I'm affraid to commit to anything, i need help?!


Question: I'm affraid to commit to anything, i need help!?
Whenever i start something i always back out my mind just takes over and says no you dont want to do that, i cant control it even if it is something that i really want to do i get this horrible feeling all over me, its mostly in my stomach and it drives me mad it won't stop until i have stopped whatever it was that i was doing!. it happens with everything my love life, college and socializing, i find it hard to keep friends!.

No one around me seems to understand what i'm going through, everyone thinks that i am just being lazy!. i hate myself for it and everyday i want to kill myself because i feel useless!. The only reason i don't is that i think to myself that tomorrow it might be better but it never is!.

I have been to a psyciatrist, he was with the nhs but he wasn't every good and it never worked out because when i was there i didn't feel like he believed me and there for i couldn't talk to him!.

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well dear here is the thing!.!.!.believe it or not i used to be just like u, and i used to suffer and hate myself as well!.!.!.i felt like i wont be able to go anywhere or do ANYTHING in mylife as long as im like that UNTIL!.!.!.i read an article talking about getting out of ur comfort zone!.!.!.

to get out of ur comfort zone u need to do one thing that is different everyday no matter how small it is!.!.!.take a different route to work or have ur meals at a different time of the day!.!.!.BUT MAKE SURE U STICK TO THE RULE!.!.!.make a different every single day!.!.!.

after that join something different, doesnt have to be big just something like have a new group of friends and go out with them more ofter or u could practice a hobby somewhere else or within a group

the next thing u know is that u are changing ur habits and trying new things everyday!.!.!.it is important not to judge urself and give ur self sometime and no matter how small the change is make sure than u r proud of ur self for making the change

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Brother in law has something similar he has never worked in his bloomin life then there was an announcement that the government were going to get the work shy off there backs and into work, It was such a shock to his system he had a heart attack but he survived and he is now on incapacity!.

Do you go out of the house could it be depression or agoraphobia do you suffer from panic attacks!?
You need to see a doctor and then go from there it may be psychological or something else!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

A couple of suggestions!.

Find a different psychiatrist!.

Find a behavioral psychologist!.

A different psychiatrist can possibly prescribe medication for this somewhat obsessive behavior and the behavioral psychologist can focus on changing your thought patterns and behaviors that result from the thought patterns!.
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commit or engage to the things that might be good for you!. and finish what you've started, and you will given interest for yourselfWww@Answer-Health@Com

or maybe youre just lazy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It's an anxiety thing, you're afraid of failing!.

Don't feel useless!. Try out with small things first, like cooking a meal or learning a new process for something simple!. Get a notebook and write down things as you accomplish them!. Every day try to accomplish one small thing, even if it's just looking up the meaning of a new word!.

Think of it this way: One day at a time, one thing every day!.

As time goes on, you can accomplish slightly larger and more challenging things!. But first things first - baby steps, like everything else!.

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I'm like that too!. I think why should I even look for a job if I know I won't get it!. And I'm the same with relationships!. One failed relationship and I'm ready to give up!. I'm pretty useless around friends too because I can't express myself in a conversation!. I've always given up on my studies too!.

But I take Executive B anti-stress vitamins which does make me calm down and I try to keep a positive outlook on life!. At times I want to give up but then I keep telling myself to push forward even if the light seems very far away!.
Many people think that I'm lazy too or I don't put any effort in!.

You definitely need to find a psychiatrist you can trust!. I had a psychologist that I ended up hating!. She misdiagnosed me for severe depression, but my new one actually listens to me!. I had a social worker that I really liked too!. You just got to find someone who is right for you!.

You need to think positive about yourself!. Think what you have, not what you don't!. I'm sure many have it worse than you!. I've had to think that way because I feel really down about my last relationship!. I was awful at it!. I've got the worse social skills too!. I literally cannot share my opinion in a conversation!.
Also, try to distract your mind!. I read out loud if I start getting negative thoughts in the back of my mind!. Watching a comedy works well too!.

Anyway, try to find another psychiatrist/ psychologist and maybe go on medication to bring your mood up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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