Is his depression the cause of this?!
Question: Is his depression the cause of this!?
last year hubby left me saying he doesn't love me anymore, he was really ill, developed ocd, talking gibberish amongst over things!. Anyway i insisted he went to the docs and he was diagnosed with depression and given medication!. He took the medication but never went back to the docs and just stopped his tablets!. Things seemed fine yet 9 weeks ago he came home and told me again he doesn't love me and left!. been to the docs and been diagnosed with depression again ffs, taking tabs and promises me he will keep seeing doc, (i see him everyday, hubby not doc lol)!. Hubby told me last weekend that he does love me but since said again that he doesn't!. Is it his depression that makes him feel different from day to day or is he trying to convince himself he loves me cos of how long we have been together, (22 years 2 kids)!. ThanksWww@Answer-Health@Com
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I can only speak on what my own depression has done to me and my family and see if it sounds close to your husband!. I told my husband the same thing because I feel like I am a disappointment to him and my family and I want him and my family happy and sometimes I feel that he can be happier with someone else who isn't as messed up as me and maybe he can find a better mother for our children!.But deep down I love him and my children with every thing that I am and I just want them to be happy!.Good luck with your husband!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, that is a tough question and a tough situation!. I think that the real answer to that cannot be found until he is better, but at the same time, you can't keep going through this!. I would see his doctor together and a marriage counselor and work together to find the answer!. I think he might not even know himself at this point!. Its hard to love someone else when you can't even live with yourself!. I would definitely start talking to professionals about it though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
"Like anybody cares that your suffering!. You get what you deserve!."
Maybe you should be a little more compassionate if you expect people to care about your problems!.
No, I don't really think so, and don't patronize me as I'm not a child, unlike you, who think that the world revolves around them and they have the right to judge other people!. Maybe you're just a bad wife so you're getting what you deserve, just like that girl has some painful cramps because she had an abortion!. Big deal!.
Besides, "deary", at least I know the difference between "you're" and "your", but you're so smart you have all the answers AND you're the judge of all people, obviously!.
You're obviously an alright lady, too, Cari!. =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe you should be a little more compassionate if you expect people to care about your problems!.
No, I don't really think so, and don't patronize me as I'm not a child, unlike you, who think that the world revolves around them and they have the right to judge other people!. Maybe you're just a bad wife so you're getting what you deserve, just like that girl has some painful cramps because she had an abortion!. Big deal!.
Besides, "deary", at least I know the difference between "you're" and "your", but you're so smart you have all the answers AND you're the judge of all people, obviously!.
You're obviously an alright lady, too, Cari!. =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
depresion camake him feel very unsure of his feelings, if he is severly depressed he mayhave lost his feelings completely, and this might make him thik that he does not love you, but the guilt of hurting you may make him tell you he does!. deression is an ugly illness and id advise you to wait and see what happens, because it is very possible that this is the illness talking, Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe you both need time and space to focus on what you want from life!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
MY perspective is!.!.!.!.definitely its because of depression!.!.!.HIS mental health should be taken care!.!.!.
1!.)this is because of the reason what yo said and as i mentioned(depression)!.!.in some sort of things!.!.!.
2)or some kinda problem which he cant let it out or leak to anyone,even to yo!.!.may be afraid!.!.!.
my advice to yo is to meet him in a nice day when he seems comfortable with yo!.!.and have a meaning full talk!.!.that may open his mind fully to yo!.!.!.ask him to speak frankly and respond him with care and love!.!.!.!.
ITS ALL WITH YO AND NOBODY ELSE can take care!.!.actually there is no perfect medications for mental problems!!! got it!.!.
your kids need a father!.!.think and act!.!.try try try until its get normal!.!.every thing wil be alright soon!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!.)this is because of the reason what yo said and as i mentioned(depression)!.!.in some sort of things!.!.!.
2)or some kinda problem which he cant let it out or leak to anyone,even to yo!.!.may be afraid!.!.!.
my advice to yo is to meet him in a nice day when he seems comfortable with yo!.!.and have a meaning full talk!.!.that may open his mind fully to yo!.!.!.ask him to speak frankly and respond him with care and love!.!.!.!.
ITS ALL WITH YO AND NOBODY ELSE can take care!.!.actually there is no perfect medications for mental problems!!! got it!.!.
your kids need a father!.!.think and act!.!.try try try until its get normal!.!.every thing wil be alright soon!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just reiterate the same compassion you had for a fellow asker!.!.!.
Like anybody cares that your suffering!. You get what you deserve!.
How does it feel!?
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Sweetheart I've been out of school for about six years!. No I really don't think her problems are all that different from yours!. She came on YA looking for help, much like you did!. She is going through something she probably doesn't want to be either!. The same as you!. Get off your high horse and stop think you are better than her!. Your not!. At least she has the ability to be honest with herself and admit when something just isn't going to work!. She could probably teach you a thing or two!. Don't you think, deary!?
Sunshine!.!.!. I like you :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Like anybody cares that your suffering!. You get what you deserve!.
How does it feel!?
ETA:
Sweetheart I've been out of school for about six years!. No I really don't think her problems are all that different from yours!. She came on YA looking for help, much like you did!. She is going through something she probably doesn't want to be either!. The same as you!. Get off your high horse and stop think you are better than her!. Your not!. At least she has the ability to be honest with herself and admit when something just isn't going to work!. She could probably teach you a thing or two!. Don't you think, deary!?
Sunshine!.!.!. I like you :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
As a sufferer of depression!. I suppose I am lucky!. I can live with it and hide it!. I did take pills but only for two days!.Maybe he is trying to load some of the feelings onto you!. Maybe he blames you for it!. I don`t know your circumstances of course!. My advice would be to make sure you are there for him!. You seem the level headed type of person that is not going to just walk out of the door!. Do you ever try to talk to him!. I cant explain it here but it can get very complicated at times!. A lot of people think you can just smile and get on with life!. I wish it was that easy!. Have you got any debt problems for instance that could be playing on his mind!. Kid problems!? A time comes when pills just don`t do it!. Talking to a councillor might!. I feel that it`s too easy to ram pills down your throat!. What he might need is somebody that`s been there!. That knows what it feels like!. It could be the best medicine!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com