Is this supposed to affect me?!
Question: Is this supposed to affect me!?
Okay, this is a complicated situation for me!.!.!.When I was in elementary school there was this boy that liked me a lot!.!.!.at that stage in my life I thought boys were gross!.!.!.he was very very mean, and he was always in trouble!.!.!.he acted like the devil!.!.Anyway, everyday at school he would touch me, like in private places!. And I'd tell him 'no' but he'd get mad and force his way on me!. He'd put his hands into my clothes and everything!. And now that I'm 21, I still feel somewhat affected by it!. I don't know exactly how I'm affected by it, but I am!. I remember it like yesterday!. I have NEVER told anyone about this!.!.!.Am I supposed to still be affected it by this or am I over reacting to the whole thing!? I'm just not comfortable being around males alone!.!.!.Idk!.!.I just thought I'd forget about all this and move on, but I can't!. What do you guys think!? Should I try to just get over it!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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i know exactly how you feel because i was sexually abused by my older brother for sometime as a child and never told anyone!. it was or when i was like 7 or 8 up until about 10 or 11 and my brother is 6!.5 years older than me so he knew better!. he made it seem like a game like it was okay for me to give him oral and for him to give me oral!. but at some point i realized it was wrong and i stopped him from doing that to me!. when i would think about it i feel like i want to cry and i feel so dirty and taken advantage of!. but luckily i have been able to block out those memories mostly but sometimes images pop into my head about what happened!. this is probably why i have never had a girlfriend or focused on girls because i do feel violated and probably would not know how to be intimate with her!. its almost surreal at this point like it really didn't happen and it was all just a bad dream!. and thank god i have a strong will to not let things bother me because there is nothing that will stop me from achieving my goals in life!. um just try to block it out and seeking revenge may help too i mean i would but my brother is he own worst enemy and i am happy to see him down but if he were to get a leg up i may just have to knock him back down!. lately i have been thinking about getting help when i turn 18 because right now i am 17 and its just embarrassing and i feel like less of man because of it!. right now as i write i am crying because this is the first time i have ever talked about it !. i think it would be healthy to talk about it and have a strong faith in whatever it is you believe in!. just come to terms with it put it behind you and move on but it will take time!. um thanks for asking whether you know it or not you helped me too and i hope i helped you!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Abuse is abuse no matter at what age!. In order to get past the pain is to find the person that you trust more then anyone in the world and YES cry on their shoulder!. Those that love you will listen and hold you!. Without letting it out it will always affect you and you will never heal!. HUGS I hope this helpWww@Answer-Health@Com
man tat must have affected u a lot tats noting to be ashamed off !.forget bout it u were a little kid u didnt know wat u were doing but now u do and get over it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think this should affect your life anymore!. I think it's only natural to expect things like this to happen!. You said he'd force his way on you!? In what sense!? Why was a teacher or parent not told about this boy!? Most of the time, when children are sexually abused, trust becomes a huge factor-especially when it's been done by an older, respected authority figure!. Kids being kids and acting like horny toads is one thing, but I'm not trivializing your feelings in any way!. I was touched a lot by my cousin when I was little and it bothers me at times, and I wonder if she even remembers it!.!.!.!.but I can't imagine being abused by say: a parent, aunt, uncle etc!. There is a lot of sexual abuse in my family and even the ones who were abused in the most sickening of ways turned out fine, but each person is different!. Maybe nothing too drastic or traumatic has ever really happened in your life so to you, this seems like a big deal!. I'm only guessing, so forgive me if I'm incorrect!. I think you should move past this and forgive the little perv!.Www@Answer-Health@Com