Anxiety about seeing roommate?!
Question: Anxiety about seeing roommate!?
Yeah so I been living in the dorm for about two months!. I'm lucky that my roommate only stays for three day each week and then goes home!. But lately, evey week when she's here for that three days!. I don't like to stay in the room with her, I find a way to always not stay in the room!. I sneak back in the room late at night andI don't open the light at all!. She goes to bed really early like around 10 & 11 PM!. She sleeps in the dark!. I go to bed between 12-2 am and hate to sleep in the dark!. During those time I am up late, I study!. She gets up at 8 am!. She opens the tv and is on her laptop at between 8am-9am while I'm sleeping!. I talk to her and ask her if she can turn the tv on at 10 am and i typical get up at 11 am!. (She's only taking three classes and none of her classes are early in the morning!. And almost every time I see her, she's watching tv or on her laptop!.) So she said why don't you go to sleep early!. I got angry and walked out the room!. Ever since then I can't stand to be around!. I get this strange urge to dropkick her!. We don't even say a word to each other even before the incident!. If I said good morning she wouldn't say a word back!. So every time she comes back monday night I start counting down until thursday night the day she leaves!. I'm wrong or do I even have a reason to be mad!?
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wow I am in a similar situation!.
My roommate likes to go to bed early too and I like to stay up later!. I like studying in my room but like you I have been going to another room to study and do my work!. I change into my pajamas go into the other room and do my stuff so that when I come back I don't make any noise as to wake her up!. I don't have any morning classes, (my earliest is at 10:30 AM and her latest is at 9:00AM So i sleep in in the mornings and every morning her friends come to pick her up for breakfast and they knock and yell for her to hurry up!. she goes home every weekend and I haven't been home once!.
usually if she is studying in the room I go to the library to study!. When she is in the room I try to leave it to her!. I clean the room, I buy air fresheners and febreeeze, I vacuum once a week she never has done this yet!. Although we both keep our sides of the room very neat!.
Sometimes relationships work best if one person just sucks it up sacrifices and keeps the peace!. That is what I'm doing and so far we have been getting along perfectly!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
My roommate likes to go to bed early too and I like to stay up later!. I like studying in my room but like you I have been going to another room to study and do my work!. I change into my pajamas go into the other room and do my stuff so that when I come back I don't make any noise as to wake her up!. I don't have any morning classes, (my earliest is at 10:30 AM and her latest is at 9:00AM So i sleep in in the mornings and every morning her friends come to pick her up for breakfast and they knock and yell for her to hurry up!. she goes home every weekend and I haven't been home once!.
usually if she is studying in the room I go to the library to study!. When she is in the room I try to leave it to her!. I clean the room, I buy air fresheners and febreeeze, I vacuum once a week she never has done this yet!. Although we both keep our sides of the room very neat!.
Sometimes relationships work best if one person just sucks it up sacrifices and keeps the peace!. That is what I'm doing and so far we have been getting along perfectly!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe you should be going to bed early!. lol jk!. honestly, im in a dorm too and sometimes you have to make a sacrifice living with another person, you shouldn't have stormed out like you did!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are wrong!. You have the room to yourself the other 4 days of the week!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well you get thursday night great party night friday and saturday too are awesome!. My freshman year was the same as your EXCEPT i had another loser!.!.!.!. this one kid never even went to class why was he here im thinkin why just leave u loser u sit in the room alllllll day long i cant even jerk off leave go to the diners do something but at the end of the day he left every thursday noon cameback sunday very late night so now i had nate this kid just as big of a loser but actually went to classes and did good he left fridays and cameback sundays he was ok about me staying up late i mean its my room as much as his so id say to her i dont give a **** if the lights are out im not six ill keep the lights out but im going to watch tv get ear plugs because the best thing i did was get one of those eye masks cause all my classes were late and ear plugs cause these losers went to bed early cause they had early classes and i didnt anyways we never came to a comprimise so i found my own solution and wore the eye things so it was always dark and had my friend that lived right next door wake me up at 1pm if i was still sleeping for my late classes other than that u should be thankfull u have the room thursdays sleep in on fri sat and sun because honestly im in the real world now and litterally mon-sun an alarm has woke me up since feb 15 of last year so 9 months str8 i have yet to sleep in till like 1pm or 4pm just once i dont wanna work or focus on work or do some kind of work so i dont get behind on work but i need to pay the bills so i suck it up and even holidays 4th of july worked - so enjoy the few days u can sleep in and if u dont piss her off enough to a comprimise youre gonna have to suck it up and where those eye thingys girls where(my girlfriends gave me the idea) i added earplugs and typically second semester was good for me maybe not for them cause id stumble in drunk or be loud on my phone talking to my girl oh well if they dont know how to be respectfull then neither do i!. They choose to go home so when the kid above says ur wrong u get it 3 days well thats her choice she can stay u dont force her to go so shes not doing u any favors thats a favor for her!. So id frist try and piss her off watch tv till 2am talk on the phone play on the computer until shes sick of it and you to can comprimise and show respect for each otherWww@Answer-Health@Com
You are being incredibly unreasonable and selfish!.
Whether you get to see your family or not is nothing to do with it - why are you even bringing this up, unless it's to justify your own bad behaviour!?
The fact is, that going to bed at 10 or 11pm and getting up at 8 or 9am is reasonable, normal behaviour!. Going to bed at 2am and getting up at 11am is your choice, and other people shouldn't have to adjust to your routines just because you choose to go to bed late and get up when the rest of the world thinks that the day is half over!.
Have a little bit of maturity, and realise that you are the one who is probably inconvencing her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whether you get to see your family or not is nothing to do with it - why are you even bringing this up, unless it's to justify your own bad behaviour!?
The fact is, that going to bed at 10 or 11pm and getting up at 8 or 9am is reasonable, normal behaviour!. Going to bed at 2am and getting up at 11am is your choice, and other people shouldn't have to adjust to your routines just because you choose to go to bed late and get up when the rest of the world thinks that the day is half over!.
Have a little bit of maturity, and realise that you are the one who is probably inconvencing her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That is quite strange that she is paying for a dorm room but goes home so much!. Hopefully she will warm up to you!. Try to stay polite when you talk to her, starting an argument doesn't help matters!. Try to talk with her to work out your problems!. Ask her again if she could be considerate while you are sleeping and keep the noise down and the TV off!. She may feel annoyed that you are disturbing her sleep by coming in so late at night while she is sleeping, this may be why she made that comment and doesn't care about turning on the TV while you are sleeping!. Listen to any issues she might have too, just try to work something out with her that will make you both happy!. You may both have to make some compromises, but it would be the better for it!. Ask her about leaving the window shades open at night to let some light in, or if you can put a night light on your side of the room!. If that doesn't work, just buy a bright alarm clock for your side of the room haha!. I have had issues with a roommate before and know it is not fun at all!. Do your best to make the situation better, avoiding the problem can only work for so long, then you will both be even more upset with each other!. And if all of your sincere attempts at working things out fail, I would go talk to an RA or your hall director about it!. They may be able to help, and if not they can help arrange you to move into another room with a new roommate!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
it sounds like you have the same problem with one another!.
why do you need to have the tv on at 10 if you wake up at 11!?
if shes already there why cant she just be nice and turn it on for you!?
maybe youre not being as quiet as you think when you sneak in at 12-2!.
you shouldnt even be mad, and neither should she!. try to talk it out!. if that doesnt work then why cant you just apply for a new room or something!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
why do you need to have the tv on at 10 if you wake up at 11!?
if shes already there why cant she just be nice and turn it on for you!?
maybe youre not being as quiet as you think when you sneak in at 12-2!.
you shouldnt even be mad, and neither should she!. try to talk it out!. if that doesnt work then why cant you just apply for a new room or something!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds to me like you women need a good cat fight!? Seriously though why don't you bring it up next time in a calm and professional matter like a mature mother would to her kid!. See if you can work out the hard feelings!. It may be uncomfortable but not any worse then having to avoid her all the time!?
Regards,
JaredWww@Answer-Health@Com
Regards,
JaredWww@Answer-Health@Com
Negative emotions (like sadness, stress, anger, etc!.) causes your Serotonin production to be low; when your Serotonin level is low, you are more prone to getting Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Depression, etc!.
Medication like Antidepressants (SSRI - Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor) helps to boost Serotonin level!.
But there are natural ways to do it without medication!. There's this strange herb called "St John's Wort" - it is said to be more effective than Prozac!. No, it is not for mild depression only and ignore those sayings!. In fact, it does help anxiety and panic-attacks as St John's Wort works like prozac!. Other natural ways will be exercise, diet, more exposure to light, etc!.
The problem is that, even if your Serotonin is balanced!.!.!. you have that "learned behavior" in your mind!. You need to break that initial cycle to destroy that learned behavior - Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) does this!. A technique that you can use without CBT will be Distraction!.!.!. There are several other techniques to help cope them!
Ok, to use Distraction: Firstly, try to!.!.!.!.
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Medication like Antidepressants (SSRI - Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor) helps to boost Serotonin level!.
But there are natural ways to do it without medication!. There's this strange herb called "St John's Wort" - it is said to be more effective than Prozac!. No, it is not for mild depression only and ignore those sayings!. In fact, it does help anxiety and panic-attacks as St John's Wort works like prozac!. Other natural ways will be exercise, diet, more exposure to light, etc!.
The problem is that, even if your Serotonin is balanced!.!.!. you have that "learned behavior" in your mind!. You need to break that initial cycle to destroy that learned behavior - Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) does this!. A technique that you can use without CBT will be Distraction!.!.!. There are several other techniques to help cope them!
Ok, to use Distraction: Firstly, try to!.!.!.!.
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Your a total brat!. You get the room to yourself most the week and yet you cant handle 3 nights of someone with a different routine!? it sounds to me like you think its your room and she is invading your space but you share the room!. What if she was there all week!? Going to bed at 11:00 is not early you need to cope with this and not give your roommate a hard time!.!.!. get some headphones and a nightlight!.!.!. You are being very unreasonable especially since you don't have that much longer till you get your own room!. SUCK IT UP! Www@Answer-Health@Com