How do I get rid of guilt and depression?!


Question: How do I get rid of guilt and depression!?
I'm a 15 yr old girl I had the one and only friend i had died 3 yrs ago from cancer I did not know she had the decease so the last thing I did when i saw her I got in this huge argument and I always blame myself for her death!. Im in high school i can't make new friends b/c when i talk to someone new I feel like Im going to break in tears I cant even look at myself in the mirror without looking at her crying figure behind me I feel so guilty i dream about her every night I cant get her out of my head I cant go out at all without trying to hold tears Ive lost so many people in my life she was all I had I slit my skin to feel less guilty I feel like if i feel her pain she will be happy with me can you please help me!!Www@Answer-Health@Com


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My friend had a kidney disease which I did know about, but she had it forever and you could never tell she wasn't feeling good!. My brother and I met her to watch a movie in the summer (and it was right after friends of hers and us and had moved her into a new condo) and I was really crabby and didn't feel good at the time and the last thing she said was, "I'll call you on Tuesday" Well, she passed away Tuesday night in her sleep and I had no idea it was coming!. There was a lot of guilt for me too, but the thing is, I didn't know it would happen!. You didn't know either - it wasn't your fault and your friend wouldn't want you beating yourself up this way!. Please believe me about this!. I dreamed about my friend a month after she passed, and I was trying to catch up to her!. She turned and said, "I'm ok"; I can't explain that dream, but I know that after it, I started to heal!. She died in 1999!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

venlafaxine!. it can't cure your losses but it can help you to get out of the deep despair by giving you that energy and thirst for life that you seem to have lost!. it also relieves you of those irrational feelings of guilt - you will realise you are not to blame!. we are all human and all make mistakes!. remember your lost ones positively, remember them as you know they would want to be remembered!. would they want to have this effect on you!? good luck kid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Dont blame urself for her death, u didnt know she had cancer, talk to someone about it, it makes ur heart feel less heavy, and remember, crying does not help, i know its hard not to cry, because u cant change the past, learn from this mistake, i know just how u feel, im so sorry
to get rid of the guilt, you need to tell ur mind it was not ur faultWww@Answer-Health@Com

I don't know how your friend felt, but if i was dying i wouldn't want to be treated different just because of i was dying!. She is in wonderful place of no regrets etc!. So learn to forgive yourself, the passed is the passed, look to your future!. Good Luck kiddo!. My prayers are with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

one word dear SHRINK IS IS THERE FOR YOUWww@Answer-Health@Com

Guilt often occurs with depression, and ask yourself, if I wasn't depressed, and she didn't die from cancer, ( IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT SHE GOT CANCER ) would you still have felt guilty!? If not, there is no reason to feel guilty now!. View the suggestions on what to do about self harming, in section 16, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut!. There is much information, and useful weblinks on my website: far too much to include here, which is why I needed to create it!. Seek therapy, to help you address the actual cause of those problems, rather than using an inappropriate method of treating the symptoms, which others have found, doesn't work, in the longer term, and that leaves behind the extra problem of scarring to deal with, then!.

There are many things you can do to help treat your depression!.

Moderate exercise for at least 20 - 30 minutes, daily, and up to an hour!. Brisk walking is good, and try to be mindful of the feeling your foot makes as it hits the ground: it is a relaxation technique!. Also use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2!.c, 2!.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2!.q, 2!.o, and section 53, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you!.

Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice!. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it!. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression!. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels!. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements!.

Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain)!. As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St!. John's wort, (a German variety, if possible; local ones may vary in efficacy; take with a meal) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55 at ezy-build )!.

Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy!. Co-counselling is shown in the first 3 pages of section 2, or online therapy, or even talking with someone you feel comfortable with, and a much more detailed post is on page R!. Also view young women's depression, page V, teen depression, and eventually the rest!.
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Sorry to hear about this, I know it must be hard!. There is any inquiry technique, which uses four simple questions to question the thought that is giving you guild and suffering!. The technique is called 'the work' or 'four questions'!. you can get the technique free on www!.thework!.org or buy the book 'Loving what is' by Byron Katie!. I have known a lot of people who have had emotionllay scarring experiences like this to have looked at their thoughts and cleared themselves of the nighmare!. Also try Yoga, meditation, aerobic exercise etc!. But the main thing is to do inquiry and investigate the thoughts that are causing you suffering!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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