How do you stop yourself from being so insecure?!


Question: How do you stop yourself from being so insecure!?
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I know this might sound clinicle but it worked for me!.

Firstly, make a note of all the family and friends around you
Take stock of what you have materialistically
Go to bed saying a affimation "I am going to bed and i am going to have a wonderful sleep and wake up refreshed and relaxed"
Getting up, say to yourself "This is going to be a good day!. I have people who love me and i love them!."
When getting washed, say to yourself in the mirror" I am a beautiful person and people love me fo who i am"

When seeing people smile and acknowledge that you have seen them!. They might be feeling like you!.
If someone smiled at you and acknowledged you, you feel good, so doing it to people might uplift there day, in turn, lifts your day!.

This might be hard going at first because you have to use confidence!. Believe me it works!. I do it all the time!.

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Well, to be honest; How to Look Good Naked on lifetime was a big help for myself, it teaches you what clothes flatter your figure, and to love yourself!. Though no, that won't do everything for you, you have to stop downing yourself, and start complimenting yourself more and accepting others compliments!. Don't try to do it cold turkey though, do it little by little and you'll start feeling more confident in yourself!. Make sure that anytime you buy an outfit, it fits your figure and makes you feel good!. Treat yourself to something once and awhile, and always make sure to leave time for stuff a couple times a week that makes you happy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

First you have to realize that insecurity only stems from childhood preconceptions!. As you were growing up you felt out of place, and less "on the ball" than those who surrounded you, or it could have stemmed from your family, either way, you have to realize that everyone else is just as not on the ball, and that just because one person whom you know may not think you are, in the same way that Jocks think Geeks are uncool and vice versa, if you focus on what you know and perfect your own conceptions, you can build your own security in yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Insecurity is a power gap!. When you feel insecure for instance about your body, it's simply the fact that you don't have enough power to protect and preserve your mind space!. Insecurity is an invasion of negative thoughts and feelings!. Now, if you want to get rid of these negative thoughts, all you have to do is ad power in your being and in your life!. You have already power in you!. Why aren't you using it!? Because a part of you comforts itself with your present mind set!. You accept the "I am insecure" feeling as your identity!. When you do, you get what we call negative attention (pity, concern, compassion, love, interest, etc!.) This is why this "insecurity thing" can become addictive!.
Now if you want to shift your mind set, you must create new beliefs for instance: "I am not insecure", "I feel great about myself", "I believe in my own qualities", etc!. These patterns are the opposite of insecurity!. Would you agree!? A mind set is a conditioning!. This conditioning is created by you and those who surround you!. Both you and those around you get used to your mind set ("I am insecure")!. The moment you decide to change it, you face your own resistance as well as the resistance from your environment!. You have been telling everyone about your insecurity!. They got used to it!. They got used giving you love, compassion and even pity!. The moment you decide to shift that in your mind, it is this whole mind set you are shifting: The way you see yourself!. The way others see you!. You step in with extra power!. Have you heard about the "tall poppy syndrome"!. In a poppy field you can see the heads which are sticking out!. When you stick out your head and grow taller, it simply tends to challenge those in your environment!. There is jealousy, fight and competition!. These are power dynamics!. Gaining power is a battle!. It is a battle for owning your mind space!. You can design your life according to what you want rather than simply being a slave to negative emotions, feelings or thoughts!.
I heard this question coming a few times in this topic: "how do you change a negative thought, emotion or feeling you no longer want!?" The answer is to use more powerful tools!. You need extra fire, power, motivation, follow up!. A vague feeling of wanting to do something about it is not enough!. It's all about gaining back control over what is yours: This is your mind space, your territory!. It's your birth right to own it!.
If someone steals something from you, you can either let if go or do what it takes to get it back!. This, again, requires focus, skills, determination!. However, what matters the most is the inner decision to do something about it!. Once you do, you connect with your will power and head for your target!.

Does this make sense!?

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Personally, I always find that if I put extra effort in doing my hair, put on make-up, and at least look like I didn't just roll out of bed, it makes me feel better!. I am a college student, so I basically live my life in sweatshirts and sweatpants!. Doing this every now and then will make that day special, and you will definitely feel better about yourself!. So just try looking your best! People will notice, and they'll compliment you! There is no better feeling than the feeling of others thinking you look like "hot fire!." Not only that but go ahead and look in the mirror and look at all the things you love about yourself!. Play those features up!. Remember if you don't love yourself, no one else will!. Love and respect yourself, and you'll feel a change! Www@Answer-Health@Com

(1) figure out why you feel insecure!.!.(2)!.take one thing & then ask yourself what beliefs you have about this (3) what you are getting out of feeling insecure!.!.!.(4) what would you get out of not being insecure!.(5)then what would you have to believe to change!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. numbers I use in my example go with the questions above!.
So I will use an example from my life(1) I have had family memebers whose bad behavior has caused me problems (2) my family won't be good & then I have to pay the consequenses for their carelessness, I believe I will work hard, pinch pennies but when I go to the bank my money won't be there (3) I manipulate my family so they will be careful not to do anything that will upset me!. I avoid doing things so they won't upset me so I stay safe!.(4) I will be much better off financically because what I am afraid of probably won't happen!. (5) I would have to believe that things can be different & that no one else could hurt me!.!.I would learn about being assertive so they don't take advantage of me & that would make them be more responsible!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It's very hard!.Your parents are to blame,as when growing up,your confidence is created and sustained by your parents responses to your actions!.Without that backbone of upbringing,you are left with endless self doubt!.
You are insecure,so write a list of what events would make you feel secure and pursue than!.Could be love,great at sports or in the workplace,or losing weight etc etc!.As you age you lose your insecurity!.
As a young teenager,l stuck on my door for several years!.!.!."Hope deferred,makes the heart sick" This always reminded me to act out on any hopes l had!.It's actually not the achievement but the acting upon what you hope for that gives you confidence!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Ultimately you are in control of your own life, feelings of insecurity are neurotic impulses, they aren't something that you choose to feel!. However, you can easily avoid them!. The easiest way!? I have a feeling I'm going to get some thumbs down for this one!.!.!. but it's the truth!. Change yourself!. You have the ability to do so!. Find whatever it is about yourself that makes you insecure, and fix it!.

The idea that we should be happy with who we are 'already' is an age old theory!. In other words, we aren't insecure only because of how we see ourselves, but how we believe others see us which are two very different viewpoints!. But if you're unhappy about how you see yourself, then find out why!.!.!. and do your best to change that!.

I used to have problems with acne, my hair would stick up, I didn't know what kind of clothes I should wear!.!.!. some people would probably have said I didn't know who I was yet!. But that wasn't it!. I knew exactly who I was, but I was unhappy with that!. So I chose to make a change, I tried not to touch my face (skin contact is a major cause of the distribution of the oils which cause acne, which also happens to be a side effect of nervousness)!.!.!. I got a new hairstyle (grew it out five or six inches), turns out that I have really curly hair that girls dig, and developed my own sense of style (stopped listening to others advice as to how I should dress, I avoid trends)!. So just a word of advice, Find out what it is that makes you insecure, and do something about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I can suggest a few things


Self Help books , but be careful because there are alot of quacks out there!.!.!.May I suggest books by Tony Robbins(probably the best in the field) or Dr!. Wayne Dyer!.!.!.!.!.They helped me alot when I was younger

Take a course or read a book by Dale carnegie , esp!. How to win friends and influence people


If you have an Ipod you can always buy books or download Podcasts dealing with the subject


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you can't exactly STOP yourself!. but you can eat better, exercise more, and spend a little money on yourself to buy cute clothes that make you feel confident!. just act confident even if you feel like your about to crap yourself your so scared!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well, when i was insecure i always prayed about it!. i thought about how god gave you that body for a reason and whether you take care of it or not is your choice!. think of the good things about you, and thatll help give you confidence! i hope that helps your situation, but it helped mine!
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I'm an insecure person!.!.!.i feel so uncomfortable talking to people that i stutter while talking to them and when people look at me weird i begin to feel more uncomfortable and insecure!. I don't even know how t help myself!.!.!.i avoid going outdoors school and jobs, so i wish you the best of luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I can't at the moment, but i hope in the future i will!. A lot of friends and people i know say i'm beautiful and clever, but i never believe them!. I also need to stop following the media and be taken in by it all!. Hopefully one day, i'll be more secure!. But for now i have a lot of issues!. =[

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you have to stop relying on other people for your own opinion and self image!. you have to form your own opinion of yourself and stick with that, because when it comes down to it, if you don't like yourself, you cannot expect others to like you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I never forget that they are no better then me!. Most of the time when someone likes to make you fell insecure is because they are not really secure with who they are so they need to make others feel small!.
Stand tall and remember they can be out of your life tomorrow!.
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find points about yourself you like, work on new talents!. The more you have to offer the world, the more confident you will be!. Even if you are not confident, create the illusion you are, it will make things much easier down the road!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

you practice in the mirror telling yourself you're okay/beautiful/smart whatever

as long as you feel embarassed to tell the mirror that, youc an repeat the exercise!. (untill you believe it)Www@Answer-Health@Com

insecurity is about you not feeling comfortable with who and what you are!. the first step is just to accept that you can't change that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need to change your view of yourself to someone who is worthy and keep on those thoughts!. If you do not think it, it will never work !.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Any time I feel insecure around other people, I remind myself that they do not matter - only I matter!. Then, I feel much more confident and I do what I want!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Stop worrying about what others think, when you stop and take a minute and worry about yourself then things turn out better in the long run!. You cant make everyone happy so might as well make your self happy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you'll grow out of it, its good that you notice that you're insecure about certain things so you can change it!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

lithium if its truly amental illness!.!.!.pick up a PDR!.!.!.that will give you a years worth of reading if you can understand half of it !Www@Answer-Health@Com

I know :s its really hard sometimes!.!. theres allways someone more interesting/mature/beautiful!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Try to be more confident ! Look at yourself in a better light!. Find whats great about you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Say to hell with everyone!. Look at them and mentally flip them off!. Then it is all good!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

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find jesus you will feel warm and loved and read the bible it helps alot Www@Answer-Health@Com

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