I think something might be wrong with her...?!
Question: I think something might be wrong with her!.!.!.!?
(sorrry its such an essay!. please read it!)
one of my friends is!.!.!. really starting to scare me!.
we all met her this year, she arrived from a different school!. at first she hung around with some really popular, pretty, but horribly bitchy girls!. she always seemed really quiet, but everyone thought she was just shy!. Shes really pretty but doesnt seem to know it!.!.!. guys at this school really like her, but apparently at her last school she was considered a freak!. She;s only ever mentioned one guy from before in a romantic sense!.!.!. and she said saying yes to him was the worst thing she ever did, and i know she hates talking about it, but he treated her really badly from what we can tell!.
One of her best friends died earlier in the year (in about term 2 when she was starting to become really good friends with us!. She didnt really say anything about it, just that she wouldnt be at chorale because she had to go to a funeral!. the way she talked about it at first, we thought it was just a relative!. Then in our science final exam (before she left for the funeral), she sat there staring at the wall for the 2 hours, and someone walked up to her and asked "how was your exam", and she just shook her head and sobbed and ran off apparently!.
Then i came up to student services to get a uniform pass, and noticed her school bag lying on the ground!.!.!. i walked round and saw her leaning on the wall on the coffee machine with tears rolling down her face,crying so hard she couldnt breathe!. She stayed like that for about half an hour, then got picked up!. when told her mum was coming, she dried her eyes, put her jumper on, and acted like nothing was wrong!.
the next day, she acted like nothing had happened, and she never mentioned it again!.
She's been thin since she got to the school!.!.!. a guy thats known her since year 5, says she was always skinny, but she looks a bit too thin!. i know from health that her BMI is 18!.7, and she stil thinks she's fat!. She doesnt eat lunch, (she either keeps the lunch money or throws out the food) but she drinks a coffee from school at lunch most days!. whenever we talk about anorexia, obesity or BMI in class, she looks really uncomfortable!.!.!. the same happened when we talked about mental illness in health!. ive noticed faint scratches on her arms, (but she always blames her dogs) and she never wears bathers or lets people see the top of her right leg, which makes me think she might be cutting herself!.
she's so quiet lately, and sometimes she;ll be so happy and then on emails and stuff she'll be so down!.!.!.
also theres this guy who she really likes but its killing her!.!.!. they're friends, but no more, plus his girlfriend is semi-friends with her!. and HIS best friend, who happens to good friends with her as well, likes her!. (her being the girl im worried about)!. so many guys have liked her this year (shes tall blonde, blue eyes, really unique looking), but shes never believed us, and she honestly doesnt see why anyone would like her!.
we email every day, and she's sent some worrying emails, like yesterday "dont ruin my moment!.!.!. first day in over 6 weeks i havnt cried! done ur sose hwork!?"
she just put it in randomly like it was no big deal!.!.!.
and then a few weeks ago, she out of the blue sent
"i think i might have depression"
then i sent this huge thing, and a bit later she just said to forget about it, and that her mother "doesnt need another suicidal freak in the house"!. she just totally brushed it off and then never mentioned it again!. all i know about that is that she doesnt talk to her brother (he lives with her, she just refuses to talk to him and never talks about him AT ALL) and so was that her saying shes suicidal!?
she occasionally has major email freak outs, and she gets really upset easily!.!.!. like she keeps saying that she always feels like crying for no reason!.
what do i do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
one of my friends is!.!.!. really starting to scare me!.
we all met her this year, she arrived from a different school!. at first she hung around with some really popular, pretty, but horribly bitchy girls!. she always seemed really quiet, but everyone thought she was just shy!. Shes really pretty but doesnt seem to know it!.!.!. guys at this school really like her, but apparently at her last school she was considered a freak!. She;s only ever mentioned one guy from before in a romantic sense!.!.!. and she said saying yes to him was the worst thing she ever did, and i know she hates talking about it, but he treated her really badly from what we can tell!.
One of her best friends died earlier in the year (in about term 2 when she was starting to become really good friends with us!. She didnt really say anything about it, just that she wouldnt be at chorale because she had to go to a funeral!. the way she talked about it at first, we thought it was just a relative!. Then in our science final exam (before she left for the funeral), she sat there staring at the wall for the 2 hours, and someone walked up to her and asked "how was your exam", and she just shook her head and sobbed and ran off apparently!.
Then i came up to student services to get a uniform pass, and noticed her school bag lying on the ground!.!.!. i walked round and saw her leaning on the wall on the coffee machine with tears rolling down her face,crying so hard she couldnt breathe!. She stayed like that for about half an hour, then got picked up!. when told her mum was coming, she dried her eyes, put her jumper on, and acted like nothing was wrong!.
the next day, she acted like nothing had happened, and she never mentioned it again!.
She's been thin since she got to the school!.!.!. a guy thats known her since year 5, says she was always skinny, but she looks a bit too thin!. i know from health that her BMI is 18!.7, and she stil thinks she's fat!. She doesnt eat lunch, (she either keeps the lunch money or throws out the food) but she drinks a coffee from school at lunch most days!. whenever we talk about anorexia, obesity or BMI in class, she looks really uncomfortable!.!.!. the same happened when we talked about mental illness in health!. ive noticed faint scratches on her arms, (but she always blames her dogs) and she never wears bathers or lets people see the top of her right leg, which makes me think she might be cutting herself!.
she's so quiet lately, and sometimes she;ll be so happy and then on emails and stuff she'll be so down!.!.!.
also theres this guy who she really likes but its killing her!.!.!. they're friends, but no more, plus his girlfriend is semi-friends with her!. and HIS best friend, who happens to good friends with her as well, likes her!. (her being the girl im worried about)!. so many guys have liked her this year (shes tall blonde, blue eyes, really unique looking), but shes never believed us, and she honestly doesnt see why anyone would like her!.
we email every day, and she's sent some worrying emails, like yesterday "dont ruin my moment!.!.!. first day in over 6 weeks i havnt cried! done ur sose hwork!?"
she just put it in randomly like it was no big deal!.!.!.
and then a few weeks ago, she out of the blue sent
"i think i might have depression"
then i sent this huge thing, and a bit later she just said to forget about it, and that her mother "doesnt need another suicidal freak in the house"!. she just totally brushed it off and then never mentioned it again!. all i know about that is that she doesnt talk to her brother (he lives with her, she just refuses to talk to him and never talks about him AT ALL) and so was that her saying shes suicidal!?
she occasionally has major email freak outs, and she gets really upset easily!.!.!. like she keeps saying that she always feels like crying for no reason!.
what do i do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I know you don't want to talk to a counselor, but I think a school counselor is your best bet at this point to get her help!. When you talk to the counselor, you can always request that your name not be mentioned and that your meeting be kept strictly confidential!. The counselor could easily say that he/she has been noticing some odd things going on with your friend that she'd like to speak with her about it!. You never know, your friend may jump at the chance to finally speak out about what she's feeling!.
Your friend may not want to talk about what she's feeling with her friends because she may think that you guys will alienate her or stop hanging out with her or something!. The counselor is someone she can trust to keep the things she tells her just between her and your friend, and it may be exactly what she needs!.
Your friend absolutely has some issues that need to be dealt with before they get any worse!.
Good luck to both of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your friend may not want to talk about what she's feeling with her friends because she may think that you guys will alienate her or stop hanging out with her or something!. The counselor is someone she can trust to keep the things she tells her just between her and your friend, and it may be exactly what she needs!.
Your friend absolutely has some issues that need to be dealt with before they get any worse!.
Good luck to both of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Go to the counselor at your school!. Tell her about the situation as detailed as possible, the counselor will know how to handle it!. Just like you explained it here, explain it to the counselor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You use this section !. Why wouldn't you ask her to try it!. Going to the pills and shrinks is a hard road for most!. The others never get out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you sound like you know what your talking about!. So fallow you instincts!. she does sound depressed but the bad kind Www@Answer-Health@Com
sounds as if something is going on, try a school counselorWww@Answer-Health@Com