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Question: Mature ppl only: I've just left hosp!. after attempted suicide, what do i do now!?
I had enough Friday morning and took an overdose and slit my entire forearms, left and right!. I was taken to hospital, sorted out and have been arranged with councelling, therapy etc!. However, I attempted suicide before,and someone i look up to as my mum, told me if I did it again, then she wouldn't speak me anymore!. In the rush of hating myself etc, i didn't think of this whist killing myself, and I am now left in a massive rut!.
I literally cannot live wthout her support, and she won't talk to me anymore; it doesn't seem bad to someone who doesn't understand but i'm 17, live in my own flat, and am having allsorts of troubles!. As she was the one that showed me things that are as near to a normal family life as possible, i really do see her as my mum!.
I don't know how to get her back; i've said sorry, i just can't find the words properly!. I want to talk to her, but I don't know just how much to show how i need her!.
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What country are you in hun!? I really feel for you right now and want to give you a big hug!. (((Have a Virtual one from England)))!. This person should be supporting you no matter what and shouldn't have given you an ultimatum like this!. She should be helping you!. Do you have any family/friends nearby!? I couldn't go out after i attempted in 2000 so i know a bit how you feel right now!.

If you feel at a threat, ring up the samaritans or don't be afraid to talk to your doctor!. Don't be on your own and don't bottle up your feelings!. I know it's easier said than done, as i've been through depression myself but not cutting!. I would never succeed in that!.

You may want to join this site that i'm a member of; http://www!.socialvibe!.com/!?r=284680 as there are people who have been through what you have!. You will be inspired to change your ways and change your thinking when you speak to others!. Talk to people on the forums and it will really help you!. I believe it will help you so that you can share your thoughts and fears with like-minded people and not bottle up your feelings, and have others to talk to!.


God bless you

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suicide is very selfish,think what you do to the ones left behind to hurt and be in misery over your death,they would be hurting just as bad as you and you wouldn't want all those who care for you to do the same as you,so get some help and over come your problem all things can be fixed and helped without harming yourself and others,death is pennant you can't come back!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Maybe emotionally she can't support you anymore!. It must have a huge emotional strain on a person to see someone who they dearly care about put themselves through that of there own choice!. You may need to give her time and space!. I know she is your life support right now but sh obviously isn't ina position to offer you that support that you need!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

i no what its like to have depresion and no body around to talk to!. write a letter of apolagy to your mum and hope for her to forgive you!. also find a hoby like colecting somthing or building stuff!. that will take your mind of things!. get rid of anything sharp in your house so you cant selfharm!. hope this helps!. also spend time doing stuff like the internet to take up as mutch spare time as you can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

she loves you but it must be heartbreaking for her to go through the hell of waking up each morning not knowing if the phone will ring telling her that her daughter has killed herself and she feels she can't cope anymore, give her time and keep trying to contact her and I am sure that after the shook of your latest suicide bid wears off she will forgive youWww@Answer-Health@Com

You have to understand the way shes feeling thing in her point of view!. She is hurt ofcourse!. You are willing to kill yourself and leave her thats why she is upset with you at the moment but if she is truly like a mother to you she wouldnt not be able to not speak with you for long!. She will come back to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your friend will come round but you have to think about the pain and distress you keep putting her through!.You must use the help that has been offered you and resolve not to EVER try to top yourself again!.You are only 17 and have your whole life ahead of you,and that's what upsets your friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If she really cares about you, she'll come around!. She's probably just angry at seeing you throwing your life away and hurt that, despite everything she did for you, you still tried to kill yourself!. Like I said, if she's a true friend, she'll come around!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Look in the real world!.
Decode this lyrics " I will survive"
Luke 21!.30-33
"Stand by me"
Luke 9!.41
'If you don't know me by now"
Luke 6!.39-40,41-45,46-49
"Knowing me knowing you"
Matt 22!.17-21,32
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its ok i left the hospitol a few years ago and took one step at a time!. first though you have to KNOW what the first step is in your mind!. sorry for the first answer you got!. a real prick!. mail me if you need helpWww@Answer-Health@Com

get a job and email me Www@Answer-Health@Com

im sorry for your problems and how you feel but what do you want from this woman, why should she in vest her time and friendship in you when you don't even think your worth it, have you ever stopped to think how it must be for someone to have to sit and watch you destroy your self, maybe she just can't take it maybe she is swimming to shore her self and is willing to swim with you but can't carry you!.
you must of promised her you would not try to kill your self again but you did now you have lost her it seems harsh but its called lifeWww@Answer-Health@Com

Loving someone who attempts suicide is one of the hardest things to go through and some people can't deal with it, but it's because she loves you so much!. There is help out there, not all of it great so if you don't find one therapy working don't despair, try another!. It took my brother 5 or 6 doctors before he found one that got his life back on track!. You are also only 17 and living in a flat which must put alot of pressure on you, but things will get better and if you seek the help, you'll start finding the things you love in life again!. Your mums finding it hard to cope with this and its neither of your faults but I promise you she'll come around, and when you are feeling better in yourself all your relationships will improve!. Two main things helped my brother back on track, first a book called 'Feeling good' written by David D Burns and also a relaxation therapy he would do 2 or 3 times a day!. This sounds weird and may not work at first but give it a chance!. Put some calming music on, lie down and get comfy, put your right hand on your stomach and breath from it so you feel your hand rising and falling, relax every part of you from head to toe, and slowly slow your breathing down to the point where you're hardly breathing (this should feel uncomfortable at first and then gets easier) and just let thoughts freely go through your mind knowing that you have complete control the whole time!.This basically reduces oxygen levels and calms the nervous system!. I wish you success with the help and remember you definatley not alone with this and you can always pick up a phone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

She loves you, but she doesn't want to show you!. She is probably just upset at the fact you attempted suicide and your ONLY 17!. Yeah, people do that!. But, is it because of depression!? I mean, first you just need to find out what is making you do this!. Next, you need to stop what your doing!. I am not being a mean person and saying that you need to get a f***ing life!. I am NOT that type of person!. People do this!. and it is their life and choice!. I am just saying, live life at the fullest!. Live a life, and have fun!. Don't waste time attempting suicide!. Go to therapy etc!. They will help you!. Last, you need to tell your mum all the things that have happened in your life!. Tell her problems that you have had in the past, and problems that are going on right now in your life!. Maybe, she will start realizing the things that she missed out while this has happened, say sorry like a million times, and maybe she will start helping out!. But, at this point, see if doctors will help you!. Just tell people about the problems in your life!. Tell people about your life, and they will probably help out!. Right now, just stop what your doing, live life, and get as much help as you possibly can!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i understand were u r cuming from, i self harmed,ran away took overdoses, drank myself silly, but i got to a stage were i saw none of it actually helped!. im young myself but i imagined what it would be like if any1 close to me killed themselves and it sort of snapped me back but also my closest friend tried to kill herself, and that was the final thing that stopped me becuase i could actually see what the people around me would feel like!. i sometimes get really despressed over little things and lock myself in a room alone and cry!. i feel like cutting myself again but i look down at my scars and think of my friend who almost left me!.

Try and keep yourself preoccupied thinking of little things to look forward to, keep intouch with your mum and keep reensurring her that you are going to be ok!.!.in time she will realise you can both get through it together!.!.

keep strong and dont let anything get you down
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I can relate to what you are going through, and I know what its like!.
I attempted suicide a month after I graduated high school, a week before my party!. I took an overdose of Aspirin and the way I told my parents was at 3am i called the suicide hotline, i had taken the meds at 12am and they had really kicked in and i got scared!. I knew i didn't want to die and had no idea what drove me to take the pills!. So i called them and told them what was going on, physically at the time, and asked them if i was goign to die!. They said if i didn't get to the hospital, i would!. So i went in and woke up my mom and handed her the phone and told her i need to go to the er!. The operator told her what happened and then they took me in!. I had disappointed so many people, and it was the hardest thing to go through!. My friends and family were so mad, but not at me!. They were mad that they didn't see this, and that they couldn't help me!.
So what I am goign to say to you, is that this woman who you are close to is probably really scared!. She doesn't hate you, she just doesn't want to see you hurting and its obvious that she realized that she can't help you, so her way to cope is to shut you out!. The sad thing is, this is when you need her the most!. What i think you shoudl do is go talk to her in person, not over the phone!. Tell her that you need her, tell her that you can't get well without her!. but you also have to realize that if you keep doing this, she won't be there!. there is only so much people can take and you have to make sure that if you truly need this person that you need to make it your mission to fight this, you have to push through this and get the help you need!. She will only be there if you are goign to be there for yourself!. I wish you the best and hope things start looking up!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

When people are very depressed-which you must have been-they usually do not thing of what happens if they fail to complete the task!.
Many times people struggle with people that are suicidal!. they feel like they should be able to "snap out of it" and get on with life!. The suicidal depressed persons brain does not work like that!. There is ofter a serious chemical imbalance that must be corrected by medications!. I would hope that doctors placed you on appropriate medications!.
You know how they say actions speak louder than words-well perhaps this person needs to see that you are really ready to put forth your best effort!. Obviously you have a computer so look up and print out some info on depression and along with a letter explaining your feelings send it to her!. Maybe she needs some time to see that you are working on your issues!.
In the meantime if you would need extra support feel free to read my profile and if I can help, email me!. God Bless ReggieWww@Answer-Health@Com

What had you had enough of!? Why was it so bad that you couldn't contact her and how did you get to the hospital!? If you had presence of mind to do that perhaps next time if feels too much you could call her, post on a forum, ring a helpline, write poetry or whatever works for you!. If you don't know then start to find out!. You could tell her in a letter what you are doing!.

Perhaps she is cutting off form you because it causes her pain that you would do such a thing to yourself and hoped that it would stop you doing it again!. Perhaps you need to rely more on your counsellor to help you to sort yourself out more and they are professionally trained and at least have a designed support network to help them deal with supporting you unlike this lady!.

Perhaps you need to give her a little time as she will be hurting from your actions, perhaps she said she wouldn't talk to you if you did it again knowing that you need her and she hoped it would discourage you from taking such actions!.

Perhaps you did it and then saved your self from doing to make your life even harder for yourself!. Noone except you will ever know and with the therapy hopeful you will find out better ways to cope and sort out your issues enough not to be so unkind and hard on yourself!.

Perhaps telling her what you are doing to make sure you never to it again will encourage her to communicate with you!. How would you feel if you were her!? Sad, hurt, frustrated!? Hoepfully efforts for yourself and her will bring things around!.

Truly, my best wishes
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Dear, if you need anyone to talk to, then contact me!. I know that you may question, that why should I share my problems with a stranger, but trust me, its easier to tell someone about your problems, that you don't know, then some you know!.

Now, with regards to your aunt, just keep on apologising to her, she will give in, as she loves you!.

Finally - please do not try at commit suicide again, life becomes a challenge at time - you should learn to accept it, and face it!. Do not give in to challenges of life in such a way!.!.!.!.

Take Care of yourself!.!.!.
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Hiya, first of all i want to tell you that you won't accomplish anything by commiting suicide!. You'll only hurt the people around you even more!.
No matter how bad life is you got to rise up accept it, and overcome the situation!.
You have to make it up to your mum, and show her your recovering!. There's no point in just saying sorry to her, she's got to see the change in you!. See it from her point of view, she doesn't want to see her daughter get hurt so she's locking herself out to block her feelings!.
Carry on with counselling, and invite your mum to go with you if your allowed to!.
If you have trouble facing her and speaking to her face to face, write a letter and give it to her!.

Here's something i read somewhere once, it may or may not help:

There was a lecture where a man stood at the front, with all eyes on him!. He took out a crispy new



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