They see me as a child and incompetent. WHY?!


Question: They see me as a child and incompetent!. WHY!?
my whole life people have been seeing me as a "child"!. i am not dumb or anything!. i am 20 years old and i am in college!. i was always quite a good student and i have also worked in my life!. but always i had this feeling that in everybody's eyes i was "little" or "incapable"!. and now this mentality is in my brain too!. i see others as smarter or luckier than me!. i feel like i have to struggle to be as good as others!. i feel 'lucky" if a girl shows she likes me but i rarely do the first step because i am sure i will not meet her expectations because i will be boring!. what can i do to boost my self-respect!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Break this pattern by projecting your self confidence!. You said your not dumb, a good student and that you have worked--those things are enough for you to hold your head high!. There is always going to be people that are smarter or have more money than you but remember you are that person to someone else, so look at what you have an be proud of yourself for your accomplishments!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

perhaps the people around you don't really want you to grow up!? Are you the youngest child!? It is hard for parents to see their own child as an adult, my 30 yr old is still a child to me! It is quite normal for us to assume others to be smarter or luckier than we are until we get a closer view of their own lives, try to look at the good that you are and dwell awhile on things that are special about you - and there are things, you will find them and be okay!. That is all we can hope for anyway - to be okay!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

hey you know what!? I am also 20 and in college sometimes feel like I'm viewed as a child but honestly recently I just like woke up one day and decided to have more self-esteem and its been better since, make a list of all the good things about you, realize that girls can and do like you, and just say **** it to everyone else who puts you down, hells yeah!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Do you mean boost your self esteem or are you seeking respect fro people!. Which one is it!. If you are talking about your self esteem, you first off need to stop comparing yourself to the next person!. EVen if your family is treating you like a child, man up maybe you allow them to baby you too much take some initiative in the things they would do for you and do it yourself!. 9 times out of ten strangers won't baby you, so I doubt you have problems in that department!. You need find yourself, whether through good friendships, clubs in school, socializing and through some me time!. THaT should boost your self esteem!. As for self respect--- revert back to taking the initiative with things in your life that maybe your family doesn't think you are competent to do!. This things just don't come and drop in your lap, like everything else it has to be worked on in order to earn it Www@Answer-Health@Com





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