Why can't I express what i'm feeling?!
Question: Why can't I express what i'm feeling!?
Hello!.
I have no trouble feeling emotions internally, but I can't express them verbally or behaviorally!. I can't cry, or indeed smile very much (If I were to smile it would not be genuine) and I feel its affecting my social life and my education!. Often I feel sad about things but I just hit a wall before i'm about to cry, I just can't get past it!. I am often referred to as cold and numb inside, my friends will tell me to smile or ask me whats wrong but I don't know whats wrong, I can't give them an answer and they think i'm lying or hiding something that's bad about my life!. The truth is my life is not bad, my parents are caring and good people, my friends are good and my economic situation is stable which confuses me further!. I'm finding I need to smoke cannabis to feel euphoric!. Most of the time I think because of this I have been unable to form a relationship with a girl, I feel like girls see me and think I wouldn't care for them, that I am cold and would only form a relationship for sex!. I often can't help myself when I talk, it is often abstract or odd in nature which draws me to the conclusion that I must scare them!.
Additionally I find myself questioning in my mind over and over again, fundamental philosophical questions and intricately analyzing mundane situations in my head, and as I think to myself that there must be something wrong with me because I am doing this, I think there must be something wrong with me because I think there is something wrong with me because of all that's racing through my mind!. Sometimes I feel that I wish someone else could feel like what its like to be in my mind, my mind is often incredibly inspiring, in fact the only way I really can express my feelings if through painting!.
Sorry if that doesn't make much sense!. I wish someone could shed light on this situation i'm in!. I had to sign up here for an answer I don't want my parents of friends to think i'm some nutcase!. It is so much easier for me to articulate what is happening to me in text with people I don't know, if I were to admit this to other people I know i'd be worried they would see me as if i'm just crying out for attention, maybe i'm just a coward!.
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I have no trouble feeling emotions internally, but I can't express them verbally or behaviorally!. I can't cry, or indeed smile very much (If I were to smile it would not be genuine) and I feel its affecting my social life and my education!. Often I feel sad about things but I just hit a wall before i'm about to cry, I just can't get past it!. I am often referred to as cold and numb inside, my friends will tell me to smile or ask me whats wrong but I don't know whats wrong, I can't give them an answer and they think i'm lying or hiding something that's bad about my life!. The truth is my life is not bad, my parents are caring and good people, my friends are good and my economic situation is stable which confuses me further!. I'm finding I need to smoke cannabis to feel euphoric!. Most of the time I think because of this I have been unable to form a relationship with a girl, I feel like girls see me and think I wouldn't care for them, that I am cold and would only form a relationship for sex!. I often can't help myself when I talk, it is often abstract or odd in nature which draws me to the conclusion that I must scare them!.
Additionally I find myself questioning in my mind over and over again, fundamental philosophical questions and intricately analyzing mundane situations in my head, and as I think to myself that there must be something wrong with me because I am doing this, I think there must be something wrong with me because I think there is something wrong with me because of all that's racing through my mind!. Sometimes I feel that I wish someone else could feel like what its like to be in my mind, my mind is often incredibly inspiring, in fact the only way I really can express my feelings if through painting!.
Sorry if that doesn't make much sense!. I wish someone could shed light on this situation i'm in!. I had to sign up here for an answer I don't want my parents of friends to think i'm some nutcase!. It is so much easier for me to articulate what is happening to me in text with people I don't know, if I were to admit this to other people I know i'd be worried they would see me as if i'm just crying out for attention, maybe i'm just a coward!.
Thanks for reading!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Unfortunately, some other people can't be sensitive to issues regarding mental health!. Ignore them!. I think you are very insightful and thoughtful!. I think it would be very beneficial for you to see a counseling psychologist!. Even though you may not feel depressed, you may have a depressive disorder!. The flat affect that you present and the fact that you use cannabis to feel something, is common!. I am curious to know if you have any physical ailments such as backaches, stomach pains, or head aches!. Holding in that much emotion, must take a toll on you in some way!? Please take a look at the weblink and see if you can find anything that sounds like "yeah that sounds like me" Definitely talk to your primary doctor, or psychologist!. I know it must be difficult to run into a wall every time you want to express something, Our brains are already in the mode that it trys to protect us!.!.!.Many of us try to stifle a cry because something almost automatically tells us to, but we check in again, and our brain lets us go!.!.!.I think you may have to retrain your brain to let you jump the wall!. Good luck to you!.
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I have been there myself, I know what you mean!.
These kind of problems seem so small for those who do not have to deal with it!. Why!?!?!?
Because your problem is that you have no problems!!!
Kind parents, good friends, good economy and etc!. The problem is that you don't have anything to fight with!! In simpler words, you lack a goal in your life!. This has made you lazy in determination, therefore, you find it hard to achieve the very small goals!.
What you need is a goal; a goal that is driven by your passion!. Your passion will REALLY help you move against your wills and it will help you overcome the feelings of FAILURE even when you fail!. Achieving the goal strengthen your determination, therefore, you will find it easy to deal with such small problems!.
So, i would say, start with something simple; could be painting!? e!.g!. Randomly decide to paint your whole family and ACHIEVE this goal!. Then move to something harder and then harder and harder!.
The hardest thing in the process is that It will take time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
These kind of problems seem so small for those who do not have to deal with it!. Why!?!?!?
Because your problem is that you have no problems!!!
Kind parents, good friends, good economy and etc!. The problem is that you don't have anything to fight with!! In simpler words, you lack a goal in your life!. This has made you lazy in determination, therefore, you find it hard to achieve the very small goals!.
What you need is a goal; a goal that is driven by your passion!. Your passion will REALLY help you move against your wills and it will help you overcome the feelings of FAILURE even when you fail!. Achieving the goal strengthen your determination, therefore, you will find it easy to deal with such small problems!.
So, i would say, start with something simple; could be painting!? e!.g!. Randomly decide to paint your whole family and ACHIEVE this goal!. Then move to something harder and then harder and harder!.
The hardest thing in the process is that It will take time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There may be a chemical imbalance it does not sound like you suffer from depression but there is definitely a mental condition here that needs some psychological evaluation and treatment!. I have majored in psychology in college!. I could speculate a number of different things based on the information that you have given but I would suggest talking to a highly trained professional and they can provide you the help that you need!. Especially, since you said that you have not experienced any recent tradegies but that doesn't mean that you have not suppressed something from your past either!. I have discovered that drug user have trouble expressing emotions because it kills your brain cells!. Anti-depressives also can make you feel emotionless!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't see you as crying out for attention!. I would suggest, however, to not smoke the cannibas!. Speaking from experience, that will keep you isolated from the world and cause you to create your own exciting world in your head where you can't share a thing with anyone else!. It sounds like you are just afraid to connect to the world around you!. If you have the feelings and the thoughts, but are unable to express them maybe you're just afraid of what people will think of you!. But how else will they get to know you if you don't take the chance and open up!? Start slow!. If at first you don't suceed then dust yourself off and try again (yeah that's from a song but it's true, lol)!. Sometimes socializing takes practice!. Not everyone came out of their mommy and knew how to articulate and communicate effectively!. It takes some time and some practice and some learning, that's just part of life!. Get out there and try!. Make some friends and people who you can trust to open up to and maybe they can shed light more easily on your specific situation since they know you better and I'm just going on text written on a screen!. My bf used to have the same problem with me, he could express himself!.!.!. but once he started trusting me and realizing I wasn't going to make fun of him or anything negative that I was only here to help, then he started opening up to me!. Painting is AWESOME! Keep that up!.!.!. being artistic is definitely a healthy outlet!.!.!. just flush the weed though, you definitely don't need it and you're just going to kill brain cells!. =) I hope something here helped!
Prayer always works too!. =)
God bless you and your reality and your paths! Www@Answer-Health@Com
Prayer always works too!. =)
God bless you and your reality and your paths! Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is very hard to allow yourself to trust your emotions with others!. It is even harder for guys to express themselves!.
The bad thing is somewhere in your past you decided (unintentionally) not to let your feeling show!. Maybe due to being teased by someone or by seeing others being put down for being emotional!.
It is great that you can express yourself with your painting, that is awesome!.
The cannabis is really not helping with your social interaction though!.
It can make you feel better inside but does not help you interact with the world!.
It would be great if you could find a painting class or others who enjoy painting!. Then when you are discussing something you feel passionate about you will begin to speak more freely!.
That would help you to express yourself around others and let them in!.
Then they would finally get to see the very Intelligent and feeling person that you are!.
I hope this might help at least a little, or give you something to think about!.
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The bad thing is somewhere in your past you decided (unintentionally) not to let your feeling show!. Maybe due to being teased by someone or by seeing others being put down for being emotional!.
It is great that you can express yourself with your painting, that is awesome!.
The cannabis is really not helping with your social interaction though!.
It can make you feel better inside but does not help you interact with the world!.
It would be great if you could find a painting class or others who enjoy painting!. Then when you are discussing something you feel passionate about you will begin to speak more freely!.
That would help you to express yourself around others and let them in!.
Then they would finally get to see the very Intelligent and feeling person that you are!.
I hope this might help at least a little, or give you something to think about!.
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you are quite articulate in this medium!. have you tried journaling!? it is a great outlet, if nothing else!. sometimes i find that by expressing my self in the q/a forum, here, is a good way to sort my thoughts!. i hope you come to realize that the cannabis will only make things more confusing!. stop for a while and you will see what i mean!. your communication in your question is very clear to me and i certainly do not think you are a nut case!. if you were cold and numb, you would not care!. nothing wrong with painting or crying out for attention, if you feel like it!. don't haunt yourself with doubts!. you're just fine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Oh boy!.
I think you just need a good hard look at the truth!.
You are spoiled and self-indulgent and instead of dealing with your problems you make excuses for them!. That's it!. You think every thought you have is deep and important and that nothing's your fault, that everything is happening *to* you!. You can't have a relationship, but it's not because of what you do, it's because of what the girls assume and what they imagine!. You feel you *need* to smoke pot!? Come on!. You think it's not possible you control your own thoughts and actions, that there must be something "wrong" with you!? You think every single person in the world doesn't have the exact same thoughts and feelings!? Well they do! They do! You are not some crazy inspired tortured genius, you're just a guy who can't get it together!. You *are* a coward, but not for not telling this to the people in your life, it's for thinking it at all!.
My life's good too, and I understand how that makes you into kind of a dope, because you don't have to deal with anything *really* hard, so to be an interesting person you have to create your own drama, like you're doing now!.
Here's my advice!.
Stop smoking pot!. You're an addict, you don't HAVE to do it to be happy, you're not different than anyone else who can be cheerful all day without it (even though I'm sure you're saying 'she doesn't know anything, yes I am!' right now)!. As soon as you stop doing it for a decent period of time, you'll see that you absolutely don't need it the way you believe you do!. In fact, it's probably contributing really heavily to the way you feel the rest of the time!. I'm not anti-pot in general, but you've clearly got some issues that pot is making worse!. If you don't want to stop, then that just proves you'd rather wallow than be happy and you *are* doing it for attention!.
Examine yourself!. What's bulls**t and what's not!? WHY can't you have a relationship!? Think of 5 reasons that have nothing to do with what the girls do or don't do!.
What are you going to do with your life!? Think about that, take a meaningful step towards it, and then Quit Whining!. Stop moaning over what you feel and what you don't feel, and actually DO something!.
LIVE YOUR LIFE instead of mooing over it!. Grow up!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you just need a good hard look at the truth!.
You are spoiled and self-indulgent and instead of dealing with your problems you make excuses for them!. That's it!. You think every thought you have is deep and important and that nothing's your fault, that everything is happening *to* you!. You can't have a relationship, but it's not because of what you do, it's because of what the girls assume and what they imagine!. You feel you *need* to smoke pot!? Come on!. You think it's not possible you control your own thoughts and actions, that there must be something "wrong" with you!? You think every single person in the world doesn't have the exact same thoughts and feelings!? Well they do! They do! You are not some crazy inspired tortured genius, you're just a guy who can't get it together!. You *are* a coward, but not for not telling this to the people in your life, it's for thinking it at all!.
My life's good too, and I understand how that makes you into kind of a dope, because you don't have to deal with anything *really* hard, so to be an interesting person you have to create your own drama, like you're doing now!.
Here's my advice!.
Stop smoking pot!. You're an addict, you don't HAVE to do it to be happy, you're not different than anyone else who can be cheerful all day without it (even though I'm sure you're saying 'she doesn't know anything, yes I am!' right now)!. As soon as you stop doing it for a decent period of time, you'll see that you absolutely don't need it the way you believe you do!. In fact, it's probably contributing really heavily to the way you feel the rest of the time!. I'm not anti-pot in general, but you've clearly got some issues that pot is making worse!. If you don't want to stop, then that just proves you'd rather wallow than be happy and you *are* doing it for attention!.
Examine yourself!. What's bulls**t and what's not!? WHY can't you have a relationship!? Think of 5 reasons that have nothing to do with what the girls do or don't do!.
What are you going to do with your life!? Think about that, take a meaningful step towards it, and then Quit Whining!. Stop moaning over what you feel and what you don't feel, and actually DO something!.
LIVE YOUR LIFE instead of mooing over it!. Grow up!. Www@Answer-Health@Com