Do you think this is true?honest opinions please?!
Question: Do you think this is true!?honest opinions please!?
First i want to tell you abit about myself before i ask the question!. I have been seeing a mental health nurse for a while now as i went off the rails abit, very suicidal and have very low self esteem!. I believe i am a bad person and do not deserve help!. Because of this i would push help away as i feared i would ger rejected!. My nurse stayed through this with me and now that i finally admit i need help i see her every week!. As there is a waiting list for therapy she is giving me basic therapy on a weekly basis to try to help, which isn't her job!. Anyway i asked a question yesterday saying that i was worried because i am feeling very attached to my nurse and i am worried what will happen when i have to stop seeing her so i thought maybe it was better to push her away so i wouldn't feel rejected when i have to stop!. One lady gave me this answer which i can't stop thinking about!.
You are playing around with another persons mental health!.
You have placed a burden on this nurse, why!?
Be honest with yourself!.
Get help from a real doctor!.
And tell the truth about your past!.
You sound bi-polor!.
And a bit controlling!.
Do you think i am messing with her mental health, i really care for my nurse and i would never want to do this!. I never thought i would be a burden to her but i guess i am as she is not meant to help me with the therapy, it's not her job!. Please tell me what you think as this is killing me!. I don't have anyone else to talk to and i am so confused!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are playing around with another persons mental health!.
You have placed a burden on this nurse, why!?
Be honest with yourself!.
Get help from a real doctor!.
And tell the truth about your past!.
You sound bi-polor!.
And a bit controlling!.
Do you think i am messing with her mental health, i really care for my nurse and i would never want to do this!. I never thought i would be a burden to her but i guess i am as she is not meant to help me with the therapy, it's not her job!. Please tell me what you think as this is killing me!. I don't have anyone else to talk to and i am so confused!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Whoever gave you that answer is a complete and total twat and should be banned from Yahoo answers!. Lets take it a line at a time!.
"You are playing around with another mental health"!. Erm, she is a Mental Health nurse!. It is her job to be there for you!. You are not playing around with her at all!.
"You have placed a burden on this nurse, why!?" Because she is a MENTAL HEALTH NURSE AND YOU HAVE ISSUES WITH YOUR MENTAL HEALTH!. Thats like accusing you of putting a burden on a surgeon taking out your ruptured appendix!.
"Be honest with yourself" You clearly are being!. YOu are seeking help!. That is honest!.
"Get help from a real doctor" Presumably you were referred by your GP in the first place!.
"And tell the truth about your past" How the f**K does this person come to the assumption that you have not been doing already!?
"You sound bi-polar" and this person is a qualified medical person are they!?
"And a bit controlling" I think we know who the bully really is, don't we!?
And that is all they are - a bully!. Ignore them!.
Incidentally, 'attachment' is completely normal!. Freud always taught his disciples about 'Attachment Theory' - controversial!. You may wish to google it - you'll find loads about it!. Basically, because you are bearing your soul and come to trust your therapist, the relationship often becomes much more in the therapees mind!. Just try to remember that these feelings are normal, but not necessarily real - you have made this women into a very important person in your life - but one day, you will have to let her go!. In the meantime, she is supporting you as best as she can, and when it is ready to move on, hopefully you will have gained the emotional strength to cope!.
Good luck and ignore idiots who put posts up like that!. CxWww@Answer-Health@Com
"You are playing around with another mental health"!. Erm, she is a Mental Health nurse!. It is her job to be there for you!. You are not playing around with her at all!.
"You have placed a burden on this nurse, why!?" Because she is a MENTAL HEALTH NURSE AND YOU HAVE ISSUES WITH YOUR MENTAL HEALTH!. Thats like accusing you of putting a burden on a surgeon taking out your ruptured appendix!.
"Be honest with yourself" You clearly are being!. YOu are seeking help!. That is honest!.
"Get help from a real doctor" Presumably you were referred by your GP in the first place!.
"And tell the truth about your past" How the f**K does this person come to the assumption that you have not been doing already!?
"You sound bi-polar" and this person is a qualified medical person are they!?
"And a bit controlling" I think we know who the bully really is, don't we!?
And that is all they are - a bully!. Ignore them!.
Incidentally, 'attachment' is completely normal!. Freud always taught his disciples about 'Attachment Theory' - controversial!. You may wish to google it - you'll find loads about it!. Basically, because you are bearing your soul and come to trust your therapist, the relationship often becomes much more in the therapees mind!. Just try to remember that these feelings are normal, but not necessarily real - you have made this women into a very important person in your life - but one day, you will have to let her go!. In the meantime, she is supporting you as best as she can, and when it is ready to move on, hopefully you will have gained the emotional strength to cope!.
Good luck and ignore idiots who put posts up like that!. CxWww@Answer-Health@Com
She doesn't have to see you but she does!. That isn't a burden, it's because she wants to help you!. As for the being attatched maybe you could ask her if you could cut down your visits, maybe go once evry 2 weeks, then once a month untily ou don't need her help anymoreWww@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like that lady needs her cuckoo clock wound, and that's being nice!. You sound very sweet, not controlling!. Or you wouldn't be worried about the nurse!. Sounds like you and her have a connection!. And her being a caregiver must feel pretty good in her eyes too!Www@Answer-Health@Com
that's a load of ****
and so is reading answers from ANYONE
on the internet
talk to a real person
yahoo answers may seem helpful
it is also dodgy and untrustworthy and may be falseWww@Answer-Health@Com
and so is reading answers from ANYONE
on the internet
talk to a real person
yahoo answers may seem helpful
it is also dodgy and untrustworthy and may be falseWww@Answer-Health@Com
The answer seems harsh!. Those that work in mental health are very aware of attachment, Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm so sorry to read what was said to you!.It was ill informed,ignorant,untrue and unfair!.Your reaction is totally understanding,and a common pattern in ANY relationship-even between friends,so STOP paying attention to the ridiculous comments given to you by this woman!!.You are NOT "messing with anyone's mental health",thats a ridiculous thing to be told,and it dosn't indicate a bi-polar disorder!.You are obviously just concerned and insightful about your own weaknesses and wellbeing!.If you were at all uncaring,you wouldn't have let this bother you so much,you obviously care for others to be so distressed!.If you ever feel at all "stranded" or bad,please do contact me!.I havn't nursed for a while due to M!.E,but I'd be more than happy to offer support in any way I can!.
good luck,and be proud of what a sweet caring person you obviously are!!!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
good luck,and be proud of what a sweet caring person you obviously are!!!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The nurse has been giving you help because you need it!. Because you are seeing her so much and she has helped you, you have become attached to her as a friend which is only normal!.
How ever you must remember once you are well enough you must stand on your own feet and walk away from the nurse and get on with your life!.
Dont take any notice of negative feed back from other people, but try and be strong for your self and get on with lifeWww@Answer-Health@Com
How ever you must remember once you are well enough you must stand on your own feet and walk away from the nurse and get on with your life!.
Dont take any notice of negative feed back from other people, but try and be strong for your self and get on with lifeWww@Answer-Health@Com
Don't worry!.
People who work in mental health are used to this coping with this sort of behaviour from clients they are supporting!. In therapy it is called transference behaviour and it's actually a phase a lot of people go through whilst they are struggling with their feelings of dependence and rejection!.
So forget about what the other answer said!. Your nurse is trained to cope with this issues and help you work through them!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
People who work in mental health are used to this coping with this sort of behaviour from clients they are supporting!. In therapy it is called transference behaviour and it's actually a phase a lot of people go through whilst they are struggling with their feelings of dependence and rejection!.
So forget about what the other answer said!. Your nurse is trained to cope with this issues and help you work through them!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
You should tell the nurse exactly what your feeling!. The truth to her will always be better in the long run!.
I know one things for sure, your concerned about her welfare tells me!.!. You are not as bad a person as you might think!. Take little steps in your recovery help people when ever you get a chance especially elder people they need someone to talk to , and a lot can be learned from them if you listen!. I dont know your living status and your age so its kind of hard to make any kind of real solid statement , but start off with what I told you and see how it goes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know one things for sure, your concerned about her welfare tells me!.!. You are not as bad a person as you might think!. Take little steps in your recovery help people when ever you get a chance especially elder people they need someone to talk to , and a lot can be learned from them if you listen!. I dont know your living status and your age so its kind of hard to make any kind of real solid statement , but start off with what I told you and see how it goes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi there,
No your not!. She's doing her job and im sure she loves it! Your not a burden to her, she wouldn't help you if she didn't want to! So she obviously does and she obvioulsy cares about your well being!. You are very lucky to have a nurse that will help you when it's not her job to!
Ignore what that person said, some people on this site are just determined to bring people down or make sarcastic and silly comments to something that they think funny and something that we, the askers, take very seriously!. She probally doesnt know what she is talking about either!. Forget about it! She's not worth it! =]
Hope this helps :)
xWww@Answer-Health@Com
No your not!. She's doing her job and im sure she loves it! Your not a burden to her, she wouldn't help you if she didn't want to! So she obviously does and she obvioulsy cares about your well being!. You are very lucky to have a nurse that will help you when it's not her job to!
Ignore what that person said, some people on this site are just determined to bring people down or make sarcastic and silly comments to something that they think funny and something that we, the askers, take very seriously!. She probally doesnt know what she is talking about either!. Forget about it! She's not worth it! =]
Hope this helps :)
xWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think that the person who wrote this is completely wrong!.
You're obviously benefiting from the nurse's help, otherwise she wouldn't bother, and she also feels that you need and deserve to be helped!. Ignore the ignorant person!. Get the help, believe in yourself!. Explain to the nurse how you feel and she might help you to understand your need to push people away and your fear of rejection!.
Good luck
and try not to stress about others' opinions so muchWww@Answer-Health@Com
You're obviously benefiting from the nurse's help, otherwise she wouldn't bother, and she also feels that you need and deserve to be helped!. Ignore the ignorant person!. Get the help, believe in yourself!. Explain to the nurse how you feel and she might help you to understand your need to push people away and your fear of rejection!.
Good luck
and try not to stress about others' opinions so muchWww@Answer-Health@Com
Number one!.!.take a deep breath!. Mental health is not a laughing issue!. You feel an attachment to the one person you feel you can trust!. That is normal!. It is like starting school for the very first time and meeting a friend!. You and the friend become super close for years and then you have to move to a new school!. But you are uncertain the friend will get to go to your school as well!.
Does that make sense!?
Do not beat yourself up over a reply you have received here!. You have taken a giant step forward to help 'you!.'
Number one realising you need help whether you want it or not is huge!. You should be very proud of yourself!.
It sounds like you are maybe in England(!?NHS!?) and though waiting is hard!.!.!.it is worth the wait!.
Please do not feel that you are overburdening your nurse!. Obviously if this was too much for her she would not have offered it to begin with!. Right!?
Keep up your progress!. One day you will look back and be relieved you took this step forward!.
Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Does that make sense!?
Do not beat yourself up over a reply you have received here!. You have taken a giant step forward to help 'you!.'
Number one realising you need help whether you want it or not is huge!. You should be very proud of yourself!.
It sounds like you are maybe in England(!?NHS!?) and though waiting is hard!.!.!.it is worth the wait!.
Please do not feel that you are overburdening your nurse!. Obviously if this was too much for her she would not have offered it to begin with!. Right!?
Keep up your progress!. One day you will look back and be relieved you took this step forward!.
Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
firstly take a deep breath relax your mind count slowly in your head without thinking of anything else other than the numbers you are counting this is a great meditation and it calms the mind which will intern help you with your mental problems we all have them in one form or another then get some counsellings to get your stuff of your chest then focus on a daily mantra you say to yourself every day
1: i am alive and that is a gift
2: i have the use of all my limbs my sight and and taste and hearing and that's a blessing
3: i love myself because im worth my own self love
4: i will look for the miracle in every day and praise it to myself
5: look for the positive in others as you wish them to look for the positive in you
6: be kind to yourself allow your mistakes forgive them and learn from them then move on
7: try to give people the time to talk and listen to them as well as giving your own self expression to others
8: treat all living things with the same respect as you wish to be treated with yourself
do this once a day and you will slowly make progress with your depression and learn to love and trust in yourself and others again then you will find your solice your equalibrium your centre and yourself and learn to love it i hope this helps i was exactly the same as you it took years but i finally got there in the end
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1: i am alive and that is a gift
2: i have the use of all my limbs my sight and and taste and hearing and that's a blessing
3: i love myself because im worth my own self love
4: i will look for the miracle in every day and praise it to myself
5: look for the positive in others as you wish them to look for the positive in you
6: be kind to yourself allow your mistakes forgive them and learn from them then move on
7: try to give people the time to talk and listen to them as well as giving your own self expression to others
8: treat all living things with the same respect as you wish to be treated with yourself
do this once a day and you will slowly make progress with your depression and learn to love and trust in yourself and others again then you will find your solice your equalibrium your centre and yourself and learn to love it i hope this helps i was exactly the same as you it took years but i finally got there in the end
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You are a very lucky person to have a Nurse who is dedicated to her job to the extent of helping you as she does, and I hope you are able to tell her how grateful you are!. This Nurse has obviously gained your trust enough for you to be able to allow her to help you, and I feel you should be honest enough with her to tell her what you are thinking, and why you are thinking it!. Yes, you probably will not see so much of her when you begin your therapy, but that doesn't mean that she is rejecting you, so you do not need to feel hurt ok - she is helping you move onto someone who can help you more than she can!. Show her how much you appreciate all the help and support that she has given you by helping yourself to get better, and giving the therapy 100%!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think the person who gave that answer is a bit thoughtless!. if you were a burden to your nurse wouldnt she try to distance herself from your problems rather than help you!?!. you say its beyond her job what she does for you so she must see something in you that she thinks is worth helping!. take her kindness for what it is and know in your own mind that your relationship with her will come to a natural end sooner or later but i`m sure that will only be when she feels you are a stronger person and able to cope!. you should tell her your fears, i think you are lucky to have found someone you feel so connected with!. good luck xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hi,
Firstly I would like to say that nobody on here is qualified to give you opinions on weather or not you are bi-polar!. Even a qualified professional could not diagnose you via Yahoo Answers! People's answers, especially in the mental health section should be taken as purely opinion!. Sometimes people can be rude and make assumptions, you just have to ignore answers that dont seem objective!.
I've been on both sides of the fence!. I work as a support worker (I was training to be a mental health nurse before my own depression went downhill) and have a mental health problem myself!.
You are NOT playing around with your nurses mental health, let me assure you of that!. Im sure she does not see you as a burden, but a client and part of her job!. She didnt have to give you basic therapy, so she wouldnt unless she really wanted to!. She obviously cares about you as a client, and thats a great thing :)
You cant change the past so dont beat yourself up, but maybe try not to give your nurse such a hard time in the future eh!? ;)
Take care hunWww@Answer-Health@Com
Firstly I would like to say that nobody on here is qualified to give you opinions on weather or not you are bi-polar!. Even a qualified professional could not diagnose you via Yahoo Answers! People's answers, especially in the mental health section should be taken as purely opinion!. Sometimes people can be rude and make assumptions, you just have to ignore answers that dont seem objective!.
I've been on both sides of the fence!. I work as a support worker (I was training to be a mental health nurse before my own depression went downhill) and have a mental health problem myself!.
You are NOT playing around with your nurses mental health, let me assure you of that!. Im sure she does not see you as a burden, but a client and part of her job!. She didnt have to give you basic therapy, so she wouldnt unless she really wanted to!. She obviously cares about you as a client, and thats a great thing :)
You cant change the past so dont beat yourself up, but maybe try not to give your nurse such a hard time in the future eh!? ;)
Take care hunWww@Answer-Health@Com
i think the answer you got yesterday is appalling, you sound vulnerable, and to say things like that was unecessary and cruel!. the nurse is helping you because she wants to, thats kind, and i hope she is helping you!. you're not controlling, you're hurt about something, and when you get your proper therapy under way, within time these issues out, of course when you feel comfortable, head up chick, don't listen to nasty comments :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Talk to your nurse!. Tell her how you feel!. I am sure your nurse has no intentions of stopping helping you!. Do not turn away from her because she has probably grown attached to you!. You already said it yourself she doesn't have to do everything she is doing but she does!. Do not push her away for sure!. Like I said talk to her and she will assure you she is in control of her own mental state and mind!. Get well soon!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
What a way to answer you don't take any notice of that comment!.
You may be feeling this way about that nurse as she has been the first person that have given you the help and advice that you have needed!. As you get strong and more independent you might not have the same feeling for her, I bet she have come across these felling from other patients that she have helped before, you are not a burden !. Carry on have your appointments with her until you feel completely better Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
You may be feeling this way about that nurse as she has been the first person that have given you the help and advice that you have needed!. As you get strong and more independent you might not have the same feeling for her, I bet she have come across these felling from other patients that she have helped before, you are not a burden !. Carry on have your appointments with her until you feel completely better Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com