a party animal overnight!. You're 21, not a child - join a group based on a common interest - a book club, a rock climbing group, a musical society - ANYTHING that interests you!. There are solutions to everything that you've complained about, but YOU have to step up and take control instead of whining!. An obsession with your looks is never healthy, whether you love or hate them!. Life is not all about looks!. Be a whole person - you're much more than just your hair color or skin tone!. No one wants to be around someone who is sad and depressing - but a capable, laughing, interesting person is attractive to everyone!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
All I can say is that is is ok to tell lies to your friends!.!.!. But dont lie to youreself, it cas cause greater heartache hunny!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like you do have low self esteem and no confidence in yourself, I think you need to talk to someone who is trained in this field but I do not believe there is any such thing as been ugly or beautiful, you look at someone who is a model some may think she is gorgeous others may not, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, anyway I hope this helps and take care and stay safe!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Beauty is projected from within!. Beauty is a blend of taking care of your outside appearance but also projecting a positive feeling from your soul!. Don't be so obsessed with yourself!. Be pleasant and generous to the people around you, and you will be appreciated as a person!. Shyness and lack of trust can be overcome!. Smile and people will smile back!. As for looking "hideous", eat healthy food, drink lots of water, appreciate nature, look at the good things in your life!. Learn to love the positive things about yourself and not to dwell on the negative aspects!. No one is perfect!. You have a very low self image!. Make the best of the looks that you have!. Be happy!
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you need therapy and a socail life and you need to consult with a hairdresser and get a makeover so what are you doing with your life are you in college do you work you need to get out of this prision you are in and ask and look for different peoples opionons rather than thinking everyone is judging you now you are suffering from depression go and get some help life is what you make it and not everybody is a perfect looking person god makes us all different change your attitude people just dont react to angry people everybody gets hurt but my mom told us never to give up keep searching and fighting for what you want this is going to take work on your part I am just a plain person but I have a husband grandkids the whole bit so work on this i I know you can do thisWww@Answer-Health@Com
I used to feel the same!.
Then i thought, i'm not going to magically wake up one day and be beautiful, if i want things to change i will have to put some effort in!
I saved up, got some advice and a proper haircut from a hairdresser (not just a trim, a complete restyle and some styling product tips)!. Immediately I felt a lot better about myself!.
Sounds like I have a similar skin tone to you, i use illuminating mosturisers/ foundations and some of that light gradual tan stuff that you can get so i get a healthy (but not orange!) glow to my face!. Carefully applied cream blushers to the the apples of your cheeks can also work wonders!.
I know it sounds bad to say that changing the way you look will make you feel better, but a bit of a new look and feeling more confident about the way you look will do wonders for your self esteem and might give you a little bit more confidence about addressing some of the other issues in your life!?
No one is ugly, but looking unhappy and miserable will never make you look pretty!. I'm not the most attractive of people but i'm told that my smile is amazing and lights up my face, making people feel more drawn to me than they were before!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Then i thought, i'm not going to magically wake up one day and be beautiful, if i want things to change i will have to put some effort in!
I saved up, got some advice and a proper haircut from a hairdresser (not just a trim, a complete restyle and some styling product tips)!. Immediately I felt a lot better about myself!.
Sounds like I have a similar skin tone to you, i use illuminating mosturisers/ foundations and some of that light gradual tan stuff that you can get so i get a healthy (but not orange!) glow to my face!. Carefully applied cream blushers to the the apples of your cheeks can also work wonders!.
I know it sounds bad to say that changing the way you look will make you feel better, but a bit of a new look and feeling more confident about the way you look will do wonders for your self esteem and might give you a little bit more confidence about addressing some of the other issues in your life!?
No one is ugly, but looking unhappy and miserable will never make you look pretty!. I'm not the most attractive of people but i'm told that my smile is amazing and lights up my face, making people feel more drawn to me than they were before!.Www@Answer-Health@Com