Should I write my ex boyfriend a letter for my own peace of mind?!
Question: Should I write my ex boyfriend a letter for my own peace of mind!?
We were together over a year and things started going sour and we broke up mutually (although it seemed to effect me more, he never showed an ounce of emotion)!. I am having a tough time getting over it and not because I love him but because I realize now I mistook "love" for this sick obsession I have to fix a man with problems!. He was the first boyfriend who didn't treat me good, was lazy, and showed absolutely no emotion, I never knew where I stood!. The first relationship I actually feel was a waste of time and feel I got nothing good out of it, except for perhaps a wakeup call!. Now that I see things clearly I am so shocked I put up with being so unhappy for a whole year, I almost feel ashamed of myself for not realizing I deserved better!. So many things I didn't speak up about!. I really feel like this is one of those moments in life where you wake up and realize you will never be in a relationship like that again, ever!. I know he probably doesn't even care about me, but I feel like writing him a letter telling him everything I never said, just to get it off my chest!. I feel like he should hear it!. What do you think!?
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it seems you think writing the letter will give you closure and you may be right!.But from experience please don't expect any type reply or apology!.Just because you have now seen the relationship for what it is he obviously has not!.write the letter doesn't mean you have to mail it until you are really ready!. or start a journal and every time you have something to say to this person put it into this journal so you at least have gotten your feelings Out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
No!. You already admit you have a sick obsession to fix a man with problems!. Move on, never look back and consider getting counseling!. You have broken up with him, there is no need to continue contact and drag things out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had kinda of the same problem!.
I was in a relationship on and off for two years and things went bad
So whenever I think of him I write a letter to him, but I never give him the letter!.
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I was in a relationship on and off for two years and things went bad
So whenever I think of him I write a letter to him, but I never give him the letter!.
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Write everything you'd like to tell him in a letter and then burn it!. As you watch it burn, let him go forever!. It will be closure once and for all!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Write it down a thousand times if you need to, turn it into a best selling novel, a poem, a song, a painting, whatever you need to feel better!. I'm very artistic minded and what I've done in the past is to take poster board or large sheets of some paper and cover a wall in it and get some sort of crayons or markers (just make sure it doesn't bleed through the paper) and as the thoughts of my stupid ex came into my head I would just scribble them on this paper, in no order, I wasn't worried about neatness it was just about getting it out of my head!. And it worked wonderfully!. BUT you never ever ever ever give it to him!. He probably doesn't care anyway and will just think you want him back (and even if you do, there is absolutely no need for him to know that!)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry dear!.
Its ok to down load those words on the sheet of paper, fold it and place it in an envelop but not to post it, but rather keep it best known to you alone!.
It will help you get a peace of mind!. Just think a little about what you will gain by telling him these now!.I don't think its Worth it!.
You can reflect on the letter and with time, you will be able to destroy it forever including the sad feelings you are having!.
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Its ok to down load those words on the sheet of paper, fold it and place it in an envelop but not to post it, but rather keep it best known to you alone!.
It will help you get a peace of mind!. Just think a little about what you will gain by telling him these now!.I don't think its Worth it!.
You can reflect on the letter and with time, you will be able to destroy it forever including the sad feelings you are having!.
Good luck dearWww@Answer-Health@Com