My friend is doing drugs... what should i do to help?!
Question: My friend is doing drugs!.!.!. what should i do to help!?
he has been my close friend since the 8th grade!.!. now we are 20 yrs old!.!. he recently started drugs around 2 months ago!.!. he has been smoking crack cocaine!.!. for the last two months he had remained aloof!.!. he would not talk to anyone!.!. never picked up the phone !.!. then after my constant nagging he gave in and told me about the drugs!.!. it seems he has even been selling his textbooks for the money!.!. he does not want me to tell his parents because he is scared that they may take him out of college and screw him badly!.!. i am now confused!.!. i know he is in desperate need for help !.!. i want him to go to rehab but he says that he is gonna gradually taper off it until he does not need it anymore!.!. but i know coming outta drugs is not that easy without external support!.!. he has become thinner and is also losing hair from his body!.!. please people give me some advice!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
God bless you for wanting to help your friend, that is so awesome! You are an angel to him =)
What I would suggest doing is encouraging (and maybe physically go with him) to some 12-step program meetings (AA works, there are usually "cross addictions" meaning people are addicted to other substances than alcohol)!. You are right, he needs support from people who have gone through the same thing that he is about to go through!. But realize he really can't change, truly, unless he wants to himself!. If he is addicted, it is likely he will do anything to get the drugs!. I'm sorry he is going through this and I'm sorry that he doesn't feel he can talk to his parents for support!. I once went through an addiction and luckily I had a good friend who had gone through "the program" before and went with me to several meetings at the beginning!. I went to at least two meetings a day for the first few weeks and then at least one a day after that!. I would suggest the same in order for him to change his mind set and so he will be able to meet many people who can help him get through any problems that may arise from with drawls, etc!.
In the meantime, you can pray for him!. Prayer works!. Always!. You can also search the net for some websites where you can submit prayer requests and people will pray for him!.
I hope something here helps!
God bless you and your friend and your paths! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
What I would suggest doing is encouraging (and maybe physically go with him) to some 12-step program meetings (AA works, there are usually "cross addictions" meaning people are addicted to other substances than alcohol)!. You are right, he needs support from people who have gone through the same thing that he is about to go through!. But realize he really can't change, truly, unless he wants to himself!. If he is addicted, it is likely he will do anything to get the drugs!. I'm sorry he is going through this and I'm sorry that he doesn't feel he can talk to his parents for support!. I once went through an addiction and luckily I had a good friend who had gone through "the program" before and went with me to several meetings at the beginning!. I went to at least two meetings a day for the first few weeks and then at least one a day after that!. I would suggest the same in order for him to change his mind set and so he will be able to meet many people who can help him get through any problems that may arise from with drawls, etc!.
In the meantime, you can pray for him!. Prayer works!. Always!. You can also search the net for some websites where you can submit prayer requests and people will pray for him!.
I hope something here helps!
God bless you and your friend and your paths! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
He says he is going to taper off!. That is druggie code for he doesn't want to stop!. Your friend is going to have to hit rock bottom before he realizes that he can't stop this on his own!. I have been abusing drugs since I was knee high to a grasshopper, and I have been through rehab and all that!. It is sad but there really isn't anything you can do but sit back and watch him fall!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Crack cocaine is highly addicitvie, but not as bad as nicotine!. He will stop when he hits empty space in his wallet, what other choice does he have!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
its obvious of whats happening to him!. hes losing hair and becoming thinner!. what will happen next!?! death isn't far from him!. if no one else know then if he dies, its on your head!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Pick a Winner thats a badazz pic the only reason to answer this questionWww@Answer-Health@Com
Tough one!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.suggest to talk to his parents if at all possible!.I personally feel they need to knowWww@Answer-Health@Com
stop bitchin! really just get over or come out of the closet!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell his parents!. If he's like me, he's yearning to be caught and helped, because obviously he's feeling shame and remorse for doing what he's already done and by not wanting to tell his parents!. When my girlfriend told my parents I was doing cocaine and had quit my job, just stove up in our apartment, I was thankful!. Granted it's a totally different situation, but I think there's some relief in knowing the help may be there!.
However, if the parents are completely ignorant of addiction and will/can not empathize, then that may not be the best route!. If he's kicked on his *** rather than taken out of school to get back on his feet, he'll simply slide deeper into addiction and self-drug himself up to where he doesn't give a **** anymore!. This will eventually lead to a turning point: an OD (overdose), rock bottom (on the street), or realization of what he's doing to himself and possibly others!. If that turning point comes and goes, and you feel it could be considered rock bottom for him, sadly the only way to go is treatment, and by treatment I mean 30 day rehab!. No joke!.
Continue to care for him, and continue to keep him in your life!. Drug addiction is something not well empathized with by others seeing the downfall in another!. "Just quit the ****" or "you don't ******* need drugs man" are just absolutely ignorant comments!. Drugs are so very powerful, and should be abolished from the face of this earth!.
Bottom line: analyze his parents, their possible reaction, and try getting him to come clean with them!. If he doesn't, you need to!. Save him from jail or OD'ing or whatever!. He does need help, but I guarantee you he doesn't see a glimpse of that right now!.
That glimpse will come through him, but be there to support ANYTHING related to recovery and NOTHING related to getting ****** up!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
However, if the parents are completely ignorant of addiction and will/can not empathize, then that may not be the best route!. If he's kicked on his *** rather than taken out of school to get back on his feet, he'll simply slide deeper into addiction and self-drug himself up to where he doesn't give a **** anymore!. This will eventually lead to a turning point: an OD (overdose), rock bottom (on the street), or realization of what he's doing to himself and possibly others!. If that turning point comes and goes, and you feel it could be considered rock bottom for him, sadly the only way to go is treatment, and by treatment I mean 30 day rehab!. No joke!.
Continue to care for him, and continue to keep him in your life!. Drug addiction is something not well empathized with by others seeing the downfall in another!. "Just quit the ****" or "you don't ******* need drugs man" are just absolutely ignorant comments!. Drugs are so very powerful, and should be abolished from the face of this earth!.
Bottom line: analyze his parents, their possible reaction, and try getting him to come clean with them!. If he doesn't, you need to!. Save him from jail or OD'ing or whatever!. He does need help, but I guarantee you he doesn't see a glimpse of that right now!.
That glimpse will come through him, but be there to support ANYTHING related to recovery and NOTHING related to getting ****** up!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com