How would you react if someone you cared about told you that they self harmed?!


Question: How would you react if someone you cared about told you that they self harmed!?
if you found out that a close friend or someone that you really cared about cut themselves, how would you react!? would you think that they're a freak!? or would you just try to be more calm about it!? if they're not doing it any more, and have it all under control and stuff, would you still be weird about it!? is it better to just keep this sort of thing to your self!? will it be more trouble than its worth to know this sort of thing about someone!? what would you do if you knew this about someone!? do you think you would react badly!? if you've ever been through this, what did you do or feel!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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I would feel devasted!.!.!.I would be unconditionally loving & try to learn all I could about this keeping in mind that it is a hard subject to understand & this is a hard experience for everyone involved!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

I used to self harm and felt terrible about the way I was affecting my friends and family!. The best thing you can do is be supportive, don't make them feel ostracized because of their behaivour, but don't condone it either!. Be firm that you can support them to find other outlets, but you don't agree that self-harm is a positive way of coping!. My friends and family were great and in the end one of the most helpful things in getting me to stop was not wanting to hurt them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Self harm is a really complicated thing and it's really hard to understand why someone would even think about self harming, never mind actually cutting themselves!. I can only talk from my experience, I do self harm and I have done for years!. When my family found out they screamed at me and made me see a psychologist!. That was totally the wrong way to react!. Self harmers need support and they need to know they can trust people!. They need profesional help but also true friends!. Just be yourself and be there for the person!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i would be calm about it, because peoples inperfections dont make them freaks!.
and most of the time, the people who do it need help, and need someone to be there for them!.
i know of many people who do it!.
but i guess it kinda depends on the person, and why theyre doing it!.
cause now adays, its become kinda a trend, and you cant really tell who really has the serious problem with it or what!.

if this were to happen, you should probably keep it to yourself until it got really bad!.
and if it was already really bad, you should make sure they get help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It can be very good to talk about it!.

When I told my parents they were shocked!. I expected them to yell, and get mad, but instead, they just told me they loved me, and asked me if there was anything they could do to help me stop!.

They were weird about it, but they are ok now!.

Most of my friends dont know, but few do!.

Its not exactlly something I advertise, but i will talk about it if people want to!. email me if you want to talk about self harm!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

well always tell them that if they really need some one to talk or to beat up you are there for them and they can always come to you!.!.!. please tell them that you are worried and that they need to stop it will take time for your friend to stop cutting but you will have to be patient and have lots of care and sympathy for them even if the things they cut for are really dumb just trust your friend and tell them that they should stop because you are worried for them and most of all have patienceWww@Answer-Health@Com

I'd b*tch slap them if they were a guy, or comfort them if they were a girl and get them into treatment!. Cutting doesnt do anything except hurt people!. ive been down the roads of self harm drug addiction attempted suicide, the works!. and i know none of them do ANYTHING good!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I would think that they were in a lot of pain!.!.!.and not the physical pain from self harming!.!.!.I mean the psychological pain that it is at the core of self harming!. There are mental health services in all communities, and I would ask them to contact these services for help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i wish that i could tell you, i've been doing the same thing, and im really trying to find other ways to express myself!.
i'm gonna add this to my watchlist, because i need to see how people answer!. good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I would tell them straight forwardly that was really stupid to do, don't do it again cause it's not the right way to go about your problems!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It depends!. It is certainly not healthy to intentionally cut yourself, but I would try to look at it from a logical point of view!. There must be a reason why this person is doing harm to themselves, and maybe talking it out with them is the right approach!. It might be a good idea to suggest that the person go to counseling (If you're in high school/college you should have no problem finding someone for them to talk to), or if they are against that idea you can at least talk to a professional by yourself about how you should handle it!. Always make sure the person in question knows that you are there for them, and above all else, keep an eye on the situation!. If things get too out of hand, it is your responsibility as a friend and fellow human being to let someone who can help know what's going on!.

Most importantly, remember this person is still you're friend!. If you push them away you will only add to their problems!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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