How do I stop being a loner?!
Question: How do I stop being a loner!?
Easier said than done!.!.!.I was always a shy guy, an old soul, and humble for my age!. It seems with facebook and everything now everyone my age (23) is trying to be a celebrity with all their pictures and competing for all the attention with the opposite sex!. I was never like that, I only have like 200 friends on facebook and was tagged in only 20 pics or so since 2005!. I know, pathetic, but i just don't have much in common with people like that!. I get along great with adults, and its so easy for me to talk with adults at work!. I work out and I look great and get many compliments that I am handsome, I was asked to model, etc but I think I spend a lot of time perfecting the outside because I feel I need it to make up what I don't have inside!. The dating scene is just a mess because girls are more immature more now that in past generations!. I blame pop culture for that! I was thinking of getting a weekend job somewhere to try and build my social skills!? What do you think would help me out, I have never been in a serious relationship either and I really want a girlfreind but it just seems like i have a force field around me preventing that from happening!. I'm sort of stuck right now!. Being shy sucks!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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i think you're really self effacing and give yourself less credit than you deserve!. Its clear you have a lot of insight and understand the insanity of today's culture and are a cerebral person who thinks things through as opposed to most people who simply conform without a question in their mind!. I think you want to fit in and have affirmation because you don't feel good enough when in reality the reason you don't fit in is because you aren't a rude, stupid person like the people you are trying to fit in with!. That should make you feel better about yourself!. You have to try and conform to some degree so you can communicate to people and don't ostracize yourself, but you should try and find the right people who on the same level as you instead of pandering to stupid people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
why dont you join somekind of sports team or social event
then you can see the same people once or twice a week
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then you can see the same people once or twice a week
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youre only a loner if you think youre a loner !. Remember its nots what you say its how you say it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Like you said, easier said than done!. I am a very out-going person!.!.!.in an area/place I am comfortable in, but when I get outside of my comfort zone, feel much more shy!. My advice: Push yourself!. Yeah, it's tough!.!.!.:) Really tough!. But you may actually finding yourself having a lot of fun! I find that if I just push myself out of my comfort zone a little I feel way more comfortable and make many more friends and actually enjoy myself! Hope this helps!. :) Best of luck!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com