Self harm? Please help! ?!
Question: Self harm!? Please help! !?
It's a habit now, I cut myself every night, can't stop myself!. It is something I do to relieve stress and bottled up feelings!.
How do I stop this!? Just by self help, no therapists or anything!.
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How do I stop this!? Just by self help, no therapists or anything!.
xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
try using alternatives, like holding ice, snapping rubber bands on your wrists, drawing lines in red pen on you!.!.!.also you can try the butterfly method here's how it works: You take a permanent marker and you draw a butterfly on your skin!. Then you give your butterfly a name, preferably the name of someone who cares about you and wants to see you get better!. Now, if you can make it without self-injuring until your butterfly disappears naturally, your butterfly lives!.
also there are many distractions you can do when you get triggerd or just have the urge to cut:
deep breathing
relaxation techniques
call a friend, your therapist or a crisis line
try not be be alone (visit a friend, go shopping, etc!.)
take a hot bath
listen to music
go for a walk
write in a journal
wear an elastic around wrist and snap it when you have the urge to harm yourself
some people find it helpful to draw red lines on themselves with washable markers instead of cutting themselves
hold ice cubes in your hands - the cold causes pain in your hands, but it is not dangerous or harmful (some people find it relieves the urge to harm themselves for that moment)
punching a bed or a pillow (when nothing but a physical outlet for your anger and frustration will work)!.
scratch draw a picture on a thick piece of wood or use a screw driver and stab at the piece of wood!. (can be another physical way to release your emotions without harming yourself!.)
avoid temptation (i!.e!. avoiding the area in CVS where the razor blades are kept, etc!.)
try to find your own creative ways as outlets for emotions!.
learn to confront others/making your own feelings known instead of keeping them inside
go outside and scream and yell
take up a sport (a form of exercise can help you release tension, etc!.)
work with paint, clay, play-doo, etc!. (the person who suggested this mentioned that they would make a big sculpture and do whatever they wanted to it!. They said it was helpful to calm the urge to self-injure, plus it gave them some idea of what might be underlying the pain!.
draw a picture of what or who is making you angry
instead of harming yourself, try massaging the area you want to harm with massage oils or creams, reminding yourself that you are special and you deserve to treat yourself and your body with love and respect
go to church or your place of worship
wear a pipe cleaner or something that will fit on the places that you injure!. One person did this as a way to remind herself that she could call someone instead of hurting herself and that she had other ways to cope!.
break the object that you use to self-injure as a way to show that you have control over it!.
write a letter to the person(s) that have hurt you and express how they made you feel!. Theses letters do not have to be in perfect form and you do not have to please anyone but yourself!. You do not have to give these letters to the people, but it is a great way to release the feelings that you are carrying within!. After you write the letters, you can decide then what to do with them!. Some people find destroying the letters help (i!.e!. tear them up, throw them in a lake, etc!.)
do some household chores (i!.e!. cleaning)
do some cooking
try some sewing, crossstitch, etc!.
recite a poem, prayer or anything else familiar the comforts you multiple times
write down all your positive points and why you do not deserve to be hurt
write in your journal why you want to hurt yourself and if you have hurt yourself, write down what caused it to happen so in the future you can prevent it from happenings - or find out what your triggers were
Play some kind of musical instrument!. Even if you don't really know how to play, picking out tunes is a way to concentrate and help get rid of the urge to harm yourself!.
yoga
allow yourself to cry!. Getting the tears out can make you feel better!. It allows the inside to release, as opposed to self abuse!. Picture your "ickies" pouring out as you cry!.
Take a shower
write down a word best associated with what you are feeling (i!.e!. horrible, sad, lonely, angry) and continue to write it down, over and over!. Sometimes when you do that, the words looks silly etc!., and it puts humor or a smile in your life!.
sing a song on what you are feeling!. It's another way to get it outside!. Shout if you are made, etc!. Let the words just come to you!.
Scribble on paper!. Clutch the pen in your fist!. It's a way to diffuse it on to paper!. (Get a few sheets so they don't tear!.)
Take item you are self injurying with and use it against something else!. For example, if you are using a razor blade, rip it across a towel!. Sometimes seeing what "can" be done to an object can make a person think twice about using it on themselves!. Can also give the feeling of "doing it"!.!.!.the tangible aspect!.
Make a list of reasons why you are going to stop cutting!. Every time you get the urge, read the list to remind yourself why you shouldn't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
also there are many distractions you can do when you get triggerd or just have the urge to cut:
deep breathing
relaxation techniques
call a friend, your therapist or a crisis line
try not be be alone (visit a friend, go shopping, etc!.)
take a hot bath
listen to music
go for a walk
write in a journal
wear an elastic around wrist and snap it when you have the urge to harm yourself
some people find it helpful to draw red lines on themselves with washable markers instead of cutting themselves
hold ice cubes in your hands - the cold causes pain in your hands, but it is not dangerous or harmful (some people find it relieves the urge to harm themselves for that moment)
punching a bed or a pillow (when nothing but a physical outlet for your anger and frustration will work)!.
scratch draw a picture on a thick piece of wood or use a screw driver and stab at the piece of wood!. (can be another physical way to release your emotions without harming yourself!.)
avoid temptation (i!.e!. avoiding the area in CVS where the razor blades are kept, etc!.)
try to find your own creative ways as outlets for emotions!.
learn to confront others/making your own feelings known instead of keeping them inside
go outside and scream and yell
take up a sport (a form of exercise can help you release tension, etc!.)
work with paint, clay, play-doo, etc!. (the person who suggested this mentioned that they would make a big sculpture and do whatever they wanted to it!. They said it was helpful to calm the urge to self-injure, plus it gave them some idea of what might be underlying the pain!.
draw a picture of what or who is making you angry
instead of harming yourself, try massaging the area you want to harm with massage oils or creams, reminding yourself that you are special and you deserve to treat yourself and your body with love and respect
go to church or your place of worship
wear a pipe cleaner or something that will fit on the places that you injure!. One person did this as a way to remind herself that she could call someone instead of hurting herself and that she had other ways to cope!.
break the object that you use to self-injure as a way to show that you have control over it!.
write a letter to the person(s) that have hurt you and express how they made you feel!. Theses letters do not have to be in perfect form and you do not have to please anyone but yourself!. You do not have to give these letters to the people, but it is a great way to release the feelings that you are carrying within!. After you write the letters, you can decide then what to do with them!. Some people find destroying the letters help (i!.e!. tear them up, throw them in a lake, etc!.)
do some household chores (i!.e!. cleaning)
do some cooking
try some sewing, crossstitch, etc!.
recite a poem, prayer or anything else familiar the comforts you multiple times
write down all your positive points and why you do not deserve to be hurt
write in your journal why you want to hurt yourself and if you have hurt yourself, write down what caused it to happen so in the future you can prevent it from happenings - or find out what your triggers were
Play some kind of musical instrument!. Even if you don't really know how to play, picking out tunes is a way to concentrate and help get rid of the urge to harm yourself!.
yoga
allow yourself to cry!. Getting the tears out can make you feel better!. It allows the inside to release, as opposed to self abuse!. Picture your "ickies" pouring out as you cry!.
Take a shower
write down a word best associated with what you are feeling (i!.e!. horrible, sad, lonely, angry) and continue to write it down, over and over!. Sometimes when you do that, the words looks silly etc!., and it puts humor or a smile in your life!.
sing a song on what you are feeling!. It's another way to get it outside!. Shout if you are made, etc!. Let the words just come to you!.
Scribble on paper!. Clutch the pen in your fist!. It's a way to diffuse it on to paper!. (Get a few sheets so they don't tear!.)
Take item you are self injurying with and use it against something else!. For example, if you are using a razor blade, rip it across a towel!. Sometimes seeing what "can" be done to an object can make a person think twice about using it on themselves!. Can also give the feeling of "doing it"!.!.!.the tangible aspect!.
Make a list of reasons why you are going to stop cutting!. Every time you get the urge, read the list to remind yourself why you shouldn't!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i was in a period where i did the same thing!. i completely understand where youre coming from!. when you get that feeling, immediately do something else that you really enjoy!. at that exact moment that youre about to do it, turn away and focus your attention fully on something else!. maybe put on a favorite song and start singing or go grab a fav snack and watch a movie, then call a friend and just talk and talk and talk lol!. me personally, i would turn on my 360 and get lost in a game of halo lol!. these are just for short term solutions obviously, to overcome it, you need to talk to someone about it that you can trust (therapists do help a lot!)!. and plz dont cut tonight, i mean hell, get on and IM me if there's nothing else to do lolWww@Answer-Health@Com
Talk to someone when you think you're going to self harm, or do something you enjoy like singing or writing!.
Also, sometimes the urge to self harm goes a way after a while, so if you can just tell yourself, "okay, I'll self harm, but I'll do it one hour from now," you might not feel the need to do it when that hour is up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also, sometimes the urge to self harm goes a way after a while, so if you can just tell yourself, "okay, I'll self harm, but I'll do it one hour from now," you might not feel the need to do it when that hour is up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know how you feel!. I used to do it too!. It's like the physical pain would help block out the emotional and mental pain!. It got to the point where cutting myself felt euphoric!. It's been a couple of years since I last did it!. I did not see a therapist!. i did however take zoloft for a while to help with depression and anxiety!. I don't know if you've considered it but it really does help take the edge off!. When I felt strong enough to stop taking it I slowly weaned myself off!. Next time you feel like cutting yourself, call a friend or find something to keep yourself busy!. I know it's hard not to do it but just try to restrain!. It will get better!. Good luck and much love!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have the same problem!. Even if nothing bad tht days happened I still cut!. I have been trying rly hard to stop and so far have gone a week!. Everytime I feel the urge to cut I think about the scars it will leave behind and sometimes I tidy my room or look at my piccis of family and stuff!. To keep my mind offa things!. I really hope u can give up what's now becomeing a habit!.
All the best, hope you can get some support from some1 clost to u as well, xxxxxxxxxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
All the best, hope you can get some support from some1 clost to u as well, xxxxxxxxxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
Damn!. Personally, I would say, write out how you feel on paper, say whatever is in your head, if it's anger, Workouts, Push ups, Punching, Punching Bags, Weight Lifting, Swearing!. Just don't do anything that will harm you!. And, you can always talk to a friend!. Friends are always there!. Hope I helped, Good Luck, Peace!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am sorry sweetie, I think you really need a therapist!. This is not just some habit like biting your nails, that someone can give you advice on how to quit!. It's something deeper going on with you!. Pray is my advice, and I will pray for you!. But, please, get some professional help, it can be treated!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
DONT DO IT , i have dun it b4 nd im scared nd i h8 it keep away from things nd dnt bottle up things, things to help to stop stress nd get anger out
- Tell Ya m8s waa your bottlin up
- punch the pillows
- Scream
- cry
- Tlk to ya parents about itWww@Answer-Health@Com
- Tell Ya m8s waa your bottlin up
- punch the pillows
- Scream
- cry
- Tlk to ya parents about itWww@Answer-Health@Com
you do it coz you think you should be punished for whats happening to you (bulling or whatever!) ask your self why you think like this and try and change! i dont cut i scratch!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Talk with someone other than us smucks in the answers section!. I'll just tell you to spark up a phattie, then go get something to munch on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com