Seriously guys, what do you think?!
Question: Seriously guys, what do you think!?
I am almost 23 years old and I am a full time college student, who is currently unemployed because of overwhelming amount of college credits!.
I was raised as an only child in a very overprotective conservative family!.
Ever since my childhood I was a social outcast!. I was a stereotypical geek and my parents were reinforcing by not letting me hang out with my friends during my childhood and teenage years!. Nowadays it doesn't seem that they state those restrictions, but I don't have any confidence in myself for losing out on fun during my childhood and teenage years!.
Recently my cousin caught me chatting with a girl on the net(who is my friend) from college!. Being a b*tch that he is, he tells my parents about and I get constant questioning about who she is as if I am marrying that girl!.
I am grown a** man, but I don't have any confidence of independence!. Nowadays I don't want to go out with friends( even though I don't think my parents would disapprove of it that much), it's like I don't think I am capable of living a life as a normal adult based on restriction that were placed in the past and that some of them are still there!. Moving out takes a job, a responsibility and confidence and that is something I don't have!.
It's easy for people to judge me by not living through what I lived through!. I am still not allowed to grow a beard or to get whatever haircut I want!. It has to be clean shaved conservative style!.
What do you think!?
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I was raised as an only child in a very overprotective conservative family!.
Ever since my childhood I was a social outcast!. I was a stereotypical geek and my parents were reinforcing by not letting me hang out with my friends during my childhood and teenage years!. Nowadays it doesn't seem that they state those restrictions, but I don't have any confidence in myself for losing out on fun during my childhood and teenage years!.
Recently my cousin caught me chatting with a girl on the net(who is my friend) from college!. Being a b*tch that he is, he tells my parents about and I get constant questioning about who she is as if I am marrying that girl!.
I am grown a** man, but I don't have any confidence of independence!. Nowadays I don't want to go out with friends( even though I don't think my parents would disapprove of it that much), it's like I don't think I am capable of living a life as a normal adult based on restriction that were placed in the past and that some of them are still there!. Moving out takes a job, a responsibility and confidence and that is something I don't have!.
It's easy for people to judge me by not living through what I lived through!. I am still not allowed to grow a beard or to get whatever haircut I want!. It has to be clean shaved conservative style!.
What do you think!?
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Answers:
I feel for you man, I really do!. I was also raised in a conservative family, and even though I can't say that they are overprotective, they did limit my freedom when I was small!. I remember being left out when I was a kid because my parents are kind of strict and sometimes they embarrassed me in front of my friends, and as a result I became socially withdrawn!. I felt so weak, so pathetic!.!.!. It made me lose confidence in myself because I always needed to get my parents' approval before I can do anything!.
As a teen it was mostly the same, I didn't get to hang out with my friends that much especially when they go out on an outing because my parents doesn't want me to go!. I can't go even though they all can, even the girls!. It really hurts you know!. I really felt ashamed about of it, I think that's the reason for my ineptitude towards women!. Yeah I mean I have a lot of friends from the opposite sex, I even had some girlfriends but the feeling of apprehension is still there!.
When it comes to being independent, I think I'm doing good to some extent, but I'm still having a hard time dealing with people!. It frustrates me, it's like I missed out on my teens and there were some important things that I didn't get to experience which I needed as an adult!. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about, I mean people talking about experiences and you're left out thinking why you didn't get to experience them, those kind of things!.
Right now, I'm also in college and I'm not really sure what to do after I graduated!. I'm still worried about how I'll fare up in the real world!. You know what, I've been thinking about this for the past few days and it's good to know that I'm not alone!. I guess the only thing we could do to make up for the lost times is to enjoy our life right now as much as we can!. It's time to we break free!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As a teen it was mostly the same, I didn't get to hang out with my friends that much especially when they go out on an outing because my parents doesn't want me to go!. I can't go even though they all can, even the girls!. It really hurts you know!. I really felt ashamed about of it, I think that's the reason for my ineptitude towards women!. Yeah I mean I have a lot of friends from the opposite sex, I even had some girlfriends but the feeling of apprehension is still there!.
When it comes to being independent, I think I'm doing good to some extent, but I'm still having a hard time dealing with people!. It frustrates me, it's like I missed out on my teens and there were some important things that I didn't get to experience which I needed as an adult!. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about, I mean people talking about experiences and you're left out thinking why you didn't get to experience them, those kind of things!.
Right now, I'm also in college and I'm not really sure what to do after I graduated!. I'm still worried about how I'll fare up in the real world!. You know what, I've been thinking about this for the past few days and it's good to know that I'm not alone!. I guess the only thing we could do to make up for the lost times is to enjoy our life right now as much as we can!. It's time to we break free!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
get a job and a ******* lifeWww@Answer-Health@Com
At 23 years old you should be able to show some independence, and should be treated like an adult!.
Living at home and relying on your parents for bed and board puts a crimp in your ability to do so!. If they're paying for college, there's another!.
Try doing some things that show you're an adult!. Discuss your feelings with your parents!. Talk to your religious advisor!.!.!. maybe he or she can also talk to your parents!. You don't say if you're an only child - that's a factor too!.
Family counseling could also be useful!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Living at home and relying on your parents for bed and board puts a crimp in your ability to do so!. If they're paying for college, there's another!.
Try doing some things that show you're an adult!. Discuss your feelings with your parents!. Talk to your religious advisor!.!.!. maybe he or she can also talk to your parents!. You don't say if you're an only child - that's a factor too!.
Family counseling could also be useful!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You come from a Middle Eastern family I bet! I don't mean that in a negative way, but it just sounds like something that culture does!. If you don't want to go out, then don't!. It's not a big deal!. Do whatever makes you happy bro!. If you want to be independent, then go out, get a job, and do your thing!. Honestly, if someone is still judging you at your age, then they need to grow up!. So if it's feeling like an outcast that scares you, then get over that fear!. You'd be surprised how down to earth most people are!. Just talk to them and get to know them!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think that you need to grow up!. You said in your little rant about 3 or 4 times that you have no confidence in yourself!. Um, get some!? You are aware of your problem and unable to fix it!? Is it because you care about what other people think!? That is just stupid!. I mean everyone cares to some extent what people think but to let your mom still dress you when you are 23 is unhealthy and quite pathetic!. You need to grow some balls and figure out what makes you happy!. You still have the mind of a child because you refuse to let go of the coffee table and walk on your own two feet!. Yeah you'll fall down a few times but you need to do it, get uncomfortable!. Step out there and find out who you are!.Www@Answer-Health@Com