Im breaking down......?!
Question: Im breaking down!.!.!.!.!.!.!?
i cant stand it anymore!.!.!.!. im seriously in the middle of a breakdown!! my foster parents think i hate them because i want to leave!.!.!. my real parents wont talk to me!.!.!. i have to get another new therapist!.!.!.!. and i quit cutting for like a month but recently started again!. i dont know whats wrong with me!. all i do is cry anymore!.!.!.!. i want to go home but i know i cant so i cry more about that!.!.!.!. i know my dad hates me now for telling the police everything but id give anything to see him or talk to him!.!.!.!. i seriously am breaking downWww@Answer-Health@Com
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It sounds like you are in a tough situation, but you haven't done anything really to cause it!. Whatever you told the police was probably the right thing to do and took courage on your part!. Your foster parents need to understand that no matter how awful your real home may have been, everyone would rather be with their family!. Crying isn't really bad!. You have gone through a lot and I hope it gets better for you soon!. It's sad when the adults in your life hurt you!. They should be the ones to feel guilty, not you!. Try to focus on your life that doesn't involve them, like school and other activities!. You need to have ways to escape these stressful conditions!. I'm sorry you've had to go through so much so early!. Don't forget about God!. He is faithful and true and never lets you down!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sounds like you're going through a pretty rough time, girl!. this sounds dumb, but there's only so much you can take upon yourself, so much that you can influence, so much you can control!. what little you CAN control, make a list and work on a little at a time!. as for your many parental units, pray, meditate, send letters, but ultimately if you focus too much on the problem, you're going to work yourself into a breakdown that you get sick!. try to take a break by helping someone else out for a few days, reading a short book, work on a project/art!.
i hope you start feeling better soon; you sound like a nice, sensitive girl!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
i hope you start feeling better soon; you sound like a nice, sensitive girl!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need someone to confide in!. Your foster parents !? Your real parents !? New therapist !? Whoever - someone that you can totally open to!. (And I don't mean on the internet - I mean a real person in your vicinity)!. In the meanwhile I will pray for you!. It must be terrible getting torn between your parents and the law!. I'm sorry that you're hurting!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Oh dear!. I am so sorry!. THis is terrible!. I don't completely know what it's like, but I have broken down quite a few times and I am a cutter!. I am stopping though because I got tired of it, got some help because I really do want to be happy!. I don't know what to tell you, but just don't give up!. Find somethign that makes you happy, and makes you smile!. Look a a few quotes (they always make me feel better) I am so sorry!. *hugs* if you need to tlak, please email me!. I can send you my MSN if you want!. I would like to help you!. Things will get better though, I promise!. Good luck Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like you are in a horrible situation!.
I will say a prayer for you!.
My suggestion is to go find a church and join their community!. If it is a good church, they will give you lots of love and support and be like a family to you!. You need to stabilize yourself first!. then once you are stable emotionally and it is physically safe for you to reconnect with your parents (like they won't physically harm you), then I would do that!. But first you need to heal yourself!.
God bless!
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I will say a prayer for you!.
My suggestion is to go find a church and join their community!. If it is a good church, they will give you lots of love and support and be like a family to you!. You need to stabilize yourself first!. then once you are stable emotionally and it is physically safe for you to reconnect with your parents (like they won't physically harm you), then I would do that!. But first you need to heal yourself!.
God bless!
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you know what!? you should go and pray!. God knows what is best for you, He won't do anything to harm You!. Before you do anything, you should ask God's wisdom and you're problem will surely be solved right away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
See www!.drdrew!.com on abuse & www!.burstingthebubble!.com & www!.reachout!.com!.au/home!.asp Sexual abuse: minors - see section 20, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Cutting: see section 16; use the alternatives, and the hotlines!. Teen resources: first page, and page K, section 13!. Tell your fosters you don't hate them, but that the abused often still love their abusers!. ONLINE THERAPY: http://www!.psychology!.com & http://www!.onestepatatime!.com & http://www!.kasamba!.com & http://www!.onlinecounselingtherapy!.com &
http://www!.counselingservicesonline!.org &
http://www!.onlinecounseling!.co!.za THERAPISTS: It depends to a certain extent on what your tentative diagnosis is: people with Borderline Personality Disorder, for example, need to be challenged from time to time, by therapists using DBT!. A good therapist will get you to examine the appropriateness of your actions, or thought patterns, and offer the occasional suggestion!.
Some therapists, however, work from an "I know best" basis, and, even though they may actually do know best, their approach often isn't as conducive to progress as others, who take more of a middle position!. On the other hand, there are those who try to be your friend, when what you really need is expert help!. I suggest that you try at least 3 new therapists, and initially select one you feel most comfortable with, because a good degree of rapport (which takes time to build) can help a lot, with therapy!. Closely examine the http://1-800-therapist!.com/ & http://www!.metanoia!.org/choose/ websites, and use the locators, there, and/or in section 1, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris (and phone book, but only if necessary)!. Personally, I'd select a clinical psychologist who believes in only recommending minimal necessary medication, if at all, because they don't issue prescriptions, so are considerably less likely to be involved with the rewards, and inducements offered by sales reps from "big pharma": the large drug companies, to psychiatrists (there are links to, or articles on how psychiatry has become corrupted by money from drug companies, and "how doctors are being manipulated", in section 1: worth reading!)!.
It's important to not only feel comfortable with your therapist, but also to know about their qualifications, and the type of therapy used (read section 1)!. Some people are in therapy for many years, and pay a small fortune in fees, so recognise that therapists may have a vested interest in keeping their patients coming back!. It pays the rent, and permits them to feel that they are fulfilling a useful function in life!.
For this reason, I believe that, unless there is a need for a specific type of therapy, such as Dialectical Behavio(u)ral Therapy, for Borderline Personality Disorder, or EMDR therapy, for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or ongoing support, in the case of people with bipolar disorder, who find they function best this way, it is a good idea to start out with a psychologist who uses Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. It often can accomplish all it is capable of, in 6 months, and to fix that time limit in the first session!. In that way, the therapist knows that there is only a limited window of opportuntiy to do what they can, and there is no unconscious motivation to attempt to draw things out!.
If, at the end of that time, you believe you could benefit from a little more therapy, then you can extend it, but I'd advise the therapist a few weeks before the final session, in case they are considering taking on a new patient, leaving you "high, and dry" committed, and without options, except to find someone else!. Learn to assess, and rate your therapist, after a while: sometimes it's better to move on, and find someone who you feel can help you more, but not if you've just reached an unpleasant part of the therapy, which part of you would rather avoid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.counselingservicesonline!.org &
http://www!.onlinecounseling!.co!.za THERAPISTS: It depends to a certain extent on what your tentative diagnosis is: people with Borderline Personality Disorder, for example, need to be challenged from time to time, by therapists using DBT!. A good therapist will get you to examine the appropriateness of your actions, or thought patterns, and offer the occasional suggestion!.
Some therapists, however, work from an "I know best" basis, and, even though they may actually do know best, their approach often isn't as conducive to progress as others, who take more of a middle position!. On the other hand, there are those who try to be your friend, when what you really need is expert help!. I suggest that you try at least 3 new therapists, and initially select one you feel most comfortable with, because a good degree of rapport (which takes time to build) can help a lot, with therapy!. Closely examine the http://1-800-therapist!.com/ & http://www!.metanoia!.org/choose/ websites, and use the locators, there, and/or in section 1, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris (and phone book, but only if necessary)!. Personally, I'd select a clinical psychologist who believes in only recommending minimal necessary medication, if at all, because they don't issue prescriptions, so are considerably less likely to be involved with the rewards, and inducements offered by sales reps from "big pharma": the large drug companies, to psychiatrists (there are links to, or articles on how psychiatry has become corrupted by money from drug companies, and "how doctors are being manipulated", in section 1: worth reading!)!.
It's important to not only feel comfortable with your therapist, but also to know about their qualifications, and the type of therapy used (read section 1)!. Some people are in therapy for many years, and pay a small fortune in fees, so recognise that therapists may have a vested interest in keeping their patients coming back!. It pays the rent, and permits them to feel that they are fulfilling a useful function in life!.
For this reason, I believe that, unless there is a need for a specific type of therapy, such as Dialectical Behavio(u)ral Therapy, for Borderline Personality Disorder, or EMDR therapy, for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or ongoing support, in the case of people with bipolar disorder, who find they function best this way, it is a good idea to start out with a psychologist who uses Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. It often can accomplish all it is capable of, in 6 months, and to fix that time limit in the first session!. In that way, the therapist knows that there is only a limited window of opportuntiy to do what they can, and there is no unconscious motivation to attempt to draw things out!.
If, at the end of that time, you believe you could benefit from a little more therapy, then you can extend it, but I'd advise the therapist a few weeks before the final session, in case they are considering taking on a new patient, leaving you "high, and dry" committed, and without options, except to find someone else!. Learn to assess, and rate your therapist, after a while: sometimes it's better to move on, and find someone who you feel can help you more, but not if you've just reached an unpleasant part of the therapy, which part of you would rather avoid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com