What are the psychological reasons for not wanting to let people in emotionally?!


Question: What are the psychological reasons for not wanting to let people in emotionally!? (10 points)!?
I really hate discussing my feelings with people, even those who are "close" to me!. In fact, I don't even like talking about myself in general to others!. Those who are close to me don't even know me very well!. I feel a lot more comfortable just keeping things to myself and I'm VERY hesitant (and almost unable) to make myself vulnerable to others!. I know there's a handful of people who are also "closed up" but I was wondering what the psychological reasons or fuctions for this would be!? I know it is often because of traumatic experiences in one's childhood or a lack of confidence, but what about those who are comfortable with themselves haven't had anything majorly traumatizing in their lives!? Is it just a character trait!? A developed mindset or decision!?
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it could be a biological chemical imbalance

maybe youre an introvert or have schizoid personality disorder

i mean those two temperaments are comfortable within themselves but when you add people its just too muchWww@Answer-Health@Com

Well, I'm the same way but I do have a bad family life!.

A first could be that you don't want to seem vulnerable to others, or expose yourself too much because of fear of betrayal!.

Also, a chemical imbalance may be the cause of this, but it's not serious at all and you would probably have other "symptoms" (if you could call them that) along with it!.

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Maybe it is just that you are a private person and accept your self so not needing others to make you feel your okay~~So in my opinion~ it is a character trait ~ At least that is what I have always believed was the reason for my being the same ~~ Joy in being You~~Www@Answer-Health@Com

i'm glad to hear you had a good childhood!. Are others in your family like you in that they don't like discussing their feelings!? Or do you feel unique in this way!? I think most people feel alienated from others on some level; it may be part of the human condition!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well!.!.!. you can just have a personality disorder, like schizotypal or antisocial!. maybe borderline!.

Since you said you have a stable family life, it throws out defense mechanisms because of a ****** up childhood!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

maybe it's because you don't want people prying into your life or you just have very personal things that you want to keep to yourself, like me!. i think if your comfortable with yourself it's just a mind set some people have!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

are you scared of being rejected!? maybe you keep things in because your scared of what other might think!? but that's just a guessWww@Answer-Health@Com

Perhaps there is an underlying fear of rejection, judgments, or maybe just no desire for people to be that close to you!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I'm puzzled that you say you're very comfortable with yourself - but are apparently bothered by how difficult you find it to open up!. If you do feel comfortable being exactly how you are, then there isn't an issue - you're not obliged to talk to people about your feelings if you don't want to!.

But my hunch is (forgive me if I'm wrong) that actually you DON'T feel quite so 100% positive about yourself as you want (us) to believe!. Usually, people who don't like to open up to others, who find it hard to make themselves vulnerable to others, who can't really get close to other people - usually, such people are concerned about how others might react to them if they were to get an idea of who they 'really' are!. There doesn't have to be anything majorly traumatising!. It's much more often about a number of individually small, even apparently trivial, things that have happened in one's growing up - not big stuff, just a little undercurrent about eg having to be a certain way to be regarded as 'good' and 'lovable'!. It's not because our parents are bad or abusive - it's just that parents often don't totally understand their child because they have their own stuff going on, and communicate things (indirectly) that lead the child, with her/his limited understandings, to feel they must be a certain way and yet they know they're not!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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