How do i survive or overcome this situation is it impossible?!


Question: How do i survive or overcome this situation is it impossible!?
because im to old or to disadvantaged !?


im nearly 31 have a personality disorder and ptsd symptoms, suffered a woefully misfortunate life so far , missed out on qualifications, forming friendships , being employed , living a life, forming relationships etc !.

im starting from scratch, i own nothing except a computer , i live in a one bedroom flat on disability , im chasing therapy , one on one psychology which is not available in my area due to lack of resources , so they put forth a drop in centre where they do activities to help me integrate with ' humanity ' better!.

i suffer With agoraphobia, low self esteem at times, rage and aggression, high anxiety, persecutors paranoia , racing thoughts - even though ive managed well for years and improved with a lot of it!.!.

i have a criminal past 7 years ago, a psychiatric record, obviously, been in a mental institution, 8 years ago!.


my big ambition in life is to have a fully independent life, a decent paid job in computers , to move abroad and leave britain , maybe ; austria, spain or germany!.

i have an injured ankle which will take time to heal, torn tendons due to a sprain a year ago!.

im out of shape and physically weak, have physical imperfections ; 2 missing teeth, a crooked little finger due to an injury years ago, injured nerves in my right knuckle because i punched a stone wall years ago!.!.


i go out there when im brave enough to get my groceries, pay bills, and i see people living happy , carefree , fulfilling lives full of richness!.

i see it on tv , on myspace!.



in the present i still get that aloof, standoffish vibe from people in the community , and sometimes the only ones who show kindness , frienliness are the type i feel feel sorry for me and are giving me the message im a charity case , so theyll accept me on those basis!.

then im normally aloof back, and reject them, sending the message, they are not wanted in my life!.

then i leave!.



i feel stuck here, far away from my goals in life of a decent job in computers of moving abroad , leaving england living in germany or austria, a quiet village, a secure , stable life, financially ok etc!.


im so far away its severly depressing me!.


i honestly feel to far away from those goals, to disadvantaged, to stigmatised!.

like it will take up until im very old to achieve them!.!.

i wish there was a quick fix so i could just leave this unwanted scenario!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
You aren't short of insight into your condition!. They all proclaim that the first step to take with a problem, is to acknowledge and accept it, and only THEN work to change it!.
You can't change people!. The only person you can change, is yourself!. I think you may be wrong about a major point in your life!. You perceive others as living some kind of paradise!. Their is nothing wrong with them, so their life must be perfect!? Noooooo!. The bulk of us live unfulfilled, drudgingly-dull wage-slave lives, with precious few golden moments that make it worthwhile!.

All the best with your plans!. Mine are far away, too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I agree with Violet, change is so scary , I know this personally

it can and will be done and we are just the type of stubborn people to make it happen, you are not alone ( :Www@Answer-Health@Com

You're not old!. I think only by making small changes one at a time and lots of patience!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

ok you have to take baby steps!. lower your goals first so they are achievable in the short run!.

For example get a computer quailfication, even if its in one of those courses that you complete my mail!.

Then after that get a job and as time goes on all the other small things that make will begin to fall into place!.

Hope this helpsWww@Answer-Health@Com

Firstly, you are not old by any means!. Second, You need to quit feeling sorry for yourself and start taking little steps toward your goal!. All things don't change overnight!. You need to stop thinking that people are only being nice because they feel bad for you, I am sure thats not true and I'm sure that some of them would have turned out to be great friendships!. Finding a place that offers successful therapy would benefit you greatly!. Until then you need to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and start making small adjustments that will make your life better and happier!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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