Why would they not seek treatment?!


Question: Why would they not seek treatment!?
An acquaintance has told me she has a diagnosed personality disorder, but she is refusing to seek treatment!. I don't like her very much anyway, but now I find myself being very guarded around her!. She's a trouble maker, she's already told me she loves stirring up trouble for others, is this part of the disorder or is she just not a nice person to begin with!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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To me, it's sort of a chicken-and-egg question!.

Because I'm affected by bipolar personality disorder, I've put a lot of energy to learn about this and similar conditions!.

I'm sure I'm over-simplifying, but it seems to me that 'personality disorder' is a grab-bag category used to classify the "troublemaker", who "loves stirring up trouble for others!."

There seems to be little information or evidence about its cause and/or treatment!.

I hope others might add more useful info!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I have Borderline PD but I can definitely empathize with other people!. It is probably the disorder, at some time or other she has probably been hurt very badly!. People like that usually have very low self-esteem, which could explain why she loves to stir up trouble for others; it makes her feel powerful!. It may simply be she's a b****!. There's nothing you can do for her or with her; just avoid her whenever possible!. Keep her at a distance, intimacy is risky with people like that, you need to protect yourself!.
PDs like that are quite resistant to therapy; they tend to think there is nothing wrong with them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Thriving on the trouble she makes for other people goes hand-in-hand with Personality Disorder!. However, the real problem with Personality Disorder is that such a person has no empathy for others!. She knows how awful it feels when someone else makes trouble for her, and will hold a grudge over it indefinitely, but it will never occur to her that others feel badly when she does the same to them!.

If she is forced to admit that what she does makes others feel badly, she will respond that it's their problem, not hers!. It will never occur to her that she should avoid harming others!.

Before I understood this, I used to tell my step-daughter that she has a "criminal attitude"!. It still is an attitude shared by many criminals, and it's an attitude that allows some people to commit crimes without remorse, but the real crime is that most such people are never both diagnosed and treated for the conditions that make them the way they are!.

Now that she's almost 30, my step-daughter is finally receiving treatment, and I hardly recognize her any more!. This new person who she is, is such a pleasant stranger, that I wonder where she was the rest of my step-daughter's life!.

She now seems to care about other people's feelings, and I wonder how she lives with the memories of what she did up until now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It is more than likely part of her disorder, I agree she needs treatment!. But you can't force her to go, does she have anyone in her family, who maybe you could talk to that might be able to convince her to get the help she needs!? If I were you I would avoid her at all costs, people with these disorders, who are prone to violence & not being treated, are a danger to themselves, any innocent by stander, that happens to be in the wrong place at the wrong time, with these unpredictable people!.You never know what will set them off!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

It can be part of the disorder, but you should also be aware that some people thrive on the attention and drama that such behavior causes, and this is why they might refuse treatment!. Right now, their behaviors are rewarding them, emotionally!. To get treatment would mean changing long-term behavioral patterns and a lot of self-examination, insight, and hard work!. When and if she is ready to face that, she will!. Until then!.!.!.I would just be very aware of who and what she is and not get involved in her drama!. I'd keep her at arm's length and let her know you don't approve of her behaviors!. She will only do around you what you let her get away with!.!.!.set up boundaries for your relationship or cut her off!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Difficult to say not knowing what disorder she suffers from and I am no expert! I have known several people with with a bi polar condition which, if untreated,can be pretty horrendous, but modern treatment with drugs and therapy controls the mood swings and the sufferer usually leads a completely normal life!. Moreover, they themselves are aware that treatment is essential!.
The person you are talking about could have any of the other personality disorders, the worst of which is anti social personality disorder!. These people are pretty cold and cannot empathise with the feelings of others, in fact they don't care at all!. Such people are best avoided!.

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probably a little bit of both!. When people get diagnosed with a mental illness they are basically told they will have to take medicine to regulate it for the rest of their life-They think in their minds that ii t is something they can overcome like a regular health issue and they can cure theirselves!. This dis-order is kind of kooky keep her at arms legth she may cause chaos in your life to satisfy her need for mel-o-dramaWww@Answer-Health@Com

in the last few years some people like to say they are bipolar as an excuse for their behavior!. Www@Answer-Health@Com





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