Is this the right way to help me?!
Question: Is this the right way to help me!?
Hi
I have borderline personality and depression and the past while has been really awful for me!. I had a key worker that I really got on with and without warning they stopped our contact and replaced her with someone else, they said I was too attached to her!. They are now making me out to be a criminal saying I lost her from my own behaviour (ringing when I needed help)!. Now my psychiatrist has decided the best way to help me it to basically push me away, limit my contact and stop me from having much contact with anyone, basically not helping me because they feel!.!.!.!. because I am young I shouldnt need mental health help really and that if they stop seeing me I will forget I need help and somehow forget about my problems and feel better!.!.!.!.!.like does this sound right!? To me it leaves me feeling more alone and isolated!.
I understand they ar worried about dependancy but they have really hurt me!.
any thoughts on this!?
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I have borderline personality and depression and the past while has been really awful for me!. I had a key worker that I really got on with and without warning they stopped our contact and replaced her with someone else, they said I was too attached to her!. They are now making me out to be a criminal saying I lost her from my own behaviour (ringing when I needed help)!. Now my psychiatrist has decided the best way to help me it to basically push me away, limit my contact and stop me from having much contact with anyone, basically not helping me because they feel!.!.!.!. because I am young I shouldnt need mental health help really and that if they stop seeing me I will forget I need help and somehow forget about my problems and feel better!.!.!.!.!.like does this sound right!? To me it leaves me feeling more alone and isolated!.
I understand they ar worried about dependancy but they have really hurt me!.
any thoughts on this!?
thanksWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
most of them don't understand, they only have text book knowledge and not the experience, you cant forget about BPD its horrible and pushing you away wont help, you need to get on there backs about this and make it clear you are NOT dependent on them as a person but dependent on the help they should be giving you, there are certain trust issues for us so i don't see the point in building it up just to be moved on to someone else, they are not in the right to do this, try to stay strong i know its easier said then done but make it clear with the next one that you a reliant on the help and don't want to be dropped again
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borderline personality disorder is not classed as a mentall illness it is a personality trait, so there isn't much a psychiatrist can do for that, he should help with your depression though!. a psychotherapist might be able to help with both so maybe you could try one of them!! Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like you were to reliant on them, and not thinking or doing things for your self!. You must learn to be independent and not to rely on other people to be there 24 hours of the day!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi hun!.
Unfortunately the system stinks sometimes and it really gets on my nerves when there are people such as yourself who just need that extra bit of support!.
I have been in the mental health field for a number of years and I can hear what they are saying when it comes to dependency and attachment but there is no middle ground and that is the main problem!.
You don't mention your age!? There are lots out there to give support but it all depends on what age you are!. If you are school age you should have a working mentor at school that can then identify support networks within chosen college or career advice or voluntary organisations!. this may suit better as these workers are not so thinly spread as social services!.
I think that you should now focus on moving forward and tapping into other possible avenues!. I understand that they have not treated you with the respect you deserve but there is no use dwelling on it now!.
You have to concentrate an what is next for you in a positive way!.
I really wish you all the best
Take care and good luck xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Unfortunately the system stinks sometimes and it really gets on my nerves when there are people such as yourself who just need that extra bit of support!.
I have been in the mental health field for a number of years and I can hear what they are saying when it comes to dependency and attachment but there is no middle ground and that is the main problem!.
You don't mention your age!? There are lots out there to give support but it all depends on what age you are!. If you are school age you should have a working mentor at school that can then identify support networks within chosen college or career advice or voluntary organisations!. this may suit better as these workers are not so thinly spread as social services!.
I think that you should now focus on moving forward and tapping into other possible avenues!. I understand that they have not treated you with the respect you deserve but there is no use dwelling on it now!.
You have to concentrate an what is next for you in a positive way!.
I really wish you all the best
Take care and good luck xWww@Answer-Health@Com
How old are you, how often were you calling this person, and why can you not rely on your parents and/or family!? We are not capable of offering true sound advice, because we do not have all of the details of your case!. Based on the little bit you have told us (And keeping in mind that persons with mental illness always see things just from their perspective, so their reports lack a certain amount of reality) I would not have tried this approach!. I would have created a treatment plan, involving you in the process, where specific limits were set!. For example, for 1 month you had a limit of calling your case worker twice a week, and if you violated that limit, she would not handle your case any longer!. This would have forced you to learn to prioritize!. You would be wanting to call her, but would be able to figure out that this particular moment was not that bad and so you should save your calls for something that might be harder to deal with!. This would teach you to handle your own life on a small scale, thus weakening the dependence on her, plus give her some breathing space!. I know it's hard, but one needs to realize that these workers have hundreds of cases!. You are not the only one!. And her time needs to be distributed on a semi even basis!. She is also entitled to a life of her own!. If she is dealing with you 24/7!. her other clients suffer, and she quickly learns to hate her job!. If she is so great that you are dependent on her, you don't want to chase her out of this profession!. After a month, you decrease the limit to once a week, and so on!. I know you feel isolated!. They aren't refusing you help because you are young!. They are doing what they feel is professionally right to help you reach the point of independence!. You are looking at this from your viewpoint!. They are looking at it from everyone's viewpoint!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
to me; i think u've got on their nerves!Esp!.d physchatris!. but don't be overstress by their negligence!. I advises u to get another physchatrics bcoz to me he/she isn't helpful in any way to your problems! Guess your company fired your girl is bcoz u've grown to attached to her! if i am on the right track is that they think that both of u is/are a couple of lesbian to them which typical company didn't like that thing going on inside their company nowadays! U should have notices lately there's still status discrimination here in the States,no matter where u go! Take care n good luck!
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Modern day thinking on mental illness in the national health is one of cost and statistics I am afraid !.!. Mental illness is a long term program that is eating away at their budgets !.!. hence the closeure of so many of our Hospitals for the mentaly unstable and the introduction of the care in the community program !. I doesn't work that they should realise by now !.!. In your case it sounds as if they believe that you are either a problem they can't or wont handle !. Take a look at the patients charter for your Hospital and look at the standard of Patient care promised !.!. highlight any parts governing mental health and go see your Doctor tell him that you need help and that if you dont get it you feel they are breaking the patients charter !.!. by law they have to investigate your case !.!.!. Dont get sad get even get justice it's your right as a British Citizen !.!.and good luck and I hope things get better for you !.!. Regards VortashWww@Answer-Health@Com