I think my girlfriend is mildly schizophrenic. How should i handle this?!


Question: I think my girlfriend is mildly schizophrenic!. How should i handle this!?
My girlfriend is showing signs of schizophrenia; early signs!. I have noticed the symptons since we first got together (almost a year), but its becoming more apparent as time goes on!. She's having absurd idea's about her body(like bubbles under her skin), she confides in me that she thinks people are out to get her!. When she gets high this all get's completely intensified, but as compared to the former symptoms (which comes closer to paranoid schizophrenia), she shows signs if disorganized schizophrenia when shes high!. Like she forgets words out of her sentences says stuff that makes no sense, leaves out major facts when shes talking and expects you to follow along!.
She's also told me she has a hard time discerning dreams from reality!. When she has dreams about me that are bad she say's it takes her up to 20 minutes to get over them and convince herself that i did not actually perform the "act" she saw in her dreams!.

Here's my problem!. I cannot confide in her family (or mine) to help her out for unnamed reasons!. I live far away from her so it's hard for me to be there every day!. I am afraid to tell her she has it, because im afraid it will make her symptoms worse as with knowing her personality she will dwell on the thought to the point that it may intensify her symptoms!. (She Dwells, and is Paranoid!. When she has thoughts that "upset" her, they will stay on her mind FULL FORCE for a long time just replaying in her head)
I have been trying to convince her to stop smoking weed!. But it's hard to find good reasons when im afraid to tell her the truth!.

Help me out, how should I handle this!? As of right now, I am still a safe person to her!. She thinks I do things that fall under the category of "out to get her" but she still trusts me and loves me!. As I do her!.

please help!?

Side Notes: Despite all of this, she has an insanely powerful mind!. She remembers things in Vivid Detail!. She has a Phenomenal memory, better then anyone I know or have ever met!. I have watched her in an argument dissect up to about 20 different aspects of the conversation, and lay it all out with complete clarity!. She is able to process, keep track and analyze multitudes of things at once!. I am convinced she has the mind of a prodigy!. I just need some guidence to help me give her guidence!.

I love this girl!.
I want to help her!.
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Answers:
Take some time to yourself each month!. Consider who you are, and what your needs are!. Realize that she is who she is, and you are who you are!. If you continue in this relationship, this is a mind-set and boundary you will need to maintain if you are to continue your own mental health!.

I would discourage you from "naming" her undiagnosed symptoms with a label (schizophrenia, etc!.)!. Simply call her symptoms problems!. Encourage her to list her perceived "problems" on paper, while you also make your own list of what you see!. Chances are, her list will point more blame on others than it will toward herself!.
Make an appointment for an assessment with a local Mental Health clinic!. The assessment will be 1-to-3 appointments to determine her issues and your concerns!. Results will be discussed, and an experienced Counselor/Therapist will be suggested for her to work with!.
Trust may be a difficult factor for a person with problems such as you describe!. It may be advantageous to plan a week or 2 with her, making appointments ahead of time!. If it were me, I would say "lets see if we can find a way to address your problems" "I care about you, and I want to see you be as healthy and as happy/ less concerned as possible" I've noticed that we approach our world differently, and sometimes I've wondered if this is healthy/ normal!.
I would like to go together to see about these things!. Something doesn't seem right - there must be a better way!.
Basically try to remove any "blame" from her!. Point out that your perceptions and functioning is different!. Or you can approach it from "we want to have a healthy relationship" - let's talk with a counselor to learn to balance our personalities in a positive relationship!.

I hope I've given you some ideas on approaches that she may accept that will result in finding her the help she truly requires!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If she wants any chance to recover, she needs to drop the drugs permanently!. You can't heal a wound if you keep clawing at it, and you can't heal a mental disorder if you keep doing **** that messes with your head!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I suggest you take her for some counselling!. The fact she is so intelligent is a separate issue really!. She needs support with her mental illness!. Alot of people with mental illness are highly intelligent which prevents them from getting the help they need!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

She needs real help !.!. you are describing paranoid schizophrenia !.!.!. she needs more than your love !.!. she needs medication !.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Get her to the therpist before it worsens- at least she's capable of some reasoning now, she may not be later!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You might have to make an ultimatum!. Stop smoking the weed or I am gone!. Tell her that you dont like her behaviour when she is stoned!.!.!.you cant tell her that and keep doing it yourself though!. I would say that her symptoms are of a person that smokes weed and it catches up with some people at a later date!. I believe that it is dangerous to diagnose a mental health issue without the proper education and knowledge and think that maybe you and her need to get into counseling so that you have support to get her the support!. She might not listen to you and as you said the symptoms are only getting worse!. You have a major decision to make about your future!.!.!.is she someone that you would want to live with all of the time!?!.!.!.make a life and home with!?!.!.!.have a family with!? There are a lot of questions that you need to think about!. People with mental health issues can not see it for themselves a lot of time!.!.!.so I would be surprised if she just popped up and agreed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you love her so much, you'll do what it takes to get her some help!. If this means going to her family with your concerns, that's what it means!. There is nothing you, a long-distance boyfriend can do to help her other than making sure she gets help no matter what!. You're not a psychiatrist/psychologist, obviously, so you cannot treat her!. All you can do is make sure she gets treatment!.

Also, since you're not a psychiatrist/psychologist, what qualifies you to be able to diagnose her!? You see patterns in behavior, sure, but have you undergone years of training and education, or are you just spouting out the first "diagnosis" that seems to fit!? Do you not realize that paranoia is a major side effect of cannabis use!? Get her off the weed!.

If you love her, bring up your concerns to the people who can help her, not to random people on the internet!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

This young woman very badly needs help!. You may be one of the few people who can persuade her to get it!. If you have any regard for her at all, your duty is clear!. If she will not, or can not, help herself, then you must inform her family, even if you have to do it anonymously!.

You should try not to allow selfish considerations to interfere with your duty!.
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She should receive professional help!. Help can be obtained by clergy of any church (good starting point since the initial visit is usually on the house)!. There are also government insurance programs paid for by income taxes to treat people with any illness that may, again MAY, mean they pose a threat to themselves or others, such as law enforcement personnel for example!. The way to get those is by finding the right building in your community and applying!. Phone book is a great, great start!. Or put her on your insurance!. Those programs allow her to receive medication and counseling until she can get her own insurance!. If this advice does not work please mail me your computer for a full refund!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I really feel for you!. My brother has schizophrenia, my mom had it too!. She committed suicide because it was left untreated!. I was still too young to grasp the severity of her illness, I mean, I never thought she'll end her life at the end, but she did!. My brother is in a mental institution and is soon to be released!. He had to go there, because he refused to take his medication, just like my mom, but now he's much better!. He will never be able, however, to lead an independent life!.
One thing I can tell you is: never try to do something behind her back, or lie to her in order to help her!. If she finds out, she'll never trust you, and you'll confirm her paranoia!. The only way is to talk gently to her and try to convince her to get herself checked out!. You don't have to mention schizophrenia as such (you don't know what it really is, at the end of the day), just suggest to go with her to the doctor when she starts to complain about her symptoms!. She IS complaining, so it means it bothers her!. Be persistent but gentle!.
If she really has some form of this mental illness, it can get immensely frustrating to you, so be prepared!. You can also go to the mental health professional and ask for his/her advice what can you do yourself in such a situation!. Actually, you should!.
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You are in an extremely difficult situation!. No one that is not a professional person in dealing with this, should give you advice!.

If you truly love this person with all your heart, then help her by having quiet discussions with an expert who will give you advice on how to deal with it and what to do!.

It may not be schizophrenia!.!.!. It might be her hormones!.!. anyway!.!. se a doctor or other professional!.

Good luck
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I think you should tell her she might have mild schizophrenia but don't force her to do anything!. It should be her choice if she wants help, ask her that it would be a good idea to see a psychologist or someone she can talk to!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

OK---first thing---you are not a doctor and only a doctor can diagnose mental illness!. So if you really care about her, get her to one!.

Drugs certainly can't be helping and I certainly would not tolerate drug use in my relationship!.!.!.so there is something wrong with YOU!.!.!.if you use also or just put up with her usage!.

If she IS mentally ill, there is nothing you can do about it!. You have the choice of accepting it and putting up with it and her treatment, which has it's ups and downs, or ending it now and finding someone who is normal!. If you decide to stay, you should get a vasectomy so you don't bring kids into this world to be raised by an unstable mother!. I am not kidding!. My dad is a paranoid schizophrenic (and all those drugs in the 70's and 80's only made it worse) and it was not fun at all living with him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I truly empathize with you and admire you for your love and concern for your girlfriend, however, you cannot help her!. If there is anyway that you can convince her to stop using any mind or mood altering substances that might help her!. In fact, that might clear up the whole problem!. If you could convince her to try a natural herbal remedy to ease her mind (I don't know what else you can say to her) that might help some!.

She sounds like a classic case because one of the things that stands out in schizophrenia is they usually have a brilliant mind, genius quality at times!. She needs professional help, but if you could convince her to stop using drugs and visit this website for some natural cures it may reverse the whole situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I feel for you!. i too am in love and would do anything for my girl

First, you need to keep her OFF the DRUGS!. they mimic schizophrenia and other disorders, and only make them worsse my messing up their brain!. its quite possible the only reason she has it is because of the drugs!. drug induced psychosis!.

secondly, you need to talk her into seeing a doctor!. they can get her on medicaitons to control the symptoms and you will see your old girlfriend agian!.

3 never give up!. if she has it and has been with you over a year be amazed!. people with schizophrenia have a hard time trusting ANYONE!. even family!. its obvious she loves and cares for you, so dont leave her in this time of hardship!.

it will get better in time, and she can have a successful life!. you think she's a prodigy!? could be!. John Nash has schizophrenia and is a world renound Genius, mathemetician, who won the nobel prize for his findings!.!. also known as the man on the movie A Beautiful Mind!.


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