How to get rid of the emptiness (borderline personality disorder)?!
Question: How to get rid of the emptiness (borderline personality disorder)!?
Has anyone with borderline personality ever found a way to stop the feelings of emptiness and dissociation!? I don't want to cut, but I'm finding it so hard to feel things, I feel detached from the world, and so I keep doing things that are self-destructive (alcohol, eating too much, longing to attempt suicide!.!.!.) I would love it if anyone who's walked this path has some advice, because this is unbearable; it's interfering with school and work so much!.!.!. I don't know how to cope!.
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Answers:
I have bpd too!.
I understand this!. And while answerer number 2 has a few good points!.!.!. if youve been diagnosed and looked into it and it feels right you likely do have a "personality disorder"!.!.!. call it whatever you will it is not just your surroundings you would feel this way regardless who you were with or where you are at (atleast untill you get help and get better} and you are one of many who are the exact same way!.!.!. its more than a coincidence and Im sure you know already that traveling etc will only fill that whole briefly and leave you feeling worse when the high of excitement wears off!. We borderlines seek constant excitement and adventure to fill that constant boredom and emptiness!. Trouble is living and supporting ourselves and all those adventures requires boredom down time and money!. So though meeting new people and travel etc may be good for you it wont fill the whole you feel in the long run!. Only you can do that!. And you can only do it for the long term through therapy and real work on yourself!.
If keeping our hands busy with a hobby could do it, well then work or school would surely fill it too!.!.!. but it doesn't!. Now acquiring something to keep you constantly busy can help distract you long enough for the intensity of mood to the point of wanting to harm yourself to pass!.!.!. but if you have too much on your plate all the time your asking for trouble there too!.
The trouble with coping through self destruction is two fold!. It works, of course it does or we wouldn't do it!. But it is short lived and destructive and on top of that you know you will feel worse about yourself and worse about the situation afterward!.
Filling your life with things that are enjoyable and interesting and healthy for you on some level, if you can do this, will help
there are support groups and what not!. And therapy to realize what that whole is so you can fill it!. But in the mean time just recognize that it will pass!.!.!.!. it always does even if you cant imagine the pain or numbness or emptiness going away logically you know it always will in time!.!.!. so tell yourself that!. and that you dont want one more thing to hate yourself over later, and do whatever you can -walk-write-read-shop-shower to fill that time and distract yourself from curling up with it
thats all Ive got
however if there is some magic wand that an answerer gives you Im all over it!.!. as at this very moment Im wishing I had enough money to walk down to the liqor store myself!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
I understand this!. And while answerer number 2 has a few good points!.!.!. if youve been diagnosed and looked into it and it feels right you likely do have a "personality disorder"!.!.!. call it whatever you will it is not just your surroundings you would feel this way regardless who you were with or where you are at (atleast untill you get help and get better} and you are one of many who are the exact same way!.!.!. its more than a coincidence and Im sure you know already that traveling etc will only fill that whole briefly and leave you feeling worse when the high of excitement wears off!. We borderlines seek constant excitement and adventure to fill that constant boredom and emptiness!. Trouble is living and supporting ourselves and all those adventures requires boredom down time and money!. So though meeting new people and travel etc may be good for you it wont fill the whole you feel in the long run!. Only you can do that!. And you can only do it for the long term through therapy and real work on yourself!.
If keeping our hands busy with a hobby could do it, well then work or school would surely fill it too!.!.!. but it doesn't!. Now acquiring something to keep you constantly busy can help distract you long enough for the intensity of mood to the point of wanting to harm yourself to pass!.!.!. but if you have too much on your plate all the time your asking for trouble there too!.
The trouble with coping through self destruction is two fold!. It works, of course it does or we wouldn't do it!. But it is short lived and destructive and on top of that you know you will feel worse about yourself and worse about the situation afterward!.
Filling your life with things that are enjoyable and interesting and healthy for you on some level, if you can do this, will help
there are support groups and what not!. And therapy to realize what that whole is so you can fill it!. But in the mean time just recognize that it will pass!.!.!.!. it always does even if you cant imagine the pain or numbness or emptiness going away logically you know it always will in time!.!.!. so tell yourself that!. and that you dont want one more thing to hate yourself over later, and do whatever you can -walk-write-read-shop-shower to fill that time and distract yourself from curling up with it
thats all Ive got
however if there is some magic wand that an answerer gives you Im all over it!.!. as at this very moment Im wishing I had enough money to walk down to the liqor store myself!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
okay!.!.!. i walk this path everyday so listen carefully!.!.!.!. find a hobby, make new friends and be mean to people who are mean to you without any regrets!.!.!.!. believe in your dreams and hate God if you think he's responsible for this because I personally think he's crazy :)) !.!.!.!. oh another thing!.!.!.!. watch comedy, listen to good music,!.!.!. take a break from school and travel to places you dream of like Brazil and school can come back later!.!.!. many of the smartest people in the world are school drop-outs who believed in their dreams like fool-hardy asses!.!.!.!. you have no personality disorder,!.!. you are not with the right people !.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well!.!. im IN that stage right now!. so for the love of god!.!. please talk to me!.!. maybe together we can work something out!. I've been talking to myself for months now!
honestly, my life blows!. i need to talk to people!.!. im getting tolerant to alcoholWww@Answer-Health@Com
honestly, my life blows!. i need to talk to people!.!. im getting tolerant to alcoholWww@Answer-Health@Com