My boyfriend has bipolar...?!


Question: My boyfriend has bipolar!.!.!.!?
I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, and we have a 3 month old son!. Within the past year, he's been very disrespectful towards me!. I must mention, he lives an hour away because of his job, so we only see each other on the weekends!. When I was pregnant, he was a complete jerk!. I know he loves our son, but it's not easy doing it basically on my own!. Our only way of communication during the week is by phone, and typically we get into some sort of argument everyday, but he's constantly hanging up the phone on me, and saying mean things!. He says he loves me, and some days I believe him, but other days he has me questioning it!. I love him with all that I am, we have our son, and I want to be a family, but he's just so hateful 90% of the time!. I don't want to think he's using his bipolar as an advantage, but it makes me wonder!. I mean, even though he has this condition, he should know right from wrong!.!. I don't know what to do!.!.!.should I try and be more understanding because of his bipolar!? Or is it him!? Www@Answer-Health@Com


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I have bipolar disorder and never once in my life ever used it as an excuse or expected to not be held accountable for my actions both good or bad!.!.!.!.there are two types of people who have a disability those who use it as an excuse and those who succeed in spite of it, he sounds like a jerk and you deserve better, but more importantly your son deserves better!.!.do you have any idea what that kind of relationship is doing to your son and how it will affect him in life!?!?!?

to answer your question it's him!.!.bipolar disorder does affect thoughts, mood, thus behavior, but it doesn't give you a free pass to hurt those you claim you love!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

There are meds who help control his behavior but people who are bipolar always struggle with their condition and so do their families!. Try to get help in form of counseling and medical care for your son's sake!. He needs his father in his life but he also needs stability!. In some way the distance may be a blessing!. This is definitely a tough situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Bipolar disorder aka manic depression is not an excuse to treat people badly!. Its a mood disorder and much of the time can be controlled with medication!.

People with this condition can have wide and severe mood swings!. if he seems in a bad mood hang up and talk to him another time!. It would be worthwhile for him to see a mental health professional for evaluation and treatment!.

This doesn't mean you have to live with his abuse or subject your child to it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I am bipolar and never mean or disrespectful!. It affects my moods, but not to hurt another person!. Insist that he go to couples counseling with you, check with a doctor about his meds, make sure he is taking his meds, and if he hits you, leave!. Right now you are being abused!. You have the right to leave an abusive relationship, no matter the cause!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

being bi-polar you are on a roller coaster ride with ups and downs sometimes you just get angry and have to take it out on someone but it really is no excuse for him being a jerk all the time!. Is he on medication!? If not he needs to be and maintain taking it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Have you tried talking to a counselor, perhaps the best cure (and I do not say this often) is medicine to help him balance out his emotions/hormones!. Best Wishes to you and you son-

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If He has Mood-Swings That May Be A Sign Of Bi-Polar But There's No Real Way To Know Unless You Talk To A Doctor!. You Should Tell Him About Your Thoughts And Maybe He Will Feel That He Needs Testing Also!. You Need To Ask A Professional!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

This is not just bipolar you need to have a major talk with him about this he needs to know that it's not okay!Www@Answer-Health@Com

That's why they say watch who you have kids by or when you make your bed you lie in it!. What made you have a child by someone that is bipolar, let me guess "love", the word that makes people do the stupidest things!. You were supposed to look at you and your child's future, now you have to worry about your child being bipolar and this will be a problem for you until he turns 18, trust me I know I used to work at a day care with bipolar kids, and they are a set of kids you DON'T want to be around all the time!. You are going to have a hell of a time trying to find someone to keep him!. As far as your baby dad, try not to worry about him he is apparently not worrying about you, because bipolar people know right from wrong, my best friend is bipolar and she doesn't do her baby dad like that!. Get rid of him while you can you will save yourself a lot less worry, heartache and pain!. Trust me what if your child is bipolar, then you have to deal with two people with a disability that's too much on one person!. Even a doctor would tell you this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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