I'm scared about getting a job?!
Question: I'm scared about getting a job!?
I just turned 17 about two weeks ago!. I dropped out of school last year in October right after I turned 16!. I have MAJOR anxiety and I believe I might have social anxiety!. I got bullied all the way through middle school because of my weight and the way I dressed!. This caused me to become really paranoid and scared of going out into public and being around people!. It was so bad at one point that I was scared to even visit relatives!. My grades were terrible in middle school and I skipped hundreds of days!. I even failed 6th grade and dropped out half way through the 7th grade year and half way through the 8th grade year!. Last year when I went into 9th grade, the anxiety was so bad that I came home crying everyday for no reason!. I couldnt take it and then 2 months later I dropped out!. My parents dont believe I have social anxiety!. Ive talked to the principal at my middle school, a counselor at the school, a truancy officer, and a counselor I seen a few times on the side!. They all suggested that I might have social anxiety but my parents ignored it and didnt even acknowledge it!. A month ago I explained my problems I was having with school and stuff with involving my anxiety!. My mom got on my computer and found my question through my internet history and read it but didnt say ANYTHING about it!. Eventually she said "you need to get out around people, you dont have anxiety, your just shy"!. I was always a shy kid my whole life you see, and my parents think that im still shy!. Well I know i'm not! I usually sit at home all day on the computer!. I have no friends at all!. I only leave my house to go places with my parents like the store or to my grandmas or my aunts!.
While I dropped out last year, my parents bought me a treadmill!. I started walking on it and lost quite a bit of weight!. I feel a little bit more confident and I dont really get anxious now going out in public!. Before I was terrified! Now I can walk into a store like its nothing!. I'm also gonna go to GED classes to get my GED!. I should be hearing from them sometime within the next week or two!.
I want to get a job after I get my drivers license (next year when I turn 18) and hopefully i'll have my GED by then!. I was thinking about working night shifts stocking shelves at a store like home depot!. They would probably pay me better than a department store!. I'm also interested in the stuff they sell there too like the lawnmowers and all that stuff because I love to be out in the yard working!.
The thing that scares me is the questions I heard they ask you at the job interviews about yourself and other questions they ask!. I suck at answering questions like those and those questions about myself!. Theres like NOTHING to say about myself!. I've been isolated in my house for 5-6 years now with no friends or much contact with people!. I only know my close family and those are the only people I talk too!. Another thing that scares me is making out a resume!. I have NOTHING to put on there about myself! Ive never accompolished anything!. Hell I dropped out in the 9th grade!
The only kind of job I would be good at based on my appearance is stuff like factory work and lifting!. People looking for BIG STRONG men would hire me in a hurry LOL!. I'm like 5'9 and 255 pounds! Www@Answer-Health@Com
While I dropped out last year, my parents bought me a treadmill!. I started walking on it and lost quite a bit of weight!. I feel a little bit more confident and I dont really get anxious now going out in public!. Before I was terrified! Now I can walk into a store like its nothing!. I'm also gonna go to GED classes to get my GED!. I should be hearing from them sometime within the next week or two!.
I want to get a job after I get my drivers license (next year when I turn 18) and hopefully i'll have my GED by then!. I was thinking about working night shifts stocking shelves at a store like home depot!. They would probably pay me better than a department store!. I'm also interested in the stuff they sell there too like the lawnmowers and all that stuff because I love to be out in the yard working!.
The thing that scares me is the questions I heard they ask you at the job interviews about yourself and other questions they ask!. I suck at answering questions like those and those questions about myself!. Theres like NOTHING to say about myself!. I've been isolated in my house for 5-6 years now with no friends or much contact with people!. I only know my close family and those are the only people I talk too!. Another thing that scares me is making out a resume!. I have NOTHING to put on there about myself! Ive never accompolished anything!. Hell I dropped out in the 9th grade!
The only kind of job I would be good at based on my appearance is stuff like factory work and lifting!. People looking for BIG STRONG men would hire me in a hurry LOL!. I'm like 5'9 and 255 pounds! Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Don't be scared! You can do it!
You said it yourself that you know what people who will want to hire you!
Listen to what you said and apply to those jobs with confidence that someone out there WILL hire you! You just don't give up!.
You are also a very good writer for someone who has not finished school, you write better than some who have finished school!. ok!?
You seem to think that interviews come easy to other's that you don't have the answers other applicants do!. but trust me we almost all cringe at those questions!. Questions like "so what is your greatest accomplishment!?" and one time they asked me that 3 times in an interview! Yikes,, I think I was sweating so bad! but it's Ok!. The more you interview either you will get better at it or you will get lucky and be interviewed by someone who just wants to hire you for the fact that you are willing to work!. Either way you will get a job!. Just keep trying and just remember too that there is plenty to say about yourself!.
Tell them you are an avid reader, writer, typist!.etc your achievments are in your heart, don't be afraid to share them no matter how simple they might be afterall you are only 17!. and if they have any sense they dont expect you to have done much more than be at home, school and with family!.!.!. it is ok !. YOU ARE OK !. And they will ask you less personal questions then you might think they will and even if they do, you will get through it and be stronger for it no matter what you say or do not say!.
Best of luck!
As for your anxiety, perhaps you will learn to realize soon that you are worthy Of everything you want in spite of every way you are!.
people around you that you know and do not know would agree that you are worthy but you do not agree!. You are wrong, when you see that you will feel better and not have anxiety as much or perhaps not at all!.
Till you come to this realization, when you feel anxious and get social anxiety !.!.!.tell yourself right then and there that these thoughts are of no benefit to your wellbeing and you are not going to let this anxiety control you any longer and stop you from doing what you know you want to do!.!.!.you must refuse to let the anxious feelings controll you any longer!. Take a couple of slow deep breathes and go for it!.
one more thing!.!.!.get you ged!!!!! Please!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You said it yourself that you know what people who will want to hire you!
Listen to what you said and apply to those jobs with confidence that someone out there WILL hire you! You just don't give up!.
You are also a very good writer for someone who has not finished school, you write better than some who have finished school!. ok!?
You seem to think that interviews come easy to other's that you don't have the answers other applicants do!. but trust me we almost all cringe at those questions!. Questions like "so what is your greatest accomplishment!?" and one time they asked me that 3 times in an interview! Yikes,, I think I was sweating so bad! but it's Ok!. The more you interview either you will get better at it or you will get lucky and be interviewed by someone who just wants to hire you for the fact that you are willing to work!. Either way you will get a job!. Just keep trying and just remember too that there is plenty to say about yourself!.
Tell them you are an avid reader, writer, typist!.etc your achievments are in your heart, don't be afraid to share them no matter how simple they might be afterall you are only 17!. and if they have any sense they dont expect you to have done much more than be at home, school and with family!.!.!. it is ok !. YOU ARE OK !. And they will ask you less personal questions then you might think they will and even if they do, you will get through it and be stronger for it no matter what you say or do not say!.
Best of luck!
As for your anxiety, perhaps you will learn to realize soon that you are worthy Of everything you want in spite of every way you are!.
people around you that you know and do not know would agree that you are worthy but you do not agree!. You are wrong, when you see that you will feel better and not have anxiety as much or perhaps not at all!.
Till you come to this realization, when you feel anxious and get social anxiety !.!.!.tell yourself right then and there that these thoughts are of no benefit to your wellbeing and you are not going to let this anxiety control you any longer and stop you from doing what you know you want to do!.!.!.you must refuse to let the anxious feelings controll you any longer!. Take a couple of slow deep breathes and go for it!.
one more thing!.!.!.get you ged!!!!! Please!Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's either you get out there to get that job and have a life, or don't and be a bum forever!. Take your pick!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
so your gonna be a bum the rest of your life!.!.!.thats niceWww@Answer-Health@Com
ALL RIGHT BUDDY, let's get you back on track! before you get REAL help from people here on yahoo!, i'd like to tell you, you need something to help you control that fear! now, i'm not overly religious, but i find it helps me when i find a short, repeatable verse, which you could make up yourself, that you can repeat to yourself whenever you feel the fear! mine is "my god is my all" and i just repeat that everytime i think about my fear, which sometimes left me paralyzed for a few seconds!.!.!.
also, try getting a small, soft object you could put in your pocket, and when you get anxious, just take it out and squeeze it a little! these techniques are easy, subtle, and effective! so calm down, and GO GET THAT JOB!!! We here at yahoo will wish you luck!(most of us anyways -!.-) so GOOD LUCK!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
also, try getting a small, soft object you could put in your pocket, and when you get anxious, just take it out and squeeze it a little! these techniques are easy, subtle, and effective! so calm down, and GO GET THAT JOB!!! We here at yahoo will wish you luck!(most of us anyways -!.-) so GOOD LUCK!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to build your confidence and celebrate your achievements, no matter how big or small!. Also, it's time to grow up and realize that you need to take on some responsibility and accountability for your own actions!. Start exercising!. Find some simple work somewhere!. Discipline yourself and start adhering to a schedule, whether it's for a job or just sleeping at proper times!.
You'll find that many things in life are in fact not difficult to accomplish, depending on how you define difficult!. If you define it as getting off a couch to do something then you need to make some personal changes!. However, if you define difficult as not knowing which path to follow to accomplish something, then you're on the right path!.
You know what you need to do, so the hard part is already done!. Get out and do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You'll find that many things in life are in fact not difficult to accomplish, depending on how you define difficult!. If you define it as getting off a couch to do something then you need to make some personal changes!. However, if you define difficult as not knowing which path to follow to accomplish something, then you're on the right path!.
You know what you need to do, so the hard part is already done!. Get out and do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Man, its going to be tough if you focus all your thought on that mustang!. Just find work first!. First thing you should do is to listen to these comments above me!. Im not here to give you another answer these guys above are supporting you great and hope you understand how things are rather than just Wanting this and wanting that!.
Goodluck
- KRWww@Answer-Health@Com
Goodluck
- KRWww@Answer-Health@Com
First, congratulations on improving the social anxiety situation! :D
Second, try explaining to your mother that you are REALLY REALLY SHY, like to the point you feel SICK and CRY every time you go out in public!. That is basically social anxiety anyway :P
Third, think up answers to those questions that might scare you beforehand =] eg they ask "what do you like to do in your spare time" and you might say "I love working in the yard, looking after the gardens, stuff like that"
HOWEVER, you don't have to worry about the interviews yet, you haven't got to that stage =] Www@Answer-Health@Com
Second, try explaining to your mother that you are REALLY REALLY SHY, like to the point you feel SICK and CRY every time you go out in public!. That is basically social anxiety anyway :P
Third, think up answers to those questions that might scare you beforehand =] eg they ask "what do you like to do in your spare time" and you might say "I love working in the yard, looking after the gardens, stuff like that"
HOWEVER, you don't have to worry about the interviews yet, you haven't got to that stage =] Www@Answer-Health@Com
Not to be mean, but I think you just have crazy low self esteem, based on the fact that you said you felt better when you lost weight!. Which might have lead to a little anxiety disorder!. I think you should go to a general practioner and see what they think!. They will give you a little questionnaire which will determine if your anxiety should be treated!. They will more than likely give you some drugs for it!. Which is a good thing don't let it get you down more!. I think you will eventually be okay!. As for the job interview thing, don't get too worried and psych yourself out!. Everyone feels a little anxious going to them!. The questions arent really that bad, especially if your going to get into a department store!. Im working at one for extra cash while im in college right now!. They basically just want to make sure that you are competent and reliable!. I hope things work out for you and stuff gets better!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com