I feel like I have no life, how do I change my ways?!


Question: I feel like I have no life, how do I change my ways!?
My Daily Routine: Wake up at 5, Eat Toast and Cereal, Take a shower, catch three buses to college, attend classes, go home, do homework, go to work, go to sleep!. Everyday, M-thursday!. And on fridays-sunday I just stay at home and do homework, or simply daze off into my own spiritual world!. No interaction with my peers!. I know I'm considered good looking, but ever since I was born I've always had a problem connecting with people, being able to simply TALK to them, I can't talk, what do i say to people!. Why can people have natural conversations, and not me!?I want to be like all the other people out there, with 200+ people on their myspace/or facebook, and not some uninteresting person with 40 max friends on a social networking site, 10 of which I really know!. What's wrong with me!?!? I wish I could just trade one of my skills for the art of conversating with people!. !.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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You post this question for one of two reasons!. Either you genuinely want to trade who you are for an artificial life, or you're looking for validation!.

I don't know you, so it's difficult for me to say what your angle is specifically, but I wonder if the reason you don't have more friends is because you know that most people are morons!. Because you think wasting your paycheck on booze and nightclubs is ridculous, and you genuinely can't see why people find such trivial and stupid things to be so entertaining and fulfilling!. Or you're seriously just shy and very na?ve!.

Do you really think that people with 200+ friends on their stupid MySpace accounts are seriously friends with 200+ people!? Send an invite out to everybody at your school and I'm sure you'll hit that number!. Or grow up and ask yourself why you care so desperately what people think about you!.

You sound smart, you sound funny, and you sound reflective!. There's nothing wrong with having a small, really tight-knit group of friends!. The truth of the matter is that once you grow up and join the working world, your friends are going to be the people you work with and one or two people you went to school with!. You'll go out with them once a week, if that, and spend the rest of your time with your significant other!. That's life!. What do your parents do in their day!? Their friends!? Most people five years older than you!? I guarantee you that whatever you think most people are doing with their freetime, they aren't!.

I'd hang out with you if it was an option because you sound alright by me!. I just sincerely hope that you start treating yourself a little better because you don't deserve the criticism you're taking at your own hand!. Don't feel bad about not having conversations with your peers because if they aren't morons then they should like you no matter how your conversation skills are!. If my friends can put up with my incessant mumbling and figure out what the hell I'm talking about, I'm sure you'll be fine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It's like I am typing to myself of 15 years ago!

I am the same way! You feel like you are missing the "socializing" gene that everyone else takes for granted!.

You can have a conversation with someone but never really seem to "connect" with anybody!

You need to break the "routine" you have established for yourself! As for the solution on HOW exactly, I haven't found one yet but I hope, at least, knowing you are not alone is a little comforting!.

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The reason people find you boring is because you are shy!. It seems unfair to say that people don't like socializing with shy people, but it's the truth!. What you can do is socialize with the people that you DO like and share interests with, that makes it easy to connect with them!. Maybe you aren't talking to the right people!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Start talking to people on text or myspace or facebook and be cool about it and talk to them about stuff that is going on and dont be fake and they will ask you to hang out and go places with them!.
talk to them in class maybe and say you seem pretty cool and ask if they have text and then get their numberWww@Answer-Health@Com

I used to have a sort of similar problem, but mine was lack of confidence!. Your in College! Parties, Girls, go out there and have fun!. This might sound stupid but when I'm drunk it allows me to be normal for a few hours!. Ask one of your friends whens the next time he is drinking and get hammered, have a good time!. Or smoke some weed and think of solutions, idk!. Your in college have fun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Drink some caffene and just talk to people, if that doesn't work go to class drunk one day, I promise you will meet friends that way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I would talk with youWww@Answer-Health@Com

can you spare some time on your weekends and do something that means interacting with other people!? if a weekly dance class proves to be too much for you, how about learning to play some instrument!? or just anything that you might be interested in!. i also suggest some kind of charity/volunteer work as that will make you feel really good!. unlike college work which is really competitive and IMPORTANT , this social activity is just for fun, just to relax and meet people in a relaxing atmosphere, not a competitive one!. you can try it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Hey! I'm a pretty sociable person and I only have 38 friends on my myspace! lol I just add the people I am very close with though because I have many pics of my baby on there and don't want them all over the net!. Anyway try approaching people in your classes!. Ask a simple question like do you know whats gonna be on the next exam!? (ok lame but just an example! lol) It may not work every single time but I guarantee you continue trying this with several different people and you will see results!. If your gonna be missing a class soon ask someone if they will call or text you and fill you in!. Thats a sly way of exchanging phone numbers =D Goodluck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

the grass is ALWAYS Greener on the other side!.!.!.I wish I had 10 friends!.!.!.heck I wish I had one !.:(

Your education is imortant!.
Right now you are so busy with school but this too shall pass!.!.

If you have no time to socialize and it is bothering you that much perhaps you'll just have to make some time!. at least once every week at the same activity/ place where you are bound to eventually meet more people!. you cant meet people sitting at home!.

and it sounds like you really have been isolating yourself !.!.!.but now it's time to step out!

Best of Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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