Fear of mothers insensitivity at Christmas and my anxiety?!

I don't get on with my mother and limit my time with her!. She has a lot of issues from her past and has never dealt with them!. It is impossible and I mean impossible to talk to her about them now (long story)!. She is a bit of a bully and very rude and does not listen or respect others wishes!. Anyway, Christmas is going to be held at her place this year!. My sisters tolerate her behavior for the sake of their kids, whom she is really good to!. I am child free and am not bound by this!. Anyway, I suffer from the heat very badly and have had heat exhaustion in the past!. On really hot days I need to stay inside in air conditioning!. My fear is that if Christmas day is really hot, she will not let me put on the air conditioning inside!. She thinks it is expensive to run and even if I offered to pay for it on she would "rubbish" me and say nasty things teasing me!. Yes, she does this!. She is a cow sometimes!. This is why I don't see her often!. I don't tell her about my condition because she sees it as a point of shame and would bring it up all the time and tell all her friends and neighbours!. She does this yes!. What would you say to someone like this if they treated you this way!? By the way I am in my early 40's and have tried to talk to her in the past until I realised that only made me upset and theerfore limit my time with her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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