Did you have psycho religious parents?!
Question: Did you have psycho religious parents!?
if so, did they totally f--k you up like mine did to me!? I'm going through major counseling right now (the 20th or so in my life; I first got shipped off to a shrink by my parents when I was about 5) and now see how my parents' warped, hateful, self-righteous views have completely invalidated my humanity!.
I effing hate myself!. I honestly do not feel that my life is worth living and wish every day that I would die painlessly and quickly!.
I am so ANGRY at my parents for depriving me a loving, nurturing home!. The common theme from many counselors is that my parents' self-righteousness and lack of emotional involvement was a form of neglect!.
I want to break things, claw their eyes out, make them sorry for what they did!. But even when I tried committing suicide a few years ago, they just blamed it on me and said it was "my fault!." (Never mind that my mom's hurtful comments prompted it)!.
Why can't I just die!? I am such a loathsome, miserable, angry creature, I cannot stand to be stuck in my mind anymore!.
All my counselors say I'm "fine", and that just aggravates me even more!. I AM NOT FINE!!!!! It is not normal to hate yourself and your life as much as I do!.
Did anyone get over this!? How!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
I effing hate myself!. I honestly do not feel that my life is worth living and wish every day that I would die painlessly and quickly!.
I am so ANGRY at my parents for depriving me a loving, nurturing home!. The common theme from many counselors is that my parents' self-righteousness and lack of emotional involvement was a form of neglect!.
I want to break things, claw their eyes out, make them sorry for what they did!. But even when I tried committing suicide a few years ago, they just blamed it on me and said it was "my fault!." (Never mind that my mom's hurtful comments prompted it)!.
Why can't I just die!? I am such a loathsome, miserable, angry creature, I cannot stand to be stuck in my mind anymore!.
All my counselors say I'm "fine", and that just aggravates me even more!. I AM NOT FINE!!!!! It is not normal to hate yourself and your life as much as I do!.
Did anyone get over this!? How!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hi!. I'm not in your situation, but I've experienced depression, and rage towards my mother!. It occurs to me you may be experiencing something like grief: grief for the happy childhood you never had!. Grief may include a variety of emotions including anger, resentment, depression and sadness!.
If you can hang on through this grieving process, you may eventually come to the stage of acceptance, where in spite of the pain, you are able to accept the reality of your situation, and then start to move on!.
PLEASE don't give up on yourself - you are a precious human being in spite of your parents' failure to value you!. They are the losers because they never experienced the joy of normal parents!. They must both have had horrible childhoods themselves!.
But hurting yourself will not make them sorry - they are incapable of normal emotions!.
Your counsellors don't sound very competent to me!. Have you tried cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)!? This aims to change your negative beliefs about yourself, instead of just digging over the same old ground about your childhood!. It's a practical therapy which aims to get you functioning properly in a few months, rather than digging through your subconscious for years like the old Freudian therapies!.
Good luck with this and don't hesitate to email me if you wish!. xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you can hang on through this grieving process, you may eventually come to the stage of acceptance, where in spite of the pain, you are able to accept the reality of your situation, and then start to move on!.
PLEASE don't give up on yourself - you are a precious human being in spite of your parents' failure to value you!. They are the losers because they never experienced the joy of normal parents!. They must both have had horrible childhoods themselves!.
But hurting yourself will not make them sorry - they are incapable of normal emotions!.
Your counsellors don't sound very competent to me!. Have you tried cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)!? This aims to change your negative beliefs about yourself, instead of just digging over the same old ground about your childhood!. It's a practical therapy which aims to get you functioning properly in a few months, rather than digging through your subconscious for years like the old Freudian therapies!.
Good luck with this and don't hesitate to email me if you wish!. xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
You have all the right to be angry!. However, because you are so upset doesn't mean that you take it out on yourself or anybody else!. You will feel a lot better if you just get a chance to move out from your parents' and then lead a different life altogether, knowing that you learned from the tragedy of your parents' "warped and hateful life" to live one filled with tolerance, love and fulfillment!.
I wish you luck!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I wish you luck!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You get over it by choosing to be happy and by choosing not to allow your parents to have power over your emotions!. It's that simple!.
If you hate your life, change it!.
It's easier to be a victim than a survivor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you hate your life, change it!.
It's easier to be a victim than a survivor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well first of all, WHY DON'T YOU STOP HATING YOURSELF!
jesus christ, you're just letting what your parents did 2 u, affect ur future!. stop complaining!. my parents are both f--king dead!. my mom worked hard, and i loved her so much and i had 2 see her die!.
my dad treated us like sh--!.
stop acting like your life is worse than everyone elses!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
jesus christ, you're just letting what your parents did 2 u, affect ur future!. stop complaining!. my parents are both f--king dead!. my mom worked hard, and i loved her so much and i had 2 see her die!.
my dad treated us like sh--!.
stop acting like your life is worse than everyone elses!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Another reason why religions should be abolished!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Nahh my parents aren't psycho religious!.!.!. just psycho!.!.!.
they trained me well!. I still didnt get caught yetWww@Answer-Health@Com
they trained me well!. I still didnt get caught yetWww@Answer-Health@Com
It is ok to be angry with your parents!. But remember they are human and therefore imperfect!.
I also believe that it is ok to cut your parents out of your life if that is what you need to be emotionally healthy!.
Killing yourself and hating yourself is not the answer!.
I am going to be totally honest and direct with you and I hope I don't offend you!. But I am speaking from personal experience and only want to help!.
At some point you must take responsibility for your actions and say I am not going to be a victim any more!. No matter what your parents have said or done!. You are worth more than that and I believe that you have the power to leave that crap behind you and start a better life!.
It is hard to cut our parents out of our lives but sometimes it has to be done!.
I have no memory of my childhood so I don't remember my parents!. But as I learned about things from other family members I had to trust my instincts because I realize people will say what they want from their own experience!.
My parents are not perfect!. My dad was verbally and emotionally abusive and my mother was passive and emotionally abusive!. I pieced this information together and my instincts tell me this to be true!.
I keep them at a distance and really don't know them - that is by choice!. I have done fine without them in my life!.
I am sure it would be different for you because you have memories!.
But it still your choice if you want to remain a victim and give them the power or do you want your power back!?
YOUR POWER - the power to say I am a worthy person!. I am a deserving person!. The power to move forward!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
I also believe that it is ok to cut your parents out of your life if that is what you need to be emotionally healthy!.
Killing yourself and hating yourself is not the answer!.
I am going to be totally honest and direct with you and I hope I don't offend you!. But I am speaking from personal experience and only want to help!.
At some point you must take responsibility for your actions and say I am not going to be a victim any more!. No matter what your parents have said or done!. You are worth more than that and I believe that you have the power to leave that crap behind you and start a better life!.
It is hard to cut our parents out of our lives but sometimes it has to be done!.
I have no memory of my childhood so I don't remember my parents!. But as I learned about things from other family members I had to trust my instincts because I realize people will say what they want from their own experience!.
My parents are not perfect!. My dad was verbally and emotionally abusive and my mother was passive and emotionally abusive!. I pieced this information together and my instincts tell me this to be true!.
I keep them at a distance and really don't know them - that is by choice!. I have done fine without them in my life!.
I am sure it would be different for you because you have memories!.
But it still your choice if you want to remain a victim and give them the power or do you want your power back!?
YOUR POWER - the power to say I am a worthy person!. I am a deserving person!. The power to move forward!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com