Depression and dating...what do u do?!
Question: Depression and dating!.!.!.what do u do!?
So, I have been battling depression off and on for 6 months now, currently not on any meds and recently began talking to a guy that I am sorta interested in!. He asked me out but I always make up an excuse because I don't feel ready to date or do anything socially like parties, movies, etc!.!.I have been through alot and I know starting to date opens more problems which I feel will make my symptoms worse!. I don't know what to tell him, I don't want him waiting for me to come around!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I really feel for you, cos I was in a very similar situation a few years ago!. Although I am currently doing very well, at that time I was in the depths of depression and I found the most wonderful guy!. We started a relationship, and as much as I wanted it to work out, I wasn't well enough!. He was the most patient and wonderful guy, and I put him through hell for 9 long months, in the end he had and enough, and decided for both our sakes that the relationship couldn't carry on!. I couldn't feel devastation (becos at that time I had an emotional block which meant that I could barely feel anything emotionally, and couldn't show any feeling)!. But a few years on, I finally feel like the person used to be, and I know deep down that if I had the chance again, we could have had a beautiful relationship!. I think hes still single, but I could never ask him to try again, cos I'm too ashamed of what I put him through, and I don't think things could ever be right!. My advise to you would be, don't start up a relationhip if you don't feel well enough!. It will only end in disaster like mine did!. Build yourself up slowly, and when you feel that the time is right, THEN start dating!. From reading your question, I don't think now is the time!. I hope this helps, and best of luck with your recovery!. I know how terribly hard depression is to cope with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hmmmm!.!.!.!.
Difficult one!
I've been there, have had depression for a few years now, been on and off meds for the last few years!.
Although I would say don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with, I would also say you have to get yourself out there!. Hiding away will on make you feel worse - believe me, it's what happened to me!.
How did you meet this guy!? Keep talking to him for a little longer, and if I were you, I'd tell him the truth!.
If you're worried what he'd think if you told him the truth, then he isn't worth it!.
Just remember that having depression is normal, and can be helped! 1 in 4 people will have symptons of depression at some point in their life! You are human!
In your life, do things at your own pace, don't feel pressurised to do something your feel you are unready for! People like this will only make you feel worse!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Difficult one!
I've been there, have had depression for a few years now, been on and off meds for the last few years!.
Although I would say don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with, I would also say you have to get yourself out there!. Hiding away will on make you feel worse - believe me, it's what happened to me!.
How did you meet this guy!? Keep talking to him for a little longer, and if I were you, I'd tell him the truth!.
If you're worried what he'd think if you told him the truth, then he isn't worth it!.
Just remember that having depression is normal, and can be helped! 1 in 4 people will have symptons of depression at some point in their life! You are human!
In your life, do things at your own pace, don't feel pressurised to do something your feel you are unready for! People like this will only make you feel worse!Www@Answer-Health@Com
May, may i help you!? :) Well, I would just be direct to the individual that wants to date you!. I know it could be difficult, specially because i think you do not want to let that individual upset, but i truly believe that you should not be stressed and go into depression because you do not want to make someone upset for a quick time (if that individual becomes upset, because it is most likely that the individual will understand the situation)!. therefore, just tell him what your feelings are and what you are thinking!. Being able to communicate your thoughts and ideas to others are really great ways of maintaining yourself healthy and away from stress or depression!. ;) Www@Answer-Health@Com
I agree with you on this, i dont think it would be a good idea to date!. I would explain to him your probleme!. and say that hes a nice guy and u like him but its not good for your health, and mind!. if you dont feel that open towards him, definitly dont go out with him! and just simply say that your not interested in dating and youd rather wait till your older, and in collage, or out when you know you can take things seriously!. hope i helped! Www@Answer-Health@Com
My BF is not a drama person so I try to hide it as much as I can !. There have been times where I have "broken down" & he's been comforting but I suffer from BPD (Borderline) which he doesn't understand so we just don't talk about it unless it comes up!. In your case I'd would just tell him how you feel & see how he responds!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
thats a tough decision, but i would say if he makes you happy why don't you try going on a date with him!. You may see yourself the happiest person ever with the guy its worth a try!. If you don't like going on a date with him the first time then tell him your not ready!. good luck! Www@Answer-Health@Com
tell the truthWww@Answer-Health@Com
How bad do you want the guy :P If you like him, want him, want to spend time with him, then be honest!. Explain your problem!. Say you're still struggling with your illness, and maybe that you'd like to take it slow for now, because adjustment to new situations can be difficult and affect your mood!.
Reassure him you like him, and are interested, then just treat him like a good friend!. If something is meant to grow, it'll grow without any more effort from you than you would put into a deep friendship!. But by thinking of him as a mate instead of a boyfriend, you put yourself into a more relaxed state when you think about him - because there's no pressure!.
No worry, fewer nerves!. I think this is less likely to upset your mood!.
If you don't think it's worth it!.!.!.then do whatevewr you think's best for the situation!. I know I've made new friends while I've been depressed, and now sometimes I find myself dragging THEM up! :) It's not difficult to start being social even when you're feeling low!.
I find contact bouys me up somewhat!. Maybe a movie or something with this guy will help rather than hinder, since social contact is recoomended for anyone suffering with depression!.
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Reassure him you like him, and are interested, then just treat him like a good friend!. If something is meant to grow, it'll grow without any more effort from you than you would put into a deep friendship!. But by thinking of him as a mate instead of a boyfriend, you put yourself into a more relaxed state when you think about him - because there's no pressure!.
No worry, fewer nerves!. I think this is less likely to upset your mood!.
If you don't think it's worth it!.!.!.then do whatevewr you think's best for the situation!. I know I've made new friends while I've been depressed, and now sometimes I find myself dragging THEM up! :) It's not difficult to start being social even when you're feeling low!.
I find contact bouys me up somewhat!. Maybe a movie or something with this guy will help rather than hinder, since social contact is recoomended for anyone suffering with depression!.
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