Can you grief for someone you never met?!
Question: Can you grief for someone you never met!?
I asked this question early but wanted to post it again to get some diffrent opions
My dad was killed 24 years ago he was struck by a car!. For the past 6 months, that is all I have been thinking about!. I having been getting police reports etc any information I can find on him!. Lately It has hit me hard that my father who died when I was a month old is gone and I have been really sad!. Is it possible that I am grieving now I Do have depression but I am on anti Deppresent to help it the depression was ppd from the birth of daughter!. But I don't understand why this has hit me like a ton of bricksWww@Answer-Health@Com
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It's simply the fact that this was someone who was extremely important in your existence!. Without him, you couldn't have been created!. Part of it may be from your observations of the relationships other people have or have had with their fathers!. Having heard about the better parts of these father-child relationships, you feel a loss at not being able to have the same chances!.
On another note, I often feel a loss for people who lose their lives when their not even in the same country! An example is the 9/11 incident, with which my grief was great because of how many lost their lives on the whims of scumbag terrorists!. Your father was directly related to you, so it is a lot more natural for you to feel a loss than it is for a lot of other people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
On another note, I often feel a loss for people who lose their lives when their not even in the same country! An example is the 9/11 incident, with which my grief was great because of how many lost their lives on the whims of scumbag terrorists!. Your father was directly related to you, so it is a lot more natural for you to feel a loss than it is for a lot of other people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes you are grieving for your fathers love,you are curious and that is normal, he is your daddy and you should find out what ever you want!.You could make a scrapbook to your dad, of your growing up years, add anything and everything relating to your father!.Put it away in a box addressed to daddy!.He may read it from the other side!.It will be your special way to show him you love him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had that same kind of depression after my daughter and it made me so reflective of all my life-I had the severe form, but only negitive toward myself!. Yes, this would be very normal-at a time like this you would appreciate your dad-I'm sure he wants to be with you too-!. Just get better and take care of yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm so sorry for that!. but I think it has a thing to do with you being a mom!. maybe just being a parent recently made you relize how important is to have both parents around their kid and therefor you started missing your father and things that you could probably have done with him if he were still alive!. a loss in a family was never and will never be easy so even if you never met him , its normal that you cry over him!. I hope you get better !.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i care about everyone!. even those i meet on hear!. im sorry for this and hope you get better, and things work out, mail me if i can do anything for you!.smile!! PLEASEWww@Answer-Health@Com
when it happened you were much to young to understand, its probably normal for it to be catching up now!.!.!.im sorry for your lossWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe it's because you're old enough to understand & you can get stuff for yourself like researching!. My dad died when I was 8 but I stopped seeing him when I was 5 & my mom & him divorced before I was 1 so I sorta relate!. But my mom has already told me everything i need to know!.
Have you asked your mom about it or does she not really know!? Yea you could def be grieving now; if it was me seeing my child & knowing it takes 2 for that kid would make me want to get to know the person that I never got to!. & it's so sad too probably a drunk driver no I dont know but thats why people need to be careful cause everyone has family or some form of it!. but I bet he's with you!.
Hope everything goes well!. Just pace yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have you asked your mom about it or does she not really know!? Yea you could def be grieving now; if it was me seeing my child & knowing it takes 2 for that kid would make me want to get to know the person that I never got to!. & it's so sad too probably a drunk driver no I dont know but thats why people need to be careful cause everyone has family or some form of it!. but I bet he's with you!.
Hope everything goes well!. Just pace yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com